Frank – Sponsorship Committee Host – Aug 2020
I remember when I started in CoDA, it took me a long time to find a home group where I felt at home. When I found that group, I hid out on the back row, not talking to anyone, escaping at the end of the serenity prayer. It took me a long time to realize I could talk to people after. And longer after that to start doing service.
I would recommend finding a CoDA group on Zoom which suits you, where it feels like home, where you can hear shares of Experience, Strength and Hope.
Once there, and you hear someone share who you identify with, reach out to them through the chat box when sharing ends. I’m finding this WhatsApp group a learning experience.
We don’t really have trusted servants here with roles. There are a few admins. I’m one. We don’t have newcomers reps etc. I think we’re still finding our feet.
I do service on the committee for the sponsorship workshop which is running on Zoom now too.
In the meantime, I’ve just seen this page for newcomers: https://sites.google.com/view/2020socalconference/welcome and this page on the same site for sponsorship: https://sites.google.com/view/lacoda/sponsorship?authuser=0
Some people are successful in their search for a sponsor through Outreach. I attended face to face meetings many years ago and found someone there who was willing to sponsor me.
I chose him because I could hear his recovery in his shares, and he could hear my willingness to work the steps in my shares. You might be able to do this in the online meetings.
I have also seen many people join step groups, who couldn’t find sponsors. The step group lets all the participants work the steps together.
When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help, I want the hand of Fellowship always to be there. And for that: I am responsible.
A number of virtual network groups have been set up to share experience, strength and hope between meetings, and to provide fellowship and contacts across CoDA UK for a number of purposes.
To join, or find out more email the contacts below:
|Name / Overview||Focus / Contact|
|CoDA Step Group Online|
This group is for CoDA members to coordinate themselves so they can form step groups online.
Find out more!
|CoDA Outreach Group|
This group is for CoDA members to coordinate Outreach calls. A place to find someone to share with (rather than share in channel).
|CoDA Outreach Call
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|CoDA Chair Finders|
Join this group if you are having trouble finding speakers for your own meeting, or would like to volunteer to speak at other meetings outside your own.
Email admin with your first name, local group and saying why you want to join (chair/chairfinder).
Find out more !
|CoDA Sponsor Support|
This group is to support new and potential CoDA sponsors to have one to one conversations about sponsorship with more experience sponsors. Please post requests for outreach.
|CoDA Sponsor Support
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Is your group covered for public liability insurance?
Does your room rent include public liability insurance?
If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim
Who would the claim be made against? who would be liable to pay?
Several CoDA groups who rent rooms are unsure of the answer to both these questions and believe they are covered by their venues insurance policy. Without reading the small print of the lease and asking specific questions to the Landlord it’s not always obvious.
Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group, in the event of a claim is personally liable to meet all costs.
In 2019, CoDA UK contacted all groups requesting they check if the rent they pay for their rooms includes Public Liability Insurance. Many groups discovered they were not covered which led to CoDA UK purchasing a group policy for those groups who wanted to be covered. Several groups later approached us and paid to be added to the policy as their venue required a copy for their landlord to continue renting out the room.
The cost for each group to be covered last year was £50 per annum. A few groups last year paid the amount over several weeks. If your group would like to purchase cover and be included in the CoDA group insurance or if you have any questions regarding the policy, please send an email to email@example.com before the 26th March 2020.
Sponsorship in CoDA – Workshop held in Birmingham 21/4/07
I am a recovering codependent who normally attends the Birmingham Branch of CoDA, and the following relates my experience of the above workshop. There were two speakers: Emma, who shared her experience of individual sponsorship, and Hilary, who shared her experience of co-sponsorship. Kay, the speaker on group sponsorship, could not be at the workshop so sent her written account to be read out.
There was some discussion following the talks, when both speakers mentioned how healing the sponsoring relationship can be, in terms of providing an opportunity for identification with another person, and the feelings of reassurance and acceptance that this can give. It can really relieve the feelings of isolation and shame that many codependents carry. For myself, I came away with the realisation that by setting clear boundaries for oneself, it makes it easier for the other person to define themselves. And, I guess, that the ideal sponsor-sponsee relationship can provide a blueprint for managing all relationships – within CoDA and outside.
Sponsorship in CoDA – Workshop held in Birmingham 21/4/07 The speaker began by stating how the role of sponsor in a one-to-one situation is a GIFT from recovery; ideally a mutual and balanced relationship and very much a two-way street. The sponsored member may have much to give. She clarified the role of the sponsor […]
Sharing the Experience, Strength and Hope I’ve Found in a CoDA Step Work Group My name is Kay and I’m a recovering co-dependent. I have been in the fellowship for just under three years. I joined the fellowship following a bad break-up which left me broken spiritually, untrusting of my own judgement and merits and […]
Sponsorship in CoDA – Workshop held in Birmingham 21/4/07 The speaker described how she had been in CoDA for around 3-4 years, following sponsoring in another 12 step fellowship. There was a lack of available sponsors, and the co-sponsoring relationship was set up in the light of this. She described the ‘mechanics’ of the relationship, […]
Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery — learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our own understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives.
The London & South East Region (LSER) became operational again at the last meeting on July 11th, and a committee has been formed consisting of Chair, Communications Secretary, Minutes Secretary and GSR (Regional Rep).
We’ll be holding regular meetings every 3 or 4 months (to be decided at the next meeting) and we’re hoping the LSER will be a forum for GSRs and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and to discuss putting on events and other community building activities.
We currently have a vacancy for the post of Treasurer, other service positions will become available as we look to do various projects and work out what we need in the Region.
NEXT MEETING : October 3rd – 1:45pm
(Meeting runs: 2pm – 4pm)
All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend
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Meeting ID: 842 0633 2680
Dear CoDA London South East Region (LSER) Members, I hope this finds you well. This is a reminder and your invitation for this Saturday’s 11th July 1pm London South East Region meeting. The aim of this meeting is to vote in the LSER Committee. The Zoom login details are listed below. The below list shows which service […]
Service positions available Tuesday 30th June Dear CoDA London South East Region Members, An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020. During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed […]