• My first meeting

  • Can I bring a friend?

    If a meeting is open, and most are, you are welcome to bring a friend or family member to that meeting.

    Your first meeting
  • Do I need to register to attend?

    No, all you do is turn up. If there are contact details listed you can reach out; alternatively just turn up and say you are a newcomer. If there is a requirement to register to attend a meeting via a particular online platform, instructions will be stated in the meeting entry.

  • Is this a religious programme?

    Definitely not, each member, if they decide to work a CoDA programme, defines a Higher Power of their understanding. This usually becomes clearer after you attend 6 meetings and hear the relevant steps being read.

  • There are no contact details for a CoDA group – is it still open?

    All meetings are autonomous and provide their own information. The most up-to-date information is listed on: CoDA Meetings List

  • My friend is codependent. How can I help them?

    You could provide a link to our website where there is more information. It is for each individual person to decide if they wish to attend a meeting or not.

  • There isn’t a meeting in my area.

    Did you know many CoDA UK meetings are online at present and some are held online permanently? See: Online CoDA Meetings

  • I need advice on my life/relationship

    CoDA is a fellowship where we do not give advice and we do not take the place of counsellors. A lot of our members in similar spaces discovered after attending 6 meetings that they had better insight/direction on what they should do for themselves.Your First CoDA meeting

  • What Does Working the Program Offer?

    The patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. They may be particularly useful to newcomers.

    Many others before you have also identified similar traits and patterns and came to make a choice to learn about CoDA and what working the program can offer them.

    Find out more about Patterns of Recovery

  • How do I become a member?

    The only requirement for membership in CoDA is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. Tradition 3. Simply by attending CoDA meetings you become a member; there are no fees to pay. You do not need to register or sign up in advance.

  • What is healthy communication?

    Healthy communication is clear, concise, and honest. To improve our communication, we first need to know our hearts and minds clearly.

    Codependents continually need to ask:

    “What do I think, feel, and need?”

    Find out more about Patterns of Recovery

  • How do I order literature?

    If your enquiry is about how to order literature, please contact the approved literature supplier here:

  • How is CoDA different from other 12 step programmes such as AA and Al-Anon?

    Other 12 Step groups support people or friends of people, who have addictions such as alcohol. CoDA supports people to create healthy relationships starting with themselves, whether or not addictions exist in their lives.

    Am I Co-Dependent?
  • Does CoDA provide counselling?

    CoDA is a 12 Step Fellowship and peer support group. It aims to create a safe environment for those wishing for recovery from dysfunctional relationships, providing anonymity and freedom from judgement or feedback. In CoDA we share our own experience, strength, and hope. We do not give advice.

    Establishing Boundaries
  • What is the difference between CoDA, Al-Anon and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA/ACoA)?

    Al-Anon and Adult Children of Alcoholics are Fellowships for those who are spouses, family members or significant others of alcoholics. CoDA is a Fellowship for those who have difficulty in maintaining healthy, functional relationships with others, regardless of whether those others have alcohol, drug or other problems. Members of CoDA may also be members of these other Twelve Step Fellowships.

    Am I Co-Dependent?
  • How much does it cost to attend?

    There is no charge for attendance. CoDA meetings are self supporting. Contribute as you are able.

  • My situation is….

    Regardless of your situation, your first step is to go to a meeting. Go to at least 6 meetings before you decide whether you can get what you need in CoDA. Meetings are like people, they have different personalities. Try different meetings to find one with which you can relate. Read CoDA literature and Keep Coming Back.

  • I’ve heard mention of free CoDA leaflets: what are they and where can I find them?

    CoDA offers a set of free leaflets covering newcomers, those working the steps, sponsorshop and beyond. Download below:

    Am I Codependent?
    Attending Meetings
    Communication and Recovery
    Establishing Boundaries in Recovery
    Patterns of Recovery
    Recovery from Codependence – An Introduction
    Sponsorship in CoDA
    Using the Twelve Traditions
    Welcome to Co-Dependents Anonymous
    What is CoDA?
    Your First Meeting
    CoDA Australia – First 14 Days
    CoDA Canada – Newcomers Package
  • What is a CoDA meeting?

    A CoDA meeting is a group of people who come together around their shared desire for healthy and loving relationships.

    Four foundational documents form the structure of every meeting: (Welcome, Preamble, 12 steps, 12 traditions).

    These documents are read at every meeting to promote CoDA unity. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity.

  • Why do we practice positive affirmations?

    Positive affirmations are a powerful tool in the Recovery process.

    Codependence is a condition caused by growing up in a shame-based, emotionally dishonest society which teaches us false beliefs about the nature and purpose of life.

    A selection of positive affirmations

    CoDA Arizona frequently share excepts of a comparable nature from In This Moment a book which is published by CoRE, and available for purchase via CoDA Literature

  • Where do I begin?

    Recovery is a process that has no right or wrong starting point. Simply begin where you are and let the information come to you. This answer is often times frustrating to newcomers, but each person is an individual with a unique life and set of circumstances, so a single answer is not realistic. The guidance offered here is to take it slowly, read literature, attend meetings, peruse the message boards and take a deep breath.

  • Meetings

  • Attending meetings

    Meetings are a safe environment without crosstalk or feedback, created by guidelines which cross all CoDA meetings.

    Each person speaking is listened to without interruption or comment, and is not given advice.

    For some of us this can be the first time in our lives that we are listened to without being interrupted, misinterpreted, or criticized. There is never any requirement to speak if we do not wish to.

    Patterns of Recovery
  • Could you send me details of meetings in my area ?

    Please refer to the full list of active meetings for the most up-to-date information we hold: CoDA Meetings

  • Is < insert name > meeting on tonight/still running?

    All meetings are autonomous, please ask the contact directly. You can see the date their information was last updated on the meeting entry. CoDA Meetings

  • How do I list a new CoDA meeting?

    You can find details on: Meeting Details

  • How do I start a CoDA meeting?

    You can find details on: How to start a meeting

  • Tradition 7 – CoDA Donations

    If your enquiry is about how to send your meeting’s Seventh Tradition contributions to CoDA UK, please click here and follow the instructions.

  • Where can I request CoDA flyers/leaflets?

    If you need to request any documents, eg booking forms or flyers, please email:

  • My venue has asked if CoDA have a “Safeguarding Policy”. What is it? What is its purpose?

    CoDA UK prepared a document for all meetings. It offers guidance on meetings, sponsorship and protecting individuals safely within CoDA.

    CoDA UK Safeguarding Policy
  • What is crosstalk?

    Crosstalk can be: giving unsolicited feedback, advice-giving, answering, making you and we statements, interrogating, debating, criticising, controlling or dominating. It may also include: minimising another person’s feeling or experiences, physical contact or touch, body movements, such as nodding one’s head, calling another person present by name, or verbal sounds and noises.

    Guide to Crosstalk
  • What is the thirty second rule?

    Occasionally, a member(s) may engage in unsafe behaviour by not respecting the boundaries of others, or someone may perceive that to happen. In such a situation, any member may call for a “time out” or “thirty seconds”. During a time out or thirty seconds, everyone ceases talking and spends time seeking guidance from Higher Power. At the end of the thirty seconds, someone calls “time” and members may choose to say the Serenity Prayer before resuming the meeting.” – Disagreement, Mediation, and Resolution, page 1.

  • I’d like a copy of CoDA flyers/booking forms

    If you need to request any documents, eg booking forms or flyers, please email:

  • Does CoDA UK have an umbrella insurance policy that would cover our meeting for free?

    No. CoDA does not have an umbrella insurance policy that covers individual meetings. Intergroups or meetings may organize and purchase their own insurance.

  • Does my meeting need Public Liability Insurance?

    In 2019, CoDA UK contacted all groups requesting they check if the rent they pay for their rooms includes Public Liability Insurance. Many groups discovered they were not covered which led to CoDA UK purchasing a group policy for those groups who wanted to be covered.

    If your group would like to purchase cover and be included in the CoDA group insurance or if you have any questions regarding the policy, please send an email to

  • Sponsorship

  • I can’t find a sponsor.

    We do not keep records of volunteers willing to sponsor at this moment. If you are unable to find a sponsor at your home meeting, some people will attend as many different meetings as they can and ask individuals directly if they would be willing to sponsor them. Some meetings pass around a form where members write down if they are willing to sponsor.

    You could reach out to the member networks to join a CoDA Step Group Online Find out more

    Start your own Step Workgroup

    Or you could attend a sponsorship workshop

  • What’s co-sponsoring and can I try it?

    Co-sponsoring occurs when two CoDA members sponsor each other. Co-sponsors meet or call regularly to share what they are learning about the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. Co-sponsors may choose to have another CoDA member guide them, especially through difficult situations or when they get stuck.

    CoDAUK members have setup numerous whatsapp groups to offer support to CoDA members looking to start working the steps Find out more

  • What is a step group and how can I join one?

    Another option to working the steps is to start a step group with members of your home group which is a great way to start working the steps together. Find out more

    CoDAUK members have setup numerous whatsapp groups to offer support to CoDA members looking to start working the steps Find out more

  • What is a virtual Sponsorship workshop?

    We have held two Zoom Sponsorship Workshops in 2020. Let us know if you want to be on the mailing list for future workshops by emailing:

  • Can you tell me more about how to run a sponsorship workshop ?

    Here is a written script that any CoDA member can use to lead a sponsorship workshop: Find out more

  • I’d like to sponsor but Im not sure I have enough recovery

    In recent months a number of member networks have been set up including “CoDA Sponsor Support” where more experienced sponsors are happy to speak to those thinking about sponsoring. Head over to Member Networks – to find out more

    Resources for Sponsors:12 Tips for Sponsors CoDA – 30 Questions The First 14 Days
  • Im not sure Im ready to start the steps yet but Id like to share with another CoDA Member

    In recent months a number of member networks have been set up including “CoDA Outreach Group” where you can arrange an outreach call with another CoDA member. Head over to Member Networks – to find out more

  • Information for Professionals

  • Can a therapist start/facilitate a CoDA meeting?

    We ask that therapists, life coaches, mental health professionals, and all paid professionals start meetings or participate in meetings only as an individual recovering codependent and never in a professional capacity.

    In “Building CoDA Community: Healthy Meetings Matter” page 17 states:

    In CoDA, no one is paid to share experience, strength, and hope, whether at meetings, as sponsors, or in any other Twelve Step related activity.

    Professionals attending CoDA meetings do so as members only, and do not use the Fellowship to further their business interests.

  • May I, as a professional, attend a CoDA meeting?

    You are welcome to attend any “open” meeting. Identify yourself by first name only, not as a professional. You are not required to share. Please do not give advice; sharing is about our own experiences. There are no dues or fees; we are self supporting through our own contributions.

  • May I share CoDA materials with my clients?

    You can find pamphlets and other service documents, as well as meetings, by going to the CoDA (US) website. An Introductory brochure is located on the website. Information for Professionals

  • In Fellowship

  • How do I know if service work is right for me?

    Helping people because someone helped you is a way of saying thank you. It helps you stay focused on the road of recovery and stay connected with others. Almost every person at meetings can provide some type of service, even if it is just sharing a bit of their story, or preparing the coffee or tea. Giving back what you have been given. Twelve step programmes cannot function without the services provided by members.

  • How do I find out about events and retreats?

    CoDA UK meeting GSRs, meeting contacts and individual members may join the CoDA UK mailing list, to receive CoDA UK communications on topics such as upcoming workshops, retreats, CoDA committee meetings and study sessions and other key information. Please send an email to: to sign up to the mailing list. By doing so, you agree to opt in to receive communications from CoDA UK. You can remove your name from this mailing list at any time by emailing

  • How do I get involved in service?

    There are many ways to be involved, from the local meeting to the UK Regions, NSC and CoDA World.

    Service includes setting up for a meeting, leading meetings, starting a new meeting and representing your group at the local community, group or Voting Entity.

    If you are a writer, please submit a recovery story to be added to CoDA Shares.

    Take a look at the different committees listed on the website and follow up with one that seems interesting or has an opening. As at the group level, each service position has a term limit to ensure healthy rotation of service in CoDA.

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