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Mary R (of Ken & Mary) and other great shares etc. Local UK time 5pm until midnight both days 24th & 25th October 2020 to celebrate CoDA’s birthday in Phoenix, Arizona where it all began in 1986 – 34 years ago in October – see you there!
Or dial on one of the numbers below +44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237, +44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
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< DRAFT > Schedule of events
1. Welcome – moments silence, preamble, 12 steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Concepts of Service and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests and crafting of ideas for agenda items into proposals for action.
2. Introductions and Feelings check – with meetings info from General Service Representatives and AOB requests from any attendee who wishes to have an issue discussed that isn’t on the agenda. 20 mins
3. Voting entity established – and appointment of a spiritual time keeper 5 mins
4. Signing off the minutes from 8th Aug 2020.
5. Region Reports CoDA North and LSER
6. Communications update – Dipak – Update on Meetings / CoDA NSC email account / other comms issues
COMFORT BREAK 20 MINS
7. Treasury issues – Bruno Treasury and expense reports
8. Website General update – Pete + GDPR – Guy
9. PI subcommittee update / next steps / discussion – Kate F
Shared with thanks to Arizona CoDA Events Committee
Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on living the third step through these unusual times.
Two and half hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.
Copy of exercises included below video.
CoDA Third Step Prayer – Exercise
God, I give to You all that I am and all that I will be for Your healing and direction.
What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you are for your Higher Power’s healing and direction”?
What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you will be your Higher Power’s healing and direction?”
Make new this day as I release all my worries and fears, knowing that You are by my side.
How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you in releasing all your worries and fears?
How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you during this time of pendemic?
Please help me to open myself to Your love,
What is your process to opening yourself up to your Higher Power’s Love?
To allow Your love to heal my wounds,
How do you experience your Higher Powerr’s Love healing your wounds?
And to allow Your love to flow through me and from me and from me to those around me.
What is your experience emotionally, intellectually, physically and spirtitually when you allow your Higher Power’s Love to flow through you to others?
May Your will be done this day and always.
What do you generally think your Higher Power’s will is for you? Is it Loving? Demanding? Fearful? Affirming? Joyful?
Possible Solutions and Tools for living our 3rd Step while dealing with advertsity, including the pandemic.
These tools are meant for suggestions only. Some are meant, clearly, to be practised on a daily basis, while others can be practised every week or two.
Remember that Self-Care is always about action, which is also the process of CoDA recovery.
Natural tools to deal with depression and anxiety through loving self-care
Pray Daily… this is always #1, connect and talk with your loving Higher Power, always and in all ways.
Step Work (possibly: I am powerless over the pandemic and feel like my life is unmanageable… we altered this a bit 🙂
Breathe Deeply, Exhale Slowly… repeat and repeat
Connect with others: (Zoom CoDA Meetings, Face-Time with friends and family, Phone Calls, Email, Social Media)
Zoom CoDA Study Groups using the CoDA Blue Book, The CoDA Green Workbook and/or CoDA Pamphlets and Booklets.
Ask yourself: “What would my Higher Power say about…?” “How would my Higher Power comfort me?” etc.
Daily dialog with your Inner Child and Inner Teen.
Journal your thoughts and feelings
Releasing Emotional Energy from your body (see attachment)
Do a Fear List Exercise:
“Write out one liner’s of what you are afraid of, anxious over, worried about or fearful of.
Separate the fears into 3 categories:
Problem Solving Fears: these are fears that you can get into solution with like: I’m low on groceries and need to get to the market before they close.” We can intervene on these fears by taking action through problem solving… like, going to the market and getting groceries before they close.
Fears of Shame: fears where we are afraid of looking dumb, stupid, not enough etc. (our negative self-talk). We can intervene on these and affirm the loving truth about who we are and who our Loving Higher Power see us to be.
General Fears of Bad Things Possibly Happening: this includes self-doubt, what-if’s, Ya Buts. We can intervene on these to stop scarig ourselves about the future and instead look for solutions, especially coming back to our 3rd Step and being willing to turn our fears over to the care of God as we understand God.
Stick to a reasonable daily schedule
Bathe and brush your teeth
Participate in some form of hobby, recreation, and productivity
Play games with friends online
Play games with family
Find new creative ways to play and have fun
Healthy Diet (avoiding too many stimulants like sugar and caffeine). 21 If you are in a relationship at home, make sure that you create consistent time apart to avoid circumstantial enmeshment.
Is you have children at home, shared parenting is vital to everyone. If that is not possible, then asking for help from others is of great benefit in order to have some relief and balance in your responsibilities and for the children as well.
Get outside for sunshine and fresh air.
Watch the stars at night… notice the expensiveness of the Universe
If possible, drive to a new destination every 2-3 days
No matter what, know that you are not alone. We truly are all in this together. Practising loving self-care and loving self-acceptance of where you are right here, right now. It is enough!
Mary’s Closing reading
Our CoDA 3rd Step “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God” helps to remind us that loving self-care is an important part of being “willing to be willing”. If we are not taking care of ourselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually or sexually, we can be more susceptible to returning to a “conflict in gods” making ourselves, others, even our feelings more important than our Higher Power.
“Making a decision” includes intentional thought, intentional surrender and intentional willingness to allow our Higher Power to guide us, to teach us, to heal us, to LOVE us right here, right now.
The tools we have listed are helpful for self-care, self-love and loving surrender. This is a short list, for there are engless ways we can love ourselves. In taking action to love our Higher Power and ourselves, living the 3rd Step is much easier.
It is always important to remember that we are human beings, loveable and fallible. There is no perfection in recovery. No perfection in life. It is a process made from a beautiful loveing heart that we continue on this journey.
CoDA WSC 2020 – starts Monday 24th August There is no registration fee, to attend as an observer contact email@example.com and register on the CoDA Eventbrite page as an observer.
Closer to the event you will be given a private Youtube Live Stream address to follow proceedings.
Starts: Mon 24th Aug Ends: Wed 26th Aug Timings: 4pm – 9:30pm (UK Time)
Note: Do not share the Youtube Live Stream address
What is it? The CoDA Service Conference (CSC) is CoDA World’s annual business meeting. The CSC is held each year in order to transact CoDA World business through the group conscience process. The location varies from year to year to support and help grow CoDA communities around the world.” This year it is virtual
Who can attend? Anyone that would like to observe the CSC process is welcome… [The only people who get a vote and a voice are] … Delegates and Board members [who] attend the CSC. A delegate is an individual in the fellowship who is elected by their Voting Entity to represent its wishes at the CSC. Committee Chairs, who also attend, can be granted voice, but no vote by the delegates at CSC, through group conscience.
What is a voting entity? A Voting Entity is a group of members who represent CoDA in an area of the country or world. Ours is CodaUK Motions presented by a Voting Entity are called Voting Entity Issues.
Is your group covered for public liability insurance? Does your room rent include public liability insurance? If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim Who would the claim be made against? who would be liable to pay?
Several CoDA groups who rent rooms are unsure of the answer to both these questions and believe they are covered by their venues insurance policy. Without reading the small print of the lease and asking specific questions to the Landlord it’s not always obvious.
Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group, in the event of a claim is personally liable to meet all costs.
In 2019, CoDA UK contacted all groups requesting they check if the rent they pay for their rooms includes Public Liability Insurance. Many groups discovered they were not covered which led to CoDA UK purchasing a group policy for those groups who wanted to be covered. Several groups later approached us and paid to be added to the policy as their venue required a copy for their landlord to continue renting out the room.
The cost for each group to be covered last year was £50 per annum. A few groups last year paid the amount over several weeks. If your group would like to purchase cover and be included in the CoDA group insurance or if you have any questions regarding the policy, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org before the 26th March 2020.