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What is Codependence? video

CoDA World Service has produced a video to educate the public on what codependency is and to be of service to the codependent who still suffers.

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Patterns and Characteristics of Co-Dependency

These patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation.
They may be particularly helpful to newcomers.

Denial Patterns:

I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel.
I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others.
I lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
I label others with my negative traits.
I can take care of myself without any help from others.
I mask my pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.
I express negativity or aggression in indirect and passive ways.
I do not recognize the unavailability of those people to whom I am attracted.

Low Self Esteem Patterns:

I have difficulty making decisions.
I judge what I think, say, or do harshly, as never good enough.
I am embarrassed to receive recognition, praise, or gifts.
I value others’ approval of my thinking, feelings, and behavior over my own.
I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.
I constantly seek recognition that I think I deserve.
I have difficulty admitting that I made a mistake.
I need to appear to be right in the eyes of others and will even lie to look good.
I am unable to ask others to meet my needs or desires.
I perceive myself as superior to others.
I look to others to provide my sense of safety.
I have difficulty getting started, meeting deadlines, and completing projects.
I have trouble setting healthy priorities.

Compliance Patterns:

I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or anger.
I put aside my own interests in order to do what others want.
I am hypervigilant regarding the feelings of others and take on those feelings.
I am afraid to express my beliefs, opinions, and feelings when they differ from those of others.
I accept sexual attention when I want love.
I make decisions without regard to the consequences.
I give up my truth to gain the approval of others or to avoid change.

Control Patterns:

I believe most people are incapable of taking care of themselves.
I attempt to convince others what to think, do, or feel.
I freely offer advice and direction to others without being asked.
I become resentful when others decline my help or reject my advice.
I lavish gifts and favors on those I want to influence.
I use sexual attention to gain approval and acceptance.
I have to be needed in order to have a relationship with others.
I demand that my needs be met by others.
I use charm and charisma to convince others of my capacity to be caring and compassionate.
I use blame and shame to emotionally exploit others.
I refuse to cooperate, compromise, or negotiate.
I adopt an attitude of indifference, helplessness, authority, or rage to manipulate outcomes.
I use terms of recovery in an attempt to control the behavior of others.
I pretend to agree with others to get what I want.

Avoidance Patterns:

I act in ways that invite others to reject, shame, or express anger toward me.
I judge harshly what others think, say, or do.
I avoid emotional, physical, or sexual intimacy as a means of maintaining distance.
I allow my addictions to people, places, and things to distract me from achieving intimacy in relationships.
I use indirect and evasive communication to avoid conflict or confrontation.
I diminish my capacity to have healthy relationships by declining to use all the tools of recovery.
I suppress my feelings or needs to avoid feeling vulnerable.
I pull people toward me, but when they get close, I push them away.
I refuse to give up my self-will to avoid surrendering to a power that is greater than myself.
I believe displays of emotion are a sign of weakness.
I withhold expressions of appreciation.

The Patterns and Characteristics of Codependency may not be reprinted or republished without the express written consent of Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. This document may be reprinted from the website www.coda.org (CoDA) for use by members of the CoDA Fellowship.

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Am I Co-Dependent?

You may be wondering: ‘Am I Co-Dependent?’ ‘What is Co-Dependence?’ Many of us want precise definitions and diagnostic criteria before we will decide. At CoDA, we respectfully allow psychiatric and psychological professionals to provide these, but what we do offer from our own experience are characteristic attitudes and behaviour patterns that describe what our co-dependent histories have been like.

We believe that recovery begins with an honest self-diagnosis. We came to accept our inability to maintain healthy and nurturing relationships with ourselves and others. We began to recognise that the cause lay in long-standing destructive patterns of living. We have found these patterns to fall into four major categories: denial, low self-esteem, compliance and control. The checklist of patterns and characteristics is offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. It may be particularly helpful to newcomers as they begin to understand co-dependence. It may also aid those who have been in recovery for a while to determine what traits still need attention and transformation.

After completing this checklist we suggest that you continue attending CoDA meetings for several weeks. Listen to the similarities and not the differences. Search out members of the fellowship you believe you can trust and discuss your checklist answers with them. If you come to accept that you are, indeed, co-dependent, then you will be ready to begin the Twelve Steps of recovery, and to seek a sponsor to guide you through the process.

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The Preamble of Co-Dependents Anonymous

Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self. Living the programme allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own co-dependent behaviours.

We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our programme and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.

This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the programme of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realise a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives.

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5th February 2022 – NSC meeting

Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00

CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. 

The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.

NSC February Agenda

Please note there are several service positions currently available. please attend if you are interested in offering service.

Available service positions

Available service positions details are posted here.

Current positions include:

  • Treasurer
  • Meeting list coordinator
  • Web Service
  • Communications Service
  • Public Liability Insurance
  • GDPR Service
  • Bank Signatory

Submit Agenda Items

Please submit any agenda items to secretary@codauk.org using the following template. All items must be submitted by Friday 28th January 2022

Previous meeting minutes are published here.

How to join the meeting:

The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.

Join Zoom meeting 

Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688

Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592

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29th January – CoDA INTERGROUP NORTH REGION

We look forward to welcoming you on Saturday 29th January 2022 – ‘doors’ open from 1.45pm starting 2pm until 4pm/4.30pm

Meeting on Zoom:

ID: 932 8388 5330
Password: 715822

CoDA Intergroup North Region are holding our Quarterly Workshop Meeting on Saturday 29th January 2022 at 2pm until 4pm/4.30pm.

We welcome all CoDA Members and Newcomers in Our Region – from Birmingham right up to and including NW and NE England, and including Scotland, together with all Wales and Northern Ireland, to discuss or put forward any questions or problems or suggestions you might have regarding CoDA and we are hoping to plan further Workshops for our Region to aid and strengthen our CoDA recovery, including having weekend Retreats. We need your input so please join us.

We will also be reading and sharing on various CoDA Literature and there will be time for sharing.

We are also looking for support to keep our Intergroup relevant and helpful to serve the needs of all our members. No one is ‘in charge’ – we are all trusted servants willing to give what we have been freely given –
recovery from codependency.

Please join us – we need your support to continue carrying the message of CoDA recovery, experience, strength and hope to the still suffering codependent. All are welcome.

Again, we look forward to welcoming you on Saturday 29th January, 2022 – ‘doors’ open from 1.45pm starting 2pm until 4pm/4.30pm

ID: 932 8388 5330
Password: 715822

Contact for further information:
northregion@codauk.org or gilliancoda@gmail.com or 07792 236888

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NSC Meeting Minutes

Here you can find minutes from CoDA UK National Service Committee minutes documents to view and download.

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CoDA Service Conference 2021 Report

For the CSC held online over 27th to 30th July 2021

By Pete H

TL/DR

As I have ended up writing quite a long report and included a lot of detail, I figured a “Too Long… Didn’t Read” section for the majority of members who will benefit from an abridged set of information that can be shared with your homegroups.

Lots of great items were brought to the CSC and were passed. The highlights are:

Voting entities (like the UK) can now bring agenda items directly to the CSC.

Social media and modern platforms can be used for CoDA to carry the message, for meetings etc without breaching tradition 11. Clarification of the principle of anonymity in these modern times in a connected digital world.

A refocus on CoDA youth services. Looking to relaunch and reinvigorate CoDA youth/teen.

Update of Tradition 11 wording:

  • Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and all other public forms of communication.

New literature approved for publishing:

  • Newcomers’ handbook second edition – with loads of changes
  • Second edition of Making choices in recovery, positive affirmations for working on our shortcomings – loads of changes, essentially a complete re-write
  • Joy In the Journey, Recover with colour – a new ‘adult colouring book’
  • Codependency & Recovery, The Differences – well known one page document approved by CSC
  • Prayers for CoDA’s Twelve Traditions – set of 12 prayers approved
  • The Longer Serenity Pray – the prayer used widely in the UK approved by CSC (finally!)

And finally the CoDA Preamble has been agreed to be updated to replace “men and women” with “people”.

Who Am I?

I would like to start by thanking the members of CoDA UK for allowing me to provide service by acting as one of the UK representative delegates to the CoDA Service Conference (CSC) 2021. I would also like to express gratitude to my fellow candidate and alternate delegate Philip F and Cammie A.

The while event was online and to ease people in to aid the levelling of various experience and capability levels with the meeting technology and online meetings there were numerous rehearsals run. During the rehearsals we gathered together as candidates and went through a mock conscience item vote. These rehearsals were suitable imperfect helping us to not take ourselves too seriously.

Looking to the schedule and the content of the delegate pack (that can all still be downloaded from codependents.org) it seemed evident that there was almost certainly a lot of business that must have been trimmed down to squeeze as much in as possible. There were certainly quite a few items from the delegate pack that didn’t make it to discussion or vote. Just like our own UK service committee there is so much business to attend to and so little time.

The process that was followed to present and discuss issues was fast and efficient but was prone to running short on time as the proposer could take up much of their allotted schedule by repeating what was int eh delegate pack rather than hand the time over to questions or “pro’s and con’s”. as such time the first couple of days overran by over an hour each, which translated to wrapping things up around 2 am UK time.

Taking on my role as the UK delegate I feel I voted following the principles of the program, in particular, “does this come from a place of love, acceptance, and inclusion”, “does it help the codependent who still suffers”, “does it help to carry the message”, “will this help attraction to the program”.

A short introduction of myself as we may not have met previously. I am Pete and I am codependent. I have been in recovery for three years now having spent a year working the steps in another program prior to finding CoDA. I am fortunate enough to be working the program alongside my partner, gradually growing our dysfunctional relationship of 20+ years into something healthier one day at a time.

I have been grateful to provide service in various areas across CoDA in my time so far, including as the current web service person for the UK NSC. Service has allowed me to practice healthy patterns in safe spaces, helping me build the esteem to bring them into all areas of my life.

I believe that CoDA is a program for helping me to work through and heal the underlying problems in my life from childhood onwards, so they no longer control my present life. I hope that this universal acceptance, healing, and love show in my service and in the way I have represented the CoDA members of the UK in my voting at the CSC.

The Long Version…

For the next section of my report, I will provide a brief overview of the items that were discussed and voted on, how I voted, and the outcome. If you would like to read about each item in more detail, then the accompanying service items report document and the resources from the delegate pack available from https://www.codependents.org/CSC/2021/2021.htm are available.

The full motions report from the CSC passed motions from 2021 can be downloaded from here:

CSC Motions Day 1

Several of the agenda items were for text corrections or updates to literature. The weeks agenda started with a few of these. I have cut out motions raised around changes to breaks, timings, extensions of the day etc to just share the items that may be worth sharing with fellows and home groups.

I have prefaced my commentary with “VE:”

Motion/Issue: 21007

Move to correct the wording of the following sentence from Part 4, Section 2, Page 10 of the Fellowship Service Manual, Last Revision 2021-05-09.

VE: This seemed like a sensible amendment and a clarification of wording so I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21008

Move that the Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) Service Structure chart of the inverted pyramid revert to the chart used by CoDA from 2005-2016 as in Figure 1.

VE: there seemed to be a lot of confusion about different versions from different years that have been updated, lost, reverted, edited, etc in various places and formats. As we are not intended to be perfect but making progress it seemed that making a change this year was worthwhile and if those identifying alternatives that they felt were better then that could be brought next year. I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21009

Move that Voting Entities be granted the right to bring motions directly to CSC precisely as the CoDA Board of Trustees and World Standing Committees currently do.

VE: This is a most welcome change. Previously to bring an item to the CSC it had to be submitted to a CSC committee who would take it on and bring it to conference. This often meant that items didn’t get submitted in the first year and prevented items from being heard. With this passed then any voting entity, including the UK or a UK region, can bring an agenda item to future CSC. I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21010

correction: Page 8 Error – to change the comma after “Conference” to a period and change “the” to “The” to begin a new sentence.

VE: this seemed to be a simple typo error and I was mostly surprised items like this couldn’t be dealt with by a committee as a trusted servant responsibility. I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21011

Move that Motion 20023 be amended to encompass the following seven CoDA Foundational Documents: The CoDA Twelve Steps, the CoDA Twelve Traditions, the CoDA Twelve Service Concepts, the CoDA Twelve Promises, the CoDA Welcome, the Short Version of the CoDA Welcome, and the CoDA Preamble.

VE: This vote was quite contentious and during the statements section I made a representation stating that I felt that preventing any change from being implemented for two years, and to require an initial 66% and then a 75% affirmative vote (more than needed to pass this motion) to make any change to the wording in the defined documents, removes group autonomy, prevents the inclusive evolution of the fellowship in line with the growing understanding of the issues people face in life. Also, that this high bar would allow a small minority to block changes for inclusive wording. I voted against this motion, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21002

Chairs and visitors be given voice at convention. Includes everyone that is present will have voice. Not everyone present will have vote. YouTube viewers are just observers.

VE: This item moved to allow those that are attending the CSC as alternate, in other service capacity, as a committee member etc the opportunity to raise their hand to speak on agenda items whether they have a voting right or not. To me this provides opportunity to hear a wider array of experience, strength, and hope than just that of the registered voting delegates. I voted yes on this, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21004

Description: Accept the community solving problem as listed on the screen and adapted for virtual. Those in favour of pros is called first and a list is made from raised hands by the moderator. A list of cons will raise their hands and the moderator will write down the names in order. Moderator will then call the alternate views for discussion.

VE: This outlined the way the problem-solving approach to discussing items was to be used for this CSC (already nine motions in) as the approach hadn’t technically been approved for use in a virtual CSC. This process had been practiced during the rehearsals and had so far allowed discussion and airing of differing views and E-S-H on matters. I voted yes, and the motion passed.

CSC Motions Day 2

Beginning the second full day of the agenda.

Motion/Issue: 21016

Subject: All motions to take immediate effect unless otherwise stated.

VE: This item was quite important, especially considering the motion being passed on the first day so that any changes, amendments, or corrections to 7 CoDA documents would take two years to be implemented with successive votes of 2/3 and ¾ to pass. There were several proposed changes to some of the documents in later motions that would be immediately impacted if the change was immediate. The other option was that the changes would take effect at the close of the conference.

During discussion it was mentioned that the approach had always been for items to take effect as soon as they are passed. I was torn on this one as it seemed procedure had not changed, but also that again the precedent that a motion could be passed that would make another impossible simply by the order in which they are submitted or selected to be scheduled. I can’t recall how I voted on this item in the end, but it passed with a 2/3 majority.

Motion/Issue: 21018

Subject: Ratification of Board Motions 2020-2021.

VE: this motion was to approve/accept the motions and actions that the CoDA board had passed during the 2020-2021 period. The motions were all provided in the VE delegate pack which can still be viewed. There was quite a lot of business they had gone through, a lot of it general housekeeping as with many committees. I saw nothing in the motions that was problematic and voted yes, the motion passed.

Motion/Issue: 21019

Subject: Correct Preamble

Communications Committee moves that the preamble be changed as noted:

Proposed change: Co-Dependents Anonymous is an inclusive fellowship whose common purpose is to develop healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of selfdiscovery – learning to love the self.

VE: I was largely in favour of this, however, this item had been merged with about 3 committees submitting similar proposals to improve the preamble and not all the committees had been informed that their item had been merged into this, and were not consulted with decisions and changes around this. The communications committee that presented this item also refused crafting. This had also been voted on or discussed last year with the simple change of “men and women” to people and this specific change was being overlooked for a broader amendment. I also felt that this new wording didn’t really correct the repetition word salad that often sounds like gibberish when spoken aloud at meetings. If crafting had been accepted I would have proposed the following:

“co-dependents anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose and only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self.”

As it stood, I voted in favour of this as it had become the only option to improve the welcome with inclusive language. From my experience I know how simple language can turn something loving and caring into something frightening and traumatic. Being told I am wrong instead of that I did something wrong. As much as anything it brings to mind a wise quote “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better”. Progress not perfection, and progress is needed. This motion was defeated.

Motion/Issue: 21021

Subject: Accept QR Code for use in CoDA.

VE: A lot seemed to be made of accepting a QR code design to be included in literature and print outs etc. The link was proposed to just point to the coda.org website and carry not further data. There then seemed to be all manner of perfectionistic statements about artwork and different use cases and the general purpose seemed to get lost along the way. I was a bit surprised that this wouldn’t be something that could just be performed by a committee as a trusted servant activity and really doesn’t need to be made a complicated as it was being turned into. The proposer withdrew the motion to further investigate all the overly complicated “well, actually…” thrown at them.

Motion/Issue: 21022

Subject: Revise social media policy.

VE: This item, to my mind, was an important step forward for CoDA as a whole. The Fellowship Service Manual (FSM) and general CoDA guidance on the use of social media and technology platforms has long been based on a very restrictive and blinkered view of the traditions, especially tradition 11. As stated in the motion text, Tradition 11 speaks of maintaining anonymity when representing CoDA to outside entities. Members engaging with social media, going about their lives online are not representing CoDA. This motion clarifies many things.

  • Sharing our faces and full names (our identity) within a meeting, business meeting, or social media does not violate tradition 11.
  • Members are also not required to share their face or identity within a CoDA meeting. It is personal choice.
  • Outreach, meetings, and CoDA attraction can be performed on social media and other platforms.

Having a technical background myself there is an awful lot of misunderstandings about what is and isn’t private and confidential online. A lot of fear, uncertainty, and doubt is spread about platforms and services that is certainly an outside issue and has been preventing the sharing of the message of CoDA recovery and providing the resources that people may find and witness to foster the attraction and reaching the codependent that still suffers. I voted in favour of this motion and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21025

Subject: Update to CoDA Investment Policy

VE: whilst there are all sorts of complicate issues around making sure that member donations go back into actively serving the membership, carrying the message, and reaching the codependent that still suffers, it seems sensible to ensure that ongoing costs can be safely covered through investment of funds that CoDA holds. There was a large spreadsheet of the current and projected costs for things and the face to face CSC seems to cost an awful lot. Overall it seemed sensible that the funds that in some ways needed to be set aside should be invested in safe locations that also ensure that the value of the money doesn’t depreciate. I voted in favour, and the motion passed.

Motion/Issue: 21028

Subject: CoDA and CoRE Board Candidate Introduction.

VE: Five prospective members (2 for CoRE and 3 for the CoDA board) were introduced with an opportunity to share about themselves, their recovery and service experience, and what they hoped to bring to service with CoRE or the CoDA board. It was good to get a feel for the real people that are doing service on behalf of CoDA so that they are not just an entity.

Motion/Issue: 21033

Subject: Spanish Outeach – CoDA youth.

VE: whilst there was no motion attached, Spanish Outreach had created a video that highlights the plight of the young codependent and those actively living through the trauma that is so commonly the foundation of a life of codependency. This has hopefully shone a light in an area of service growth need that fellows in the UK are in the process of taking up.

Motion/Issue: 21035

Subject: Translation and Publication Information / Disclaimer.

VE: in short there seems to be a bit of an oversight in the translated printing such that doesn’t currently provide the reader of translated literature information on whether the translated text has been approved by CoDA or CoRE, whether it was translated by volunteers or a paid service.

It seems that there is a large need for translation services from volunteers and where necessary professional services. Also, for these translations to be checked by members for quality and accuracy. With important literature the intent and nuance can be subtle and missed by someone unfamiliar with the content. Among discussion it seemed that there was not a great deal of conversation on this before submission with relevant committees.

I felt it appropriate that members be able to understand that currently translations are not endorsed by CoDA Inc and are the responsibility of the translating country or committee. I voted yes, this was a close vote, passing by a simple majority.

CSC Motions Day 3

The penultimate day had several important items on the agenda, including a proposed change to Tradition 11, many new pieces of literature, and importantly for us in the UK… the endorsement of the longer serenity prayer!

Motion/Issue: 21040

Subject: Replace the Current Tradition 11.

Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and all other public forms of communication.

VE: This was coming back for the second-year vote to pass. The change was proposed and passed last year but as a change to a tradition requires passing with a ¾ vote in the second year. The historic tradition is obviously quite limited in terms of public media forms in this day and age and whilst it has been understood by most that the spirit of the tradition doesn’t just cover ‘press, radio, and film’ it doesn’t hurt to bring it up to date. I did wonder why it wasn’t shortened to simply “all public forms of media” but progress not perfection must prevail. I voted yes and this passed with a ¾ majority.

Motion/Issue: 21044

Subject: Retreats and Other Events.

To allow the CoDA Events Committee to organize financially self-supporting CoDA events, virtual or face to face, separate from the CoDA Service Conference (CSC) and International CoDA Convention (ICC) in coordination with local CoDA communities when possible.

VE: I queried why this was not just within the bounds of ‘trusted servant activity’ and was informed that it would be an expansion of the committee role, reach, and responsibility which itself was a 3 year trial period set to end this year. I voted yes as I felt that the more events and activities there are available for members then the greater the chance that members can attend and further their recovery (‘build it and they will come’). I voted yes, and it passed with a 2/3 majority.

Motion/Issue: 21045

Subject: Newcomer Handbook.

CSC to endorse the second edition of the newcomer handbook.

VE: the new version is quite different from the current edition of the newcomer handbook. New literature is always a good thing in my mind, so I was happy to vote yes. The motion passed with a 2/3 majority and the second edition is endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21046

Subject: Making choices in recovery, positive affirmations for working on our shortcomings.

CSC to endorse the second edition of the making choices booklet.

VE: another great new edition with significant changes. The new content and format now really help focus the booklet on steps 6 and 7 which I would admit I hadn’t realised was the focus of the original. I have had great experience with the first edition and look forward to reading and sharing the new edition. I voted yes and the motion passed. The second edition is endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21049

Subject: CSC to endorse Joy In The Journey, Recover with colour as a new piece of CoDA literature.

VE: this is the new adult colouring book from CoDA illustrated by a CoDA fellow. So many members have benefited from colouring as an inner child and recovery activity that bringing CoDA messages and literature into colouring really seems a beautiful notion. I was happy to vote yes, and the motion passed unanimously. The book is endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21050

Subject: Codependency & Recovery, The Differences.

CSC to endorse CoDependency & Recovery, The Differences, as a one-page service item.

VE: apparently this has been around within CoDA for a very long time, the provenance has long been lost which raised some concern with members as a risk of copyright or other legal issue. This is used widely in UK and other global meetings. I have seen and used this document since joining CoDA. I voted yes, and the motion passed.

Motion/Issue: 21052

Subject: Prayers for CoDA’s Twelve Traditions

CSC to endorse twelve new prayers, one for each of the The Twelve Traditions.

VE: there were some potentially valid queries around some of the language used. The intent is for the prayers to be available freely on the website and to be included in future prayers booklets. It seemed to me that it would again be good to have something that can be progressed upon rather than wait to try and have the ‘perfect’ thing. I voted yes, and the motion passed. The prayers are endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21053

Subject: The Longer Serenity Pray

CSC to endorse The Longer Serenity Prayer as a service piece on our website and pieces of printed literature.

VE: this is the long serenity prayer as well used throughout the UK. To be endorsed as a long version and not to ‘replace’ the original serenity prayer. There were some valid queries around endorsing a new prayer that uses God rather than higher power. In time these terms will undoubtedly be updated through progress. I voted yes, and the motion passed. The long serenity prayer is now finally CoDA endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21058

Subject: Board of Trustees Elections

VE: we voted on the board members that were introduced previously with the following results:

  • Florence F. – MD – Alternate #2 Board of Directors: elected
  • Liliana R. – Colombia, Board of Trustees: not elected
  • Katherine T. – AZ – Alternate #1 Board of Directors: elected

Motion/Issue: 21059

Subject: CoRE board elections

VE: we voted on the CoRE board members that were introduced previously with the following results:

  • Kathy H – PA: CoRE Board – elected to board
  • Annie S – MA: CoRE Board: elected to board

CSC Motions Day 4

The final day of the CSC.

Motion/Issue: 21063

Subject: Issues Mediation Committee Nominations and election.

VE: election for members of the IMC with the following results:

Nominations:

  • Shannon O. – Canada
  • Carmen W. – NV
  • Jorge B. – Mexico

Returning:

  • Chris J. – IL
  • Steve S. – FL
  • Darlene H. – SoCal
  • Dan R. – Ontario Canada
  • Laurie C. – Georg

 All member elected.

Motion/Issue: 21067

VE Canada. Following the presentation and provisional acceptance of the draft version at the 2020 CSC, we request the 2021 CSC to approve the revised version of Service Concepts – “Alive & Strong” as a new piece of printed and/or downloadable CoDa Endorsed Literature.

VE: another great piece of new literature produced for the fellowship. This one makes the service concepts more understandable and accessible to member. I voted yes and this passed unanimously.

Motion/Issue: 21068

Arizona VE: New proposed preamble.

Preamble:

Co-Dependents Anonymous is a Fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.

We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.

This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives.

VE: thankfully we were able to add this item as an urgent AOB item given the problems with the first attempt to revise the preamble. Unfortunately, this is now in the two-year process of revision as the preamble is part of the foundation documents and will need to be approved again next year. Groups and regions could start to use this as agreed by their own group conscience. There was a lot of discussion that potentially edged into outside issues, personalities etc. In my mind though the primary purpose here is to update language used to ensure that people are not shamed or excluded but are aware that all are welcome in CoDA. Some people also seem to think that a change in wording would mean that already printed literature must be re-printed which made no sense to me, surely you just don’t print any more with the old wording. I voted Yes and this passed with a large majority.

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January 2022 CoDA Mixed Retreat Noddfa (In Person!)

Friday 14th January to Sunday 16th January 2021

The Noddfa retreat committee are happy to share that with the developments to meeting in person we are able to return to the wonderful location of Noddfa in north Wales to have an in-person retreat in 2022.

Registration is Friday 14th January from 4pm (Dinner 6.30pm) and ends Sunday 16th January at 3pm.

Location:

NODDFA, Conwy Old Road, Penmaenmawr, North Wales LL34 6YF

Cost:

The cost for the retreat (Friday to Sunday) to be paid to NODDFA is £150.

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale. The retreat will adhere to the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Codependents Anonymous. No outside speakers are involved.

There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

Readings at meetings throughout the weekend will be taken from the following literature:

  • The CoDA big book
  • The codependents anonymous workbook
  • In this moment daily meditation book
  • Common threads of codependency
  • Peeling the onion
  • The twelve-piece relationship toolkit

Bring along a teddy, picture of yourself as a child and anything that may help reach and comfort your child within.

The Retreat will take place at Noddfa. Noddfa is home to a small, extremely kind and friendly spiritual group of religious Sisters and is a venue used by 12 Step and numerous other groups throughout the year. It is a lovely old house with views of the sea and the hills. The grounds are full of trees, colourful shrubs and flowers. There is also a walled vegetable garden, a labyrinth and many other hidden treasures.

NODDFA is a Welsh word meaning ‘haven’ or ‘refuge’. A place of peace and welcome, a place where you can regain energy. This is the venue we have again chosen for our Retreat and we hope it will be a time for you to relax and recharge while taking time to be self-aware.

During your stay it is not compulsory to attend all the meetings if you do not wish to.

The beach is a 10 minute walk downhill, and obviously it takes longer coming back. The mountains are also accessible and the grounds around Noddfa are vast. Most of the bedrooms are for single occupancy and each floor has ample washing facilities and plenty of tea-making areas. Please bring a towel and a hot water bottle for extra comfort.

Please contact Noddfa directory for the price of accommodation and food for your stay, this is paid directly to NODDFA by cheque or BACS. Additionally there is a £10 Registration Fee to be paid on arrival which goes to cover the cost of retreat materials and expenses.

The rooms (and attendance) will be allocated on a first come first serve basis. It is assumed that the retreat will be able to accommodate around 36 attendees as with previous years.

Please speak with either Sister Patrice or Sister Mary-Jo to book and pay for your place at Noddfa mentioning the January 2022 Coda Mixed Retreat. There are limited places as this is a very popular event, so it is suggested you book as soon as possible. Please also notify the retreat committee of your booking and your email address at petehcoda@outlook.com

NODDFA details are as follows:

Phone number: 01492-623473

Email: noddfapen@aol.com

Website: http://www.noddfa.org.uk

Any further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Pete by phone/WhatsApp on 07853865040 or by email petehcoda@outlook.com

The food at Noddfa is wholesome and plentiful (and their soda bread is delicious!). If you need a special diet i.e. vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free etc. please inform Noddfa when you are booking directly with them. We are looking forward to an exciting and uplifting Retreat and to welcome new and previous participants.

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22nd Jan – CoDA Online Workshop – Working the steps in CoDA

Exploring different sponsorship approaches

22nd January 1pm – 3:30pm GMT
(Doors open 12:30, there will be a 15 minute comfort break)

Are you looking for a sponsor?
Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
Are you looking for new sponsees?

Come along to listen and share your experience, strength and hope about being a sponsee, a sponsor or being in a step group.

This workshop is an introduction to the various ways of sponsorship, and not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part. Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery. We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a
home group and joining WhatsApp groups (see below).

No Registration required to attend this event. Zoom limit of 100 people


Next date: These workshops will run quarterly and these dates will be shared.

Format: a CoDA meeting with a 15 minute break

Only CoDA speakers. Only CoDA approved literature.

No entrance fee. 7th Tradition donated to National Committee.

Joining details: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/88394776897?pwd=RWNVTmNKbzkrV3FvTVVnK0pJZkU4QT09

Meeting ID: 883 9477 6897
Passcode: Traditions

One tap mobile:
+19292056099,,85067708377#,,,,6128779469# US (New York) +12532158782,,85067708377#,,,,6128779469# US (Tacoma)

Dial by your location
+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)
+1 253 215 8782 US (Tacoma)
+1 301 715 8592 US (Washington DC)
+1 312 626 6799 US (Chicago)
+1 346 248 7799 US (Houston)
+1 669 900 6833 US (San Jose)
+44 330 088 5830 The United Kingdom
+44 131 460 1196 The United Kingdom
+44 203 481 5237 The United Kingdom
+44 203 481 5240 The United Kingdom
+44 203 901 7895 The United Kingdom
+44 208 080 6591 The United Kingdom
+44 208 080 6592 The United Kingdom

Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kx3JgDZwK

Are you willing to do a 10 minute Chair?
Giving your experience strength and hope (ESH) working the steps as a Sponsor, being Sponsored, working in a Step Group, as a Co-Sponsor?

Are you willing to do service to support the workshop?

Opportunities for Service on the day:
Giving 10 minute chair about being a Sponsor, Sponsee, member of Step Group
Being Chair Finder
Reading Script
Booking person to contact venue and secure place
Spiritual Timekeeper
Greeter
Newcomers rep

If you would like to do a service position, please email sponsorship@codauk.org

You can follow that link and post comments on the script of the workshop:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/16NaWFwrM8VoeyRzS7PHhH1-YYVt9gmWglh7YoFq7l94/edit?usp=sharing

You can email sponsorship@codauk.org and request a printed, pdf or .doc version, and be put on the mailing list of future workshops.

Web page on Sponsorship:
http://outreach.CoDA.org/index.cfm/connecting-members/sponsorship/
https://CoDA.org/outreach/connecting-members/sponsorship/

Sponsorship Brochure:
http://CoDA.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Sponsorship%20Brochure.pdf

CoDA Org Sponsorship
http://outreach.CoDA.org/index.cfm/connecting-members/sponsorship/
http://CoDA.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Sponsorship%20Brochure.pdf
http://outreach.CoDA.org/index.cfm/connecting-members/sponsorship/resources-for-sponsors/
https://CoDA.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/TwelveTipsforSponsors_final.pdf

An account of Step Group – Coda World
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Working%20the%20Steps%20in%20a%20Group%20v4.pdf

Coda Fellowship Forum Audio Recording
www.codependents.org/ff/ff.htm

This is the CoDA blue book: https://www.corepublications.org/product/CoDA-book
and in the UK: https://www.CoDAliterature.co.uk/CoDA-big-book-1002-12-p.asp

This is the green book (CoDA workbook): https://www.corepublications.org/product/twelve-steps-twelve-traditions-workbook
and in the UK: https://www.CoDAliterature.co.uk/CoDA-steps-workbook-40-p.asp
And ebook: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Twelve-Steps-Traditions-Workbook-ebook/dp/B071L34J7Q/
“I bought the “Kindle” version of the 12 & 12 CoDA workbook. Unfortunately, It doesn’t have full Kindle capabilities such as increasing font size and word wrap; it’s really just a glorified PDF . So it’s worth getting the actual book.”

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6th November 2021 – NSC meeting

Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00

CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. 

The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.

NSC November agenda and related information

How to join the meeting:

The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.

Join Zoom meeting 

Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688

Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592

Agenda ItemStart TimeEnd Time
1 Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. 20 mins1 PM1:20 PM
2. Introductions and Feelings check with meetings info from General Service Representatives (GSRs) and AOB requests from any attendee who wishes to have an issue discussed that isn’t on the agenda. 20 mins1:20 PM1:40 PM
3. Voting entity established and appointment of a spiritual timekeeper 5 mins1:40 PM1:45 PM
4. Matters arising from August minutes – are there any questions arising from these? 10 mins
(Proposal: to remove this as minutes are completed in the meeting)
1:45 PM2:05 PM
5. Reports and updates from members in service circulated in advance – are there any questions arising from these? 20 mins
a. LSER report 10 mins
b. CSC Delegate reports (5 minutes each) 10 mins
2:05 PM2:25 PM
6. Frank – WhatsApp group safety policy 10 mins2:25 PM2:35 PM
15-minute break2:35 PM2:50 PM
7. Service positions available – discussion and votes
a. Meeting list coordinator – role description attached; nominations required 10 mins
b. Treasurer – role description attached; nominations required 10 mins
2:50 PM3:10 PM
9. To register CoDA UK NSC as a charity 10 mins3:10 PM3:20 PM
11. AOB 40 mins3:20 PM4 PM
12. All to agree actions onscreen so minutes can be circulated straight away 10 mins4 PM4:10 PM
13. Close – Promises and long form Serenity Prayer 5 mins4:10 PM4:15 PM

The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:

7th August 2021 NSC Meeting

Agenda item 5

proposal to the NSC that all service positions run for at least 2 years. 11 for 0 against 2 abstentions

Abstain – 2

Against – 0

In favour – 11 – motion carried

Agenda item 8

Nominations for NSC Secretary. Cammie A nominated.

Abstain – 1

Against – 0

In favour – 12 – motion carried

Nominations for Literature Secretary. Hannah H nominated.

Abstain – 1

Against – 0

In favour – 13 – motion carried

Treasurer – no nominations

Agenda item 10

Roles and relationships between the NSC and LSER/regions. Subcommittee formed to look at intergroups/regions and where they are. Members nominated Andy, Gillian, Hannah, Pete, Mari, and Philip.

Agenda item 11

CoDA Teen. Subcommittee formed to look at CoDA youth. Members nominated Cammie, Gillian.

CoDA disabilities. Subcommittee formed to look at CoDA youth/teen. Members nominated Gillian, Cammie.

Hardship Fund and rejuvenation of start up fund. Subcommittee formed to investigate what is needed. Members nominated Louise, Andy, Gillian, Hannah.


20th March 2021 NSC meeting

Agenda item 1

That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/ votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/ PI/ Hospitals and Institutions.

The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.

Abstain – 0

Against – 0

In favour – 15 – motion carried

5th December 2020 NSC meeting


Agenda item 15 
For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision so need to be accounted for. 

Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried


Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chairman can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 – motion carried

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16th October East Kent CoDA Convention

Saturday 16th October

E KENT CODA CONVENTION ‘From Codependency to Authenticity’

Saturday 16th Oct 2021. No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100. Doors open 10.15am.

The schedule for the day is as follows:

10.30am to 12.00: Topic meeting – The Codependency Dilemma

12.00 to 1.00pm: lunch break – we will remain online – please feel free to stay and chat

1.00 to 2.30pm: Service meeting – A Delicate Balance

2.30 to 3.00pm: break

3.00 to 4.30pm: Topic meeting – Authenticity. How do we become our authentic selves?

4.30 to 5.00pm: break

5.00 to 6.15pm: Open get-together for people to share or perform songs, poems, jokes, talents, magic tricks etc.….this will be an opportunity to have fun and share in a different way, or to just hang out and enjoy the fellowship.

6.15 to 6.30pm – Closing.

Meeting ID: 862 6353 1265
Passcode: 704318
Join Zoom Meeting
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/86263531265?pwd=Z0FrejFWRHhyTTZBRW8zamZjUFZUQT09

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26th to 27th June 2021 CoDA Summer Mixed Retreat (Online)

Saturday 26th to Sunday 27th June 2021

2021-06-26T09:00:00

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The Monday Online Mixed Group welcomes you with an open invitation to attend their Summer Online Weekend Retreat!

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100 on a first come – first served basis

  • The event will NOT be recorded.
  • All readings used will be taken from CoDA approved literature including ‘In This Moment Daily Meditations’ booklet and the ‘Twelve Steps’ booklet.
  • The Event and meetings all adhere to all the CoDA principles and values.
  • All those providing service are fellows in CoDA.
  • A Whatsapp Group will be set up for all attendees to facilitate outreach, CoDA fellowship.
  • 7th Tradition details are posted below and will be made available during the retreat – all donations will be used to help reach the Co-dependents who still suffer.

7th tradition donations during the retreat can be made anonymously using the following link:

Retreat Meeting details

CoDA Summer Mixed Retreat (Online)

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 893 0963 1775

Passcode: 788687

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

The meetings schedule and suggested readings for each meeting can be found here:

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is used.

There will be a disco on the Saturday evening and a social gathering on the Sunday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

Any further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Hannah on hannahinrecovery@gmail.com or Pete on petehcoda@outlook.com

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22nd May East Kent CoDA Convention

Saturday 22nd May

2021-05-22T10:15:00

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Theme ‘Healthy and Loving Relationships’

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100. Doors open 10.15am.

The schedule for the day is as follows:

10.30am to 12.00: Topic meeting – Learning to Love the Self

12.00 to 1.00pm: lunch break – we will remain online – please feel free to stay and chat

1.00 to 2.30pm: Tradition 2 in Service and in Relationships

2.30 to 3.00pm: break

3.00 to 4.30pm: Topic meeting – Our Primary Purpose in Relationships

4.30 to 5.00pm: break

5.00 to 6.15pm: Open get-together for people to share or perform songs, poems, jokes, talents, magic tricks etc.….this will be an opportunity to have fun and share in a different way, or to just listen and enjoy the fellowship.

6.15 to 6.30pm – Closing.

Convention Meeting details

East Kent CoDA Convention

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 869 2668 8874

Passcode: 913079

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

This convention complies with CoDA UK approval guidelines: CoDA Traditions are observed and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale.

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15th and 16th May 2021 MOM CoDA Inner Child Weekend

Saturday 15th and Sunday 16th May 2021

2021-05-15T09:00:00

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The Monday Online Mixed Group offers an open invitation to attend a weekend of Inner Child related meetings and activities!

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100 on a first come – first served basis

  • The event will NOT be recorded.
  • All readings used will be taken from CoDA approved literature ‘In This Moment Daily Meditations’ Booklet.
  • Activities draw from the content and spirit of CoDA conference approved literature.
  • The Event and meetings all adhere to all the CoDA principles and values.
  • All those providing service are fellows in CoDA.
  • 7th Tradition details are posted below and will be made available during the retreat – all donations will be used to help reach the Co-dependents who still suffer.

7th tradition donations during the retreat can be made anonymously using the following link:

Retreat Meeting details

CoDA Inner Child Weekend (Online)

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 859 7584 0363

Passcode: 137168

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is used.

There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

Any further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Hannah on hannahinrecovery@gmail.com or Pete on petehcoda@outlook.com

Weekend Schedule

Saturday 15th May

Opening Ceremony – 9am-10am

Meeting – Childhood and life today meeting – 10:15am-11:45am

Activity – Teddy bears Picnic – 12pm-1pm

Meeting – Step 1 – The inner child meeting – 13:15pm-2:45pm

Activity – Yoga (for all levels) – 3pm-4pm

Activity – Music Room – 4pm-5pm

Activity – Teenager Junk Food Dinner – 5pm-6pm

Activity – Art Therapy – 6pm-7pm

Saturday Night Social – 7:15pm-8:15pm

Meeting – Bedtime Story Meeting – 8:30pm-10pm

Activity – Bedtime Meditation – 10:15pm-11:15pm

Sunday May 16th

Meeting – Step 4 The Inner Child Meeting – 1pm-2:30pm

Activity – Selected Step 4 questions writing prompt 2:45-4:15pm

Activity – Improv and Clowning – 4:15pm-5:15pm

Activity – Dinner – 5:15pm-6:30pm

Meeting – Parenting the inner child plus affirmations – 6:45pm-8:15pm

Closing ceremony – 8:15pm-9pm

Inner Child Disco – 9pm -10pm

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Safer Online Meetings

With many of our CoDA meetings moved to internet-based video rooms & phone lines, by now you’ve probably heard of the “bombers” that like to interrupt meetings with their inappropriate behaviours. 

Following requests from meetings affected by such interruptions the CoDA Board of Trustees have collated some suggestions to help keep your group’s meetings safe, and we share these for our UK fellows below.

These are not 100% inclusive; it is best to research the help file of the provider or vendor that your meeting chooses.

1. Do not use your personal meeting ID – instead generate a new meeting ID for your meeting. Meeting app accounts allow the creation of many meetings with a unique ID which can be used recurring. The limitation applied is with the concurrent use of different meeting IDs.

2. Consider using a meeting password – even if this is published on a publicly accessible meetings list this can still act as a preventative measure.

3. Consider using a “waiting room” feature – this allows the meeting host(s) to vet each person before granting them access to the meeting. Should someone join the meeting for disruptive purposes they can be removed to the waiting room by the host. This also allows members to provide a new service role.

4. Mute audio as members enter the meeting or once the meeting starts – ask members to unmute when it is their time to share. Once the meeting is running only those providing service by reading the script, reading literature, or sharing need to have their mic open. This can also form a part of meeting etiquette to prevent audio echo and feedback.

5. Turn off screen sharing for everyone but the meeting host(s) – many disruptive joiners share material to interrupt the screen. Having a service position of host allows any sharing of readings or other meeting materials to be performed as part of the service role.

6. Be prepared to remove anyone that is disruptive with inappropriate behaviour – the only requirement to attend a CoDA meeting is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. By joining to disrupt intentionally signals that this is not the reason for joining the meeting.

We hope these suggestions will help you to keep CoDA meetings healthy, safe, and secure!

If your group would like assistance with setting up any of these measures, the UK Web service would be happy to share instructions – please email him on codawebservice@codauk.org.

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Public Liability Insurance 2022-2023

Is your group returning to Face to Face meetings after lockdown? 

Does the lease for your venue require your group to have public liability insurance?

If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim
Who would the claim be made against? Who would be liable to pay?

Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group is personally liable to meet all costs in the event of a claim.

Did you know that CoDA UK holds a group Public Liability Insurance Policy which is significantly cheaper than groups can get individually?

If you would like more information or would like your group to be included on this policy, please send an email to:

coda.uk.insurance@gmail.com

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24th April – CoDA North Region Meeting

The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. There are quarterly regional meetings, usually held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future. The meeting normally takes the format of a service meeting in the morning, and an open CoDA meeting in the afternoon.

The next CoDA North Region meeting will be held on:

Saturday 24th April 2021

Times: 10.15 for 10.30am-13.00pm and 2.00pm-3.30pm

Morning 10.30-13.00:

CoDA North is holding our quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the North region meetings (which include Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland).

Join us online/by phone to discuss our region’s CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed but all members are welcome to attend. 

If you have any business your group would like to be discussed at the morning meeting, please mention it when you email for the password so that we can put it on the agenda. If possible, the agenda will be circulated in advance to all those registered.

Afternoon 2.00-3.30:

Join us for an open CoDA sharing meeting with fellows from around the North region. This will be run along the lines of a normal CoDA meeting.

NOTE: Meeting Password:
For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email northregion@codauk.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on the day of the meeting. 

We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend the afternoon meeting before 10am.

Join Zoom Meeting online: https://zoom.us/j/93283885330?pwd=ZG9RZTA4KzRIejZwTVdMaDdwbHBodz09

Meeting ID: 932 8388 5330

Or dial in on one of the numbers below using the above meeting ID and the password:

  • +44 330 088 5830
  • +44 131 460 1196
  • +44 20 3481 5237
  • +44 20 3481 5240
  • +44 20 8080 6591
  • +44 20 8080 6592

All CoDA members are welcome.

Not able to attend?
Please email northregion@codauk.org with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.

CoDA North Intergroup Contributions
If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email northregion@codauk.org to request the bank details.

NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.

Keep in touch…
If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email northregion@codauk.org with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.

In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.

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2nd to 4th April 2021 CoDA Spring Mixed Retreat (Online)

Friday 2nd April to Sunday 4th April 2021

2021-04-02T18:51:00

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The Monday Online Mixed Group welcomes you with an open invitation to attend their Spring Online Weekend Retreat!

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100 on a first come – first served basis

  • The event will NOT be recorded.
  • All readings used will be taken from CoDA approved literature ‘In This Moment Daily Meditations’ Booklet.
  • The Event and meetings all adhere to all the CoDA principles and values.
  • All those providing service are fellows in CoDA.
  • A Whatsapp Group will be set up for all attendees to facilitate outreach, CoDA fellowship.
  • 7th Tradition details are posted below and will be made available during the retreat – all donations will be used to help reach the Co-dependents who still suffer.

7th tradition donations during the retreat can be made anonymously using the following link:

Retreat Meeting details

CoDA Spring Mixed Retreat (Online)

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 859 7584 0363

Passcode: 137168

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

Spring Retreat Script (inc. readings) browser friendly

Additional meeting readings and materials

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is used.

There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

Any further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Hannah on hannahinrecovery@gmail.com or Pete on petehcoda@outlook.com

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20th Mar – NSC Additional Meeting

Time: 12:50pm for 1pm-5pm

As agreed at the Group Inventory on 6th February, CoDA UK is holding an additional meeting to complete outstanding business from the last year or so. This meeting is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups. However, business is to be limited to just those items which were not heard or were unresolved at previous meetings, and members proposing those items have been contacted. We will be returning to regular and new business at our next quarterly meeting on 1st May.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed, but all members are welcome to attend, not just GSRs.

The draft agenda is being produced by a small group of trusted servants and will be circulated and made available below on Sunday 14th March. The meeting may be shorter than 4 hours if we only receive a few agenda items.

Join Zoom meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/85716378916?pwd=em9xZ2xnYVcxUGJPZUNYWU9KL0VwUT09 

Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688

Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196, +44 20 3481 5237
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592

Agenda and items for consideration

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1st May 2021 – NSC Quarterly meeting

Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00

CoDA UK is holding its quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. 

The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there is not enough time in the meeting to go through the written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions in section 5, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.

One paper will follow during the week and this will be added below.

We ask members to consider agenda item 3 to see if they can offer service at this meeting – as our previous secretary has now finished her role, we will need someone to take notes.

Agenda document (presented below)

1 – Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines.
Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. 20 mins
1.00 – 1.20pm
2 – Introductions and Feelings check with meetings info from General Service Representatives (GSRs) and AOB requests from any attendee who wishes to have an issue discussed that isn’t on the agenda. 20 mins1.20-1.40pm
3 – Request for a member to take minutes and agreement on how this will be done 10 mins1.40-1.50pm
4 – Voting entity established and appointment of a
spiritual time keeper 5 mins
1.50-1.55pm
5 – Reports and updates from members in service
circulated in advance
– are there any questions arising from these? 20 mins
a. Treasurer
b. Literature Secretary
c. Sponsorship Committee
d. Contacts Management working group
e. London & SE Region (LSER) – verbal report from
meeting 10th April 2021 and background document
attached
f. North Region draft minutes – NSC to note, especially the discussions held about the three AOB items which
they would like to share with the wider fellowship
1.55 – 2.15pm
6 – Treasurer proposals: 30 mins
a. Zoom subscription renewal – vote
b. Set up Paypal or Givt account – discussion and vote
c. Lloyds Bank signatories – discussion for guidance
2.15 – 2.45pm
7 – Public Information (PI) proposals – discussion
and votes 20 mins

a. Introduction of a formal PI budget
b. Set up simple way for groups to engage with PI work
2.45 – 3.05pm
Break3.05 – 3.20pm
8 – CoDA UK to register as a charity discussion and
vote 10 mins
3.20 – 3.30pm
9 – Service positions – discussion and votes 30 mins
a. Service role job descriptions
b. Service role service role length, vacancies and
appointments

c. Role of trusted servants
3.40 – 4.00pm
10 – Service positions available – discussion and
votes 30 mins

a. PLI coordinator – Nomination received and role
description attached
b. Secretary – role description attached, nominations
required
c. Chair – Handover proposal attached and role
description to be added here before meeting;
nominations required
4.00 – 4.30pm
11 – Confirm future meeting dates & times
discussion and vote 10 mins
4.30 – 4.40pm
12 – AOB 15 mins4.40 – 4.55pm
13 – Close – Promises and long form Serenity
Prayer 5 mins
4.55 – 5pm

The draft agenda has been produced by the chair and proposal secretary, in consultation with other trusted servants as required, and will be available here on 24th/25th April.

How to join the meeting:

The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.

Join Zoom meeting 

Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688

Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592

NB: The vote which was taken at the NSC last year to use Teams for an NSC meeting will be revisited in May, due to a change in circumstances.
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8th Aug – CoDA UK NSC – Virtual Meeting

Date: 8th August 2020
Time: 10.15 for 10.30am-14.30pm

CoDA UK is holding its quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. 

The draft agenda has been produced by the minutes secretary and is available here:

How to join the meeting:
The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below. For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email communications@codauk.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on Saturday 8th August. 

We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend before this time.

Zoom meeting link and meeting ID: 898 2437 8645
Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592

Note: Please email communications@codauk.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly.

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15th Mar – Mixed Retreat In Salisbury

CoDA Mixed Retreat at Sarum College, Salisbury

Friday 13th to Sunday 15th March 2020

Come and enjoy a weekend of CoDA recovery and fellowship at Sarum College, a beautiful and serene venue in the grounds of Salisbury Cathedral.

The retreat runs from 6pm on Friday until 3pm on Sunday and is open to men and women.
Food and refreshments are provided.

Accommodation is available on site in comfortable, modern bedrooms with en-suite bathrooms(as required) Day delegates are also welcome.

Dinner is served at 6.30pm on Friday, followed by the Welcome Ceremony.

CoDA meetings take place all day Saturday and Sunday morning, with a social evening on Saturday. Meeting sessions offer a choice of meetings including the 12 Steps, Chairs and a selection of topics which are agreed by delegates on Friday evening.

Residential Accomodation Prices:

Single room with shared bathroom – £168.50
Single room with en-suite bathroom – £232.50
Twin or double room with en-suite bathroom – £373 (£186.50 per person)
NOTE: Residential prices include all meals.

Day Delegate Prices(no accommodation)
£93 for all 3 days (Friday evening, Saturday, Sunday including lunches and dinners)
£51 Saturday (including lunch & dinner)
£31 Sunday (including lunch)

To book your place, please visit our online registration and booking website by clicking on this link: https://codaukevents.squarespace.com/

Spaces are limited and rooms are allocated on a first-come-first-served basis.
Bookings are secured by Credit/Debit card payment only.

For all queries, please contact ukcodaretreat@gmail.com
Further details about the retreat will be emailed to booked delegates closer to the date.

Dietary Requirements: Sarum College can accommodate some special dietary requirements, i.e. vegetarian, vegan and allergies. Please indicate when booking. Other food preferences and intolerances cannot be specifically provided for, but a varied spread is offered at each meal providing lots of choice.

Travelling By Train: Direct trains to Salisbury run from London (1hr 30mins), Southampton, Portsmouth, Bath, Exeter, Bristol and Cardiff. Sarum College is approximately 10 minutes’ walk from Salisbury train station.

Travelling By Car: Free car parking is available on site.
We encourage delegates to lift-share and will send out an email in early March to facilitate this.

Concessions: There are a limited number of places available at a reduced rate for those who are in receipt of certain benefits and, without assistance, would be unable to attend. If you think this applies to you, please email ukcodaretreat@gmail.com

CoDA Principles and CoDA traditions are observed and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale. For full details of CoDA approval please refer to the CoDA UK section at www.coda-uk.org

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8th Feb – Shrewsbury Workshop

Sunday 9th February 2020
1pm – 4pm
St Winefrides Convent,
College Hill,
SY1 1LS

This year our workshops will be based on the new Twelve-Piece Relationship Toolkit booklet.

This Workshop will be on Tradition 1 (and possibly moving on to Tradition 2 depending on the flow of the event).

All are welcome.

Please note you are welcome to bring a packed lunch to eat in the break. We usually try to provide a hot drink & biscuit.

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1st Feb – CoDA Annual General Meeting In London

All CoDA members are invited to attend CoDA’s Annual General Meeting on:
Saturday 1st February 2020
10am to 5pm

Venue:
Waterloo Action Centre,
14 Baylis Road,
Lambeth,
London
SE1 7AA.

Note: It’s a few minutes’ walk from Waterloo Station.


GSRs, Meeting contacts and members, please kindly announce the February 2020 CoDA A.G.M in your meetings as its open for all CoDA members to attend.

The agenda for the AGM will be sent out, on/around Sunday 26th January 2020, if you would like something to be discussed from your region or local meeting please email coda.nsc.uk@gmail.com as soon as possible to allow time for your proposal to be considered.

Everyone in the fellowship is encouraged to attend and welcome to provide input, only GSRs and Committee members in line with CoDA service principles get to vote.

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NSC Service

Service Structure

CoDA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

Tradition Nine

Information on the CoDA UK service structure will be published here.

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NSC Service

NSC Service Positions

All posts are for two years, unless specified. Members can elect to serve a longer term if they wish. NSC members should have at least one year’s recovery (unless specified) and a good working knowledge of the 12 Steps and Traditions. All committee members will be expected to attend three NSC meetings and the AGM each year. Reasonable expenses are paid to cover travel to these four meetings when they are held in person. Between meetings, communication is usually by email, WhatsApp or phone.

Service Positions

An overview of the currently defined NSC service positions, highlighting current vacancies. If you are interested in discussing any of these positions, please email the NSC Enquiries email address found on the CoDA Contacts page for more details, putting NSC in the subject line and giving a phone number where you can be contacted before the AGM.

Chair

Has overall responsibility of CoDA UK in keeping with the Traditions; liaises with Vice Chair and Secretary to determine Agenda; acts as guardian of CoDA Constitution; facilitates discussion amongst meeting members and proposes voting issues; casts deciding vote if there should be a tie vote; cheque signatory; keeps abreast of all issues and matters affecting CoDA in the UK; available for contact with NSC members to discuss ongoing CoDA issues.

Email Responder – one person in service, more required

At least two members to answer emails sent to the Enquiries email address, which is where all queries sent via this website are received. This is currently about 1-2 hours a week of service and can be done from anywhere with an internet connection. There are templates set up for standard answers and there is support from the CoDA UK committee for more complicated enquiries. For many newcomers, this is their first contact with a member of CoDA so this is an extremely important post requiring commitment and a willingness to carry the message.

General Committee Members – more required

Contributes as appropriate to matters arising in NSC meetings; takes up NSC responsibilities as required to ensure committee objects are achieved; no special remit.

Internal Communications Person – one person in service, more required

Deals with emails coming in to the News & Events email address, either answering them or passing on to other members; keeps the NSC email account and  contact details up-to-date. Updates the CoDA UK news, Groups News and Events pages. Receives incoming emails from website home page enquiry box and gathers an email list of all meeting GSRs/contacts and regularly checks that this is up to date. Sends out emails to GSRs and meeting contacts when requested.

Literature Person – vacant May 2022

Deals with emails coming into the Literature email address. Point of contact with literature distributors; acts as contact for any groups with literature problems; promotes use of CoDA approved literature within meetings, thereby generating essential revenue for the fellowship; liaises with CoRE Publications in the US about any changes to CoDA approved literature; communication skills and access to email required.

Public Information (PI) Person

Deals with emails coming into the Public Information email address. Responsible for public information; contact organisations to get an entry in their publications; reply to requests for information from publishers or directories; reply to update requests from existing entities; point of contact with outside bodies and other fellowships; assists groups to identify ways to attract members in accordance with the 12 Traditions; it has also been suggested at a recent AGM that a PI person could send out regular newsletters to CoDA members to let everyone know what is happening in CoDA UK.

Regional Representatives

Represents a regional group of CoDA UK; contributes as appropriate to matters arising in NSC meetings; takes up NSC responsibilities as required to ensure committee objects are achieved.

Secretary – vacant April 2022

Present at committee meetings to make relevant and concise notes (minutes) of what takes place; sends out (usually by email) minutes of the meeting to each committee member after the meeting; liaises with Chair and Vice Chair to assist continuity in deciding the agenda prior to next meeting.

Treasurer

Deals with emails coming into the Treasurer email address. Responsible for overall financial situation of CoDA UK; cheque signatory; pay bills; pay donations into bank; keep records of all finances of CoDA UK; at least basic book keeping skills preferable; must be comfortable around money issues; minimum two year term as treasurer.

Vice Chair – vacant April 2022

Filling in wherever needed by the Chair; generally helping with the administration of the NSC; chairing meetings when Chair unavailable; discussing Agenda content with Chair and Secretary; liaising with CoDA members/Chair on issues of conscience; cheque signatory; for this post, two years recovery, including one year as Vice Chair, is required; one year’s service as Vice Chair is followed by a second year as Chair.

Website Coordinator – 2 people in service, more required, especially with technical skills

Deals with emails coming into the Web Service email address. Oversees the website at all times; develops existing website by adding pages where relevant; supports the WTF Co-ordinators in keeping the meetings list up-to-date. Web, preferably broadband, access anywhere in the UK is essential; some knowledge of content management systems is preferable but not vital; willingness to spend a couple of hours a month keeping the site up-to-date is essential.

Meetings List Coordinator – 1 person in service, more required

Deals with emails coming into the Meetings email address on at least a weekly basis; keeps the CoDA UK website meetings list up to date and ensures an offline back up copy is available in case of any website issues; ensures all personal contact details for meetings comply with GDPR; works with the website team to develop the meetings part of the website appropriately and in line with updates to the meetings list software. Someone in this service role should be familiar with Traditions 5 and 7, must have access to the internet for updating the website, receiving emails etc and be familiar with managing information using Excel and other Microsoft products. Familiarity with WordPress is also useful but not essential as a full handover document and support from the website team is provided. Familiarity with other parts of the CoDA Service structure and website are also required, as enquiries are sometimes sent to the meetings inbox which need to be directed elsewhere. This role is suitable for a ‘job-share’ if more than one person would like to volunteer.

Sponsorship Representative

Deals with emails coming into the Sponsorship email account, either answering them or passing on to other members; keeps the Sponsorship page up to date and co-ordinates and gives support to members/groups organising Sponsorship workshops.

Public Liability Insurance Service – vacant May 2022

Arranges the public liability insurance policy for face to face meetings to protect those in service from legal problems and costs.

GDPR Service Role – NSC agreed no longer required

Works to maintain GDPR compliance and handle information requests relating to GDPR.

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LSER News Article

LSER Committee Meeting July 2020

Dear CoDA London South East Region (LSER) Members,

I hope this finds you well.

This is a reminder and your invitation for this Saturday’s 11th July 1pm London South East Region meeting. The aim of this meeting is to vote in the LSER Committee.  The Zoom login details are listed below.

The below list shows which service positions are available should you wish to put yourself forward with a brief description of what each role entails. Some of these positions (Chair, Treasurer and Communications Secretary) are described more fully in part 3 of the CoDA Fellowship Services Manual (FSM): https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/FSM-Part-3-Guidelines-for-Other-Service-Levels.pdf

Service roles that require filling: 

Chair – manages the business meetings and set the agenda.

Minutes Taker – the role would include producing and distributing meeting minutes and other key information to attendees, officers, and the local Fellowship.

Communications Secretary – creates and maintains a Region contact list, answers incoming email, and would handle most mass mailings.

GSR – attends and reports to the National Steering Committee (NSC) every 3 or 4 months.

Treasurer – responsible for accounting and documentation of all funds, maintaining accurate records and presenting written reports of the status of the LSER account at meetings and when requested to the Fellowship.

Literature Secretary – to liaise with UK CoDA publisher to ensure literature is available. Provides other information about literature (new publications etc).

Timekeeper – during the LSER meetings.

Please note the CoDA Fellowship Service Manual states: ‘Terms of office and/or rotation of officers is highly recommended and considered healthy in CoDA. A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’

Please inform your group members about these service vacancies if they would like to get more involved at intergroup level (LSER) which also provides opportunities to further your recovery as well as meet other CoDA members. 

Role requirements

If you as a GSR or any of your group members are willing to serve at the regional level then please note it is recommended to be attending local fellowship for at least 1 year and have worked or are working the CoDA program. For those of you interested in the Treasurer role the guidelines are more than 3 years.

Voting rights

In accordance with the CoDA FSM 2019, GSRs and Committee members have a right to vote however as there is no LSER Committee yet this means only GSRs can vote. Ideally, the formed LSER Committee would consist of GSRs and Service members who are not GSRs.  

Join Zoom meeting online
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Password: 809197
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Topic: London South East Region Meeting
Time: Saturday July 11, 2020 13:00hrs 

All members are welcome to attend.

Look forward to seeing you on the day.

Love In Fellowship

Acting LSER Communications Secretary

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Public Liability Insurance 2020

Is your group covered for public liability insurance?
Does your room rent include public liability insurance?
If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim
Who would the claim be made against? who would be liable to pay?

Several CoDA groups who rent rooms are unsure of the answer to both these questions and believe they are covered by their venues insurance policy. Without reading the small print of the lease and asking specific questions to the Landlord it’s not always obvious.

Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group, in the event of a claim is personally liable to meet all costs.

In 2019, CoDA UK contacted all groups requesting they check if the rent they pay for their rooms includes Public Liability Insurance. Many groups discovered they were not covered which led to CoDA UK purchasing a group policy for those groups who wanted to be covered. Several groups later approached us and paid to be added to the policy as their venue required a copy for their landlord to continue renting out the room.

The cost for each group to be covered last year was £50 per annum. A few groups last year paid the amount over several weeks. If your group would like to purchase cover and be included in the CoDA group insurance or if you have any questions regarding the policy, please send an email to coda.uk.insurance@gmail.com before the 26th March 2020.

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Ken and Mary 2019 Speaker Event Recordings

During October 2019 two weekend long speaker events were held, one in London and the other in Liverpool, during which Ken and Mary shared their experience, strength and hope with the fellowship. The sessions were recorded and following anonymisation work to remove names for all attendees are now available.

These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to CoDA UK, Ken R and Mary R.

May you find what you need from the recordings.

1 – Boundaries, Relationships and Resentments
(Presentation starts: 14m 22s)
2 – Abuse, Control and Family of Origin
(Presentation starts: 2m 32s)
3 – 12 Piece Toolkit – Relationship Recovery
(Presentation: 7m 55s)
4 – 12 Steps on a Daily Basis and Self Care
(Presentation starts: 4m 56s)
5 – Abandonment, anger and reconnecting with the inner child
(Presentation starts: 10m 50s)
6 – Reparenting ourselves, Letting go of Resentments, Allowing Ourselves to Grieve
(Presentation starts: 0m 55s)
7 – Recovery through Service
(Presentation starts: 4m 44s)
8 – Coda Fellowship
(Presentation starts: 2m 20s)
9 – Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable.
(Presentation starts: 5m 32s)
10 – Step 2 – Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
(Presentation starts: 3m 50s)
11 – Step 3 – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
(Presentation starts: 2m 20s)
12 – Step 4 – Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Step 5 – Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
(Presentation starts: 6m 36s)
13 – Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Step 7 – Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
(Presentation starts: 12m)
14 – Step 8 – Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
(Presentation starts 4m 08s )
15 – Step 10 – Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Step 11 – Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
(Presentation starts 2m 33s)
16 – Step 12 -Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message
to other co-dependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
(Presentation 3m 10s)

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Website Feedback

While we are developing this new website for CoDA we appreciate members’ input to ensure that the site works towards meeting Tradition Five “…..to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer”.

Should you identify any areas which you would like to provide feedback on, experience any technical issues, or have ideas on how the site can be improved, please provide your input through this form:

Website Feedback Form

Submissions are anonymous, however contact details may be provided should you wish to discuss the item further.

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About CoDA New to CoDA

The Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous

  1. We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other co-dependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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The Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity.
  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving higher power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
  3. The only requirement for membership in CoDA is a desire for healthy and loving relationships.
  4. Each group should remain autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or CoDA as a whole.
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose – to carry its message to other Co-Dependents who still suffer.
  6. A CoDA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the CoDA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim.
  7. Every CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
  8. Co-Dependents Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centres may employ special workers.
  9. CoDA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. CoDA has no opinion on outside issues; hence the CoDA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television and all other forms of public communication.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions; ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
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The Twelve Promises of Co-Dependents Anonymous

I can expect a miraculous change in my life by working the programme of Co-Dependents Anonymous. As I make an honest effort to work the Twelve Steps and follow the Twelve Traditions:

  1. I know a new sense of belonging. The feelings of emptiness and loneliness will disappear.
  2. I am no longer controlled by my fears. I overcome my fears and act with courage, integrity and dignity.
  3. I know a new freedom.
  4. I release myself from worry, guilt, and regret about my past and present. I am aware enough not to repeat it.
  5. I know a new love and acceptance of myself and others. I feel genuinely lovable, loving and loved.
  6. I learn to see myself as equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners.
  7. I am capable of developing and maintaining healthy and loving relationships. The need to control and manipulate others will disappear as I learn to trust those who are trustworthy.
  8. I learn that it is possible for me to mend – to become more loving, intimate and supportive. I have the choice of communicating with my family in a way which is safe for me and respectful of them.
  9. I acknowledge that I am a unique and precious creation.
  10. I no longer need to rely solely on others to provide my sense of worth.
  11. I trust the guidance I receive from my higher power and come to believe in my own capabilities.
  12. I gradually experience serenity, strength, and spiritual growth in my daily life.
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The Serenity Prayer


God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference
Grant me patience with the changes that take time
Appreciation of all that I have
Tolerance of those with different struggles
And the strength to get up and try again
One day at a time

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sponsorship

London Face to Face Sponsorship Workshop (Postponed) – Jan 2020

**** NOTE: Sponsorship workshops have been postponed following consideration of current health guidance ****

A copy of the latest sponsorship flyer with further details for our CoDA 2020 sponsorship workshops, including future dates, can be viewed or downloaded by clicking on this link:

CoDA Sponsorship Workshop dates 2020 Flyer

Are you looking for a sponsor?
Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
Are you interested in joining or setting up a step group?
Come along to listen and share your experience strength and hope about being a sponsee, a sponsor or being in a step group.
All our welcome.

Sponsorship Workshop Format:

Two separate CoDA meetings with a 15 minutes break
Only CoDA speakers.

Only CoDA approved literature.

No entrance fee.

7th Tradition collection at each meeting.
Surplus goes to Region.

Schedule on the day:
13:00 Meeting about One to One Sponsorship
14:30 Break
14:45 Meeting about Step Groups and Co-Sponsorship
15:45 Close. Self organising into sponsorship and step groups
16:00 Close

Venue: Waterloo Action Centre
Address: 14 Baylis Road, Lambeth, London, SE1 7AA

Some people have been able to find free parking nearby on previous Saturday workshops.

Are you willing to do a 10 minute Chair sharing your experience strength and hope (ESH) on working the steps? Or on being a CoDA Sponsor, or being Sponsored, working in a Step Group or as a Co-Sponsor?

For further queries, please email: sponsorship@coda-uk.org

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Past events

19th Jan – CoDA Mixed Retreat at Noddfa

Friday 17th January to Sunday 19th January 2020

Registration is Friday 17th January from 4pm (Dinner 6.30pm) and Ends Sunday 19th January at 3pm • NODDFA, Conwy Old Road, Penmaenmawr, North Wales LL34 6YF

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(6th Annual NODDFA Mixed Retreat in the N.W.)

After our very successful 5rd Mixed Retreat at the beginning of this year at Noddfa, we are happy to announce our 6th Annual Retreat again at Noddfa in January 2020.

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale – for full details of CoDA Approval, please refer to the CoDA UK section of the CoDA UK.

CoDA Website: http://www.coda-uk.com

The Codependents Anonymous Approved Mixed Retreat will adhere to the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Codependents Anonymous, adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous.

Codependents Anonymous is a spiritual program. 12 Step Meetings will be held throughout the weekend and CODA approved Literature will also be available. No outside speakers are involved.

There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

The Retreat will take place at Noddfa. Noddfa is home to a small, extremely kind and friendly spiritual group of religious Sisters and is a venue used by 12 Step and numerous other groups throughout the year. It is a lovely old house with views of the sea and the hills. The grounds are full of trees, colourful shrubs and flowers. There is also a walled vegetable garden, a labyrinth and many other hidden treasures.

NODDFA is a Welsh word meaning ‘haven’ or ‘refuge’. A place of peace and welcome, a place where you can regain energy. This is the venue we have again chosen for our Retreat and we hope it will be a time for you to relax and recharge while taking time to be self- aware.

During your stay, it is not compulsory to attend all the meetings if you do not wish to.

The beach is a 10 minute walk downhill, and obviously it takes longer coming back. The mountains are also accessible and the grounds around Noddfa are vast. Most of the bedrooms are for single occupancy and each floor has ample washing facilities and plenty of tea-making areas. Please bring a towel and a hot water bottle for extra comfort.

The price is £124 for accommodation and food, to be paid directly to NODDFA by cheque or BACS plus a £10 Registration Fee on arrival.

The rooms will be allocated on a first come first serve basis and, to ensure financial manageability, the final cut-off date for booking and full payment will be 6th December 2019 to avoid the Christmas Post.

Please speak with either Sister Patrice or Sister Mary-Jo to book and pay for your place at Noddfa mentioning the January 2020 Coda Mixed Retreat. There are limited places as this is a very popular event, so it is suggested you book as soon as possible.

Please also notify Gillian of your booking and your email address at gilliancoda@gmail.com.

Payment should be made out to NODDFA for the £124 and on the back naming the January 2020 Coda Mixed Retreat or by BACS via NatWest Bank Account Number: 04537696, Sort Code: 52-21-49.

NODDFA details are as follows:

Phone number: 01492-623473

Email: noddfapen@aol.com

Website: http://www.noddfa.org.uk

Any further CODA queries for the Retreat please contact Gillian on 07792-236888 and on email at gilliancoda@gmail.com . The food at Noddfa is wholesome and plentiful (and their soda bread is delicious!). If you need a special diet i.e. vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free etc., please inform Noddfa when you are booking directly with them and also contact Gillian for any further queries and to register your place etc. We are looking forward to an exciting and uplifting Retreat and to welcome new and previous participants.

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Past events

15th Dec – Shrewsbury Step Workshop

The next CoDA Shrewsbury Step Workshop will be on Step 12 to be held on Sunday 15th December 2019 from 13:00-16:00 at the group’s usual meeting place – St Winefrides Convent College Hill SY1 1LS. All are welcome.

Please note you are welcome to bring a packed lunch to eat in the break. We usually try to provide a hot drink & biscuit.

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B News

Ken & Mary Letter

Following the well received workshops held in London and Liverpool during October 2019, Ken and Mary have sent a letter of thanks to be shared with members.

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Regions

Role of Regions

These are regional groups formed by the meetings in parts of the UK to discuss issues raised by groups before taking them to the NSC, and to organise social events and workshops within their area. Currently there are two active regions.

The North Region was established in 2017 and meets four times a year. All CoDA groups within the North, Scotland, Ireland and North Wales area are encouraged to send along a GSR. Details of forthcoming meetings can be found on the events page.

The region focuses on group issues and projects, group support, promoting events, workshops and sponsorship with the aim of encouraging the continual growth of the fellowship.

Region – Examples of Regional Matters

  • The health of meetings – use of CoDA literature, 12 Traditions, group size
  • Identifying group issues and requests – the eyes and ears of the groups
  • Events – socials/conventions/workshops
  • Sponsorship
  • Literature

NSC – Examples of National Matters

  • Literature
  • CoDA UK Website
  • Where to Find – Meeting Lists
  • Sponsorship Guidelines
  • Service Guidelines
  • Group Conscience Guidelines
  • Sharing Guidelines
  • CoDA Shares
  • New Meeting Packs
  • Public Information

Regional Approval Process

  1. An issue/project arises from group or regional level
  2. Region drafts an initial document or response to the issue/project
  3. The document/response/project is then sent out to all the groups and posted on the website for feedback by a set deadline – the document is clearly marked as a ‘draft’ awaiting approval
  4. The document/response/project is then revised and put forward to the Region for final approval
  5. The Region decides on a proposal for the use of the document/response/project
  6. A request is sent to the NSC to approve the document/project etc and the proposal for its use – this is either done by email or through the NSC Regional Liaison or a Regional Representative is sent with the request to the next NSC meeting.
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Regions

Developing Regions

NSC Support for New Regions

The NSC would like to support the development of new Regions across the UK so that meetings from all over the UK have a voice and are able to provide a support network to local meetings. If you would like further information or support on how to set up a Region, if one does not currently exist in your area, then please do contact the North Region northregion@codauk.org or the London & South East Region lseregion@codauk.org 

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About CoDA Uncategorized

Welcome to Co-Dependents Anonymous

Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery — learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.

We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.

This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives.

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Meeting Minutes

NSC Meeting Minutes

Please find below the meeting minutes for previous
National Service Committee (NSC) meetings.

Click the files below to download

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Treasurer Report

NSC Treasurer Report Spring 2020

CoDA UK treasurer reports will be published here.

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NSC Agenda

NSC Agenda April 2020

Agenda to be posted here

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Regions

North Region

The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland but all members are welcome to attend. There are quarterly regional meetings, previously held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future.

CoDA North Region meetings and workshops are normally held quarterly on the last Saturday of January, April, July and October.

The next North Region event is a Literature Workshop on 29th October 2022 from 2-4.30pm – virtual doors open 1.45. More details here.

Zoom details for each meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/85208910153?pwd=NjZSd1VnMGVBcWVNTGJoaG1xc1JoUT09

Meeting ID: 852 0891 0153
Passcode: 176130

Please email northregion@codauk.org if you’d like to be involved in helping to run future meetings or workshops.

All CoDA members are welcome.

Please email northregion@codauk.org with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.

We only have one member in service at the North Region (Comms Secretary) and invite members to join the committee to ensure the Regional group can continue. Roles include Chair, Secretary, Treasurer, Literature Secretary, Workshop Organisers, General Committee members and any other service roles you would like to offer.

CoDA North Intergroup Contributions
If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email northregion@codauk.org to request the bank details.

NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.

Keep in touch…
If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email northregion@codauk.org with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.

In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.

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London South-East Region

The London & South East Region (LSER) is an area-wide group formed to enable connection between the CoDA groups in our area – Greater London, Kent, Essex and the South East coastal area, some parts of Cambridge, Suffolk & Surrey (currently the LSER is the only Region covering the South of the UK so there are no hard and fast area boundaries, you can be part of the Region if you want to be).

Meetings are principally a forum for Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to discuss CoDA business, share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and discuss putting on events and other community building activities, such as workshops, conventions or visiting speakers.

We have a GSRs forum at every meeting for GSRs to connect with other groups in sharing experience about issues affecting their groups.

Meetings are online every 3 months, usually on the 2nd Saturday in Jan, Apr, July and Oct between 1.30 and 5pm.
At present we have a Chair, Treasurer, Communications Secretary and Regional Representative, and we hope to attract members into service to be able to carry out other community activities as mentioned above.

To contact us, or if you or your group would like to be kept informed about LSER committee meetings, receive agendas and minutes of committee meetings, and any other regional announcements, please email the comms secretary, Annie W at coda.uk.se.region@gmail.com with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member. In the email please state that you give permission for LSER to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out LSER information and announcements only. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.

If your group would like to send a 7th Tradition contribution please contact the LSER Treasurer at treasurer.lser@gmail.com to request bank details.

To request an item to be added to the next LSER agenda please download this form and send to Andy (Chair) at shellac777@yahoo.com

If you’d like to send a GSR report you’re welcome to use this form and send to Annie (Comms Sec) at coda.uk.se.region@gmail.com or report orally at the meeting.

What are the advantages of connecting meetings to form an Intergroup?

  • Responses from members (sharing experience, strength and hope):
  • Having a voice
  • Being the voice from your group and to your group (if you are a Group Service Representative)
  • Connecting with other members
  • Sharing different ideas and support for putting on events including retreats, conventions or workshops.
  • Practicing recovery skills, using the traditions and carrying the message (Tradition Twelve)
  • Working as a group (you don’t have to do it all yourself)!
  • Joining together to support the Voting Entities in sending delegates to the CoDA Service Conference.

More information on Regions/Intergroups here:

https://coda.org/outreach/connecting-members/voting-entity-intergroup-support/

3rd Oct – London South East Region Meeting

The next meeting of the LSER committee is on Saturday Oct 3rd at 2pm to 4pm. The meeting will be opened at 1.45pm. GSRs and all CoDA members are warmly invited to attend. The invite is below. At the last meeting Andy B was elected as Chair, Annie W as Communications Secretary, Carmel T as […]

LSER Committee Meeting July 2020

Dear CoDA London South East Region (LSER) Members, I hope this finds you well. This is a reminder and your invitation for this Saturday’s 11th July 1pm London South East Region meeting. The aim of this meeting is to vote in the LSER Committee.  The Zoom login details are listed below. The below list shows which service […]

LSER Update 30/6

Service positions available Tuesday 30th June Dear CoDA London South East Region Members, An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020. During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed […]