A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions
Why is service part of recovery?
Those who have gone before us recognize that service is critical to recovery and is part of the Twelfth step. Service work is a place to practice recovery skills and extend our recovery to new areas of our lives. At the group level, CoDA members carry the message in many ways, by sharing in meetings, speaking to newcomers (with a focus on providing information rather than giving advice) and trying to adhere to CoDA principles in meetings and elsewhere in their lives. Members can start practicing these types of service from early on in their recovery.
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Per the 2nd tradition, For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority, a loving higher power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. Developing a group conscience requires an informed fellowship, & to be effective trusted servants those you’ve elected must know the group conscience of the fellowship.
Power of Connections through Loving & Healthy Relationships or Service
Virtual Workshops and Speakers: Free Registration via Eventbrite. Suggested Donation $10. After you register through Eventbrite you will receive additional instructions via email to register for the Zoom meeting. Agenda will also follow via email.
Are you looking for a sponsor? Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor? Are you interested in joining or setting up a step group?
This workshop is not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part.
Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a home group, joining WhatsApp groups (reach out via CoDA Member Networks) and finding a Step Group.
Come along to listen and share your experience strength and hope about being a sponsee, a sponsor or being in a step group.
No Registration required to attend this event. Zoom limit of 100 people
Next dates: 27 February 2021. Future dates to be decided.
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1-5pm online, with programmed breaks during the session
At a National Service Committee (NSC) group conscience meeting on 5th December 2020 it was agreed that there would be a Group Inventory meeting conducted as a priority. This is to help us reflect on our service, to carry out our service roles in a healthy way and to share about our experience in service with the wider fellowship. It will take place instead of our quarterly business meeting.
We invite the fellowship to join us for this session of reflection and discussion, and hope that the experience will assist in sharing the message of service and healthy groups with the fellowship. Group inventories can be used for step groups, home groups and service groups, and allow us to focus on how the traditions and our ultimate authority, a loving Higher Power as expressed to our group conscience, guide our work and our daily lives.
The session will end with a period of reflection to determine the way forward for some of the organisational challenges the NSC has been discussing in recent meetings. This will include next steps on how regularly the NSC meets, and confirmation of the next meeting where regular business will resume, including items of business carried over from previous meetings.
If you would like to attend, please email email@example.com to register for the meeting link, any time before the meeting, stating which group you attend most regularly. Details of how to join, what software platform you will need and more details on how the inventory will be carried out will be circulated the week before the event.
The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. There are quarterly regional meetings, usually held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future. The meeting normally takes the format of a service meeting in the morning, and an open CoDA meeting in the afternoon.
The next CoDA North Region meeting will be held on:
Saturday 30 January 2021
Times: 10.15 for 10.30am-13.00pm and 2.00pm-3.30pm
CoDA North is holding our quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the North region meetings (which include Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland).
Join us online/by phone to discuss our region’s CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed but all members are welcome to attend.
If you have any business your group would like to be discussed at the morning meeting, please mention it when you email for the password so that we can put it on the agenda. If possible, the agenda will be circulated in advance to all those registered.
Join us for an open CoDA sharing meeting with fellows from around the North region. This will be run along the lines of a normal CoDA meeting.
NOTE:Meeting Password: For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email firstname.lastname@example.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on the day of the meeting.
We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend the afternoon meeting before 10am.
Or dial in on one of the numbers below using the above meeting ID and the password:
+44 330 088 5830
+44 131 460 1196
+44 20 3481 5237
+44 20 3481 5240
+44 20 8080 6591
+44 20 8080 6592
All CoDA members are welcome.
Not able to attend? Please email email@example.com with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.
CoDA North Intergroup Contributions If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email firstname.lastname@example.org to request the bank details.
NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.
Keep in touch… If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email email@example.com with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.
In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.
The next meeting of the LSER committee is on Saturday Oct 3rd at 2pm to 4pm. The meeting will be opened at 1.45pm. GSRs and all CoDA members are warmly invited to attend. The invite is below. At the last meeting Andy B was elected as Chair, Annie W as Communications Secretary, Carmel T as […]
Dear CoDA London South East Region (LSER) Members, I hope this finds you well. This is a reminder and your invitation for this Saturday’s 11th July 1pm London South East Region meeting. The aim of this meeting is to vote in the LSER Committee. The Zoom login details are listed below. The below list shows which service […]
Service positions available Tuesday 30th June Dear CoDA London South East Region Members, An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020. During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed […]
Email registration is required to receive meeting ID access, And phone numbers for audio only callers.
Thank you for your support of CoDA safe meetings.
All are welcome to join listen or share their recovery experience, strength and hope. Holiday stories, singing, dancing, reciting, reading, yodeling, as well as short music Instrumentals such as accordion, piano, guitar, soft drumming and more.
Shared with thanks to Arizona CoDA Events Committee
Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on living the third step through these unusual times.
Two and half hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.
Copy of exercises included below video.
CoDA Third Step Prayer – Exercise
God, I give to You all that I am and all that I will be for Your healing and direction.
What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you are for your Higher Power’s healing and direction”?
What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you will be your Higher Power’s healing and direction?”
Make new this day as I release all my worries and fears, knowing that You are by my side.
How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you in releasing all your worries and fears?
How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you during this time of pendemic?
Please help me to open myself to Your love,
What is your process to opening yourself up to your Higher Power’s Love?
To allow Your love to heal my wounds,
How do you experience your Higher Powerr’s Love healing your wounds?
And to allow Your love to flow through me and from me and from me to those around me.
What is your experience emotionally, intellectually, physically and spirtitually when you allow your Higher Power’s Love to flow through you to others?
May Your will be done this day and always.
What do you generally think your Higher Power’s will is for you? Is it Loving? Demanding? Fearful? Affirming? Joyful?
Possible Solutions and Tools for living our 3rd Step while dealing with advertsity, including the pandemic.
These tools are meant for suggestions only. Some are meant, clearly, to be practised on a daily basis, while others can be practised every week or two.
Remember that Self-Care is always about action, which is also the process of CoDA recovery.
Natural tools to deal with depression and anxiety through loving self-care
Pray Daily… this is always #1, connect and talk with your loving Higher Power, always and in all ways.
Step Work (possibly: I am powerless over the pandemic and feel like my life is unmanageable… we altered this a bit 🙂
Breathe Deeply, Exhale Slowly… repeat and repeat
Connect with others: (Zoom CoDA Meetings, Face-Time with friends and family, Phone Calls, Email, Social Media)
Zoom CoDA Study Groups using the CoDA Blue Book, The CoDA Green Workbook and/or CoDA Pamphlets and Booklets.
Ask yourself: “What would my Higher Power say about…?” “How would my Higher Power comfort me?” etc.
Daily dialog with your Inner Child and Inner Teen.
Journal your thoughts and feelings
Releasing Emotional Energy from your body (see attachment)
Do a Fear List Exercise:
“Write out one liner’s of what you are afraid of, anxious over, worried about or fearful of.
Separate the fears into 3 categories:
Problem Solving Fears: these are fears that you can get into solution with like: I’m low on groceries and need to get to the market before they close.” We can intervene on these fears by taking action through problem solving… like, going to the market and getting groceries before they close.
Fears of Shame: fears where we are afraid of looking dumb, stupid, not enough etc. (our negative self-talk). We can intervene on these and affirm the loving truth about who we are and who our Loving Higher Power see us to be.
General Fears of Bad Things Possibly Happening: this includes self-doubt, what-if’s, Ya Buts. We can intervene on these to stop scarig ourselves about the future and instead look for solutions, especially coming back to our 3rd Step and being willing to turn our fears over to the care of God as we understand God.
Stick to a reasonable daily schedule
Bathe and brush your teeth
Participate in some form of hobby, recreation, and productivity
Play games with friends online
Play games with family
Find new creative ways to play and have fun
Healthy Diet (avoiding too many stimulants like sugar and caffeine). 21 If you are in a relationship at home, make sure that you create consistent time apart to avoid circumstantial enmeshment.
Is you have children at home, shared parenting is vital to everyone. If that is not possible, then asking for help from others is of great benefit in order to have some relief and balance in your responsibilities and for the children as well.
Get outside for sunshine and fresh air.
Watch the stars at night… notice the expensiveness of the Universe
If possible, drive to a new destination every 2-3 days
No matter what, know that you are not alone. We truly are all in this together. Practising loving self-care and loving self-acceptance of where you are right here, right now. It is enough!
Mary’s Closing reading
Our CoDA 3rd Step “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God” helps to remind us that loving self-care is an important part of being “willing to be willing”. If we are not taking care of ourselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually or sexually, we can be more susceptible to returning to a “conflict in gods” making ourselves, others, even our feelings more important than our Higher Power.
“Making a decision” includes intentional thought, intentional surrender and intentional willingness to allow our Higher Power to guide us, to teach us, to heal us, to LOVE us right here, right now.
The tools we have listed are helpful for self-care, self-love and loving surrender. This is a short list, for there are engless ways we can love ourselves. In taking action to love our Higher Power and ourselves, living the 3rd Step is much easier.
It is always important to remember that we are human beings, loveable and fallible. There is no perfection in recovery. No perfection in life. It is a process made from a beautiful loveing heart that we continue on this journey.
The London & South East Region (LSER) became operational again at the last meeting on July 11th, and a committee has been formed consisting of Chair, Communications Secretary, Minutes Secretary and GSR (Regional Rep).
We’ll be holding regular meetings every 3 or 4 months (to be decided at the next meeting) and we’re hoping the LSER will be a forum for GSRs and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and to discuss putting on events and other community building activities.
We currently have a vacancy for the post of Treasurer, other service positions will become available as we look to do various projects and work out what we need in the Region.
NEXT MEETING : October 3rd – 1pm on Zoom Login details and links will be sent out nearer the time. All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend
An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020.
During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed an interest to serve. It was agreed to open all the Committee roles to the wider LSER community and anyone who is interested can read the service role descriptors (see below) to understand what would be required. This will then allow for nominations and a vote to take place during our next meeting on Saturday 11th July 1-3 pm, to which you and your group members are invited.
Chair – manages the business meetings and set the agenda.
Secretary – the role would include producing and distributing meeting minutes and other key information to attendees, officers, and the local Fellowship.
Minutes Taker – takes the minutes during the meeting.
Communications Secretary – creates and maintains a Region contact list, answers incoming email, and would handle most mass mailings.
GSR – attends and reports to the National Steering Committee (NSC) every 3 or 4 months.
Treasurer – responsible for accounting and documentation of all funds, maintaining accurate records and presenting written reports of the status of the LSER account at meetings and when requested to the Fellowship.
Literature Secretary – to liaise with UK CoDA publisher to ensure literature is available. Provides other information about literature (new publications etc).
Timekeeper – during the LSER meetings.
Please note the CoDA Fellowship Service Manual states: ‘Terms of office and/or rotation of officers is highly recommended and considered healthy in CoDA. A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’
Please inform your group members about these service vacancies to get more involved at intergroup level (LSER) which are also opportunities to further your recovery as well as meet other CoDA members. If you as a GSR or any of your group members are willing to serve at the regional level then please note it is recommended to be attending local fellowship for at least 1 year and have worked or are working the CoDA program. For those of you interested in the Treasurer role the guidelines are more than 3 years.
A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’
Also, in accordance with the CoDA FSM 2019, GSRs and Committee members have a right to vote however as there is no LSER Committee yet this means only GSRs can vote. Ideally, the formed LSER Committee would consist of GSRs and Service members who are not GSRs.
Finally, LSER committee meetings are open for all CoDA members to attend, to contribute ideas about what they would like to see happen in their region and to discuss any issues their groups are experiencing, currently they are taking place on Zoom. It is a good way to be informed of what is happening with CoDA groups across the London South East Region and to connect with other CoDA members too.
We hope to see you on Sat 11th July 2020 at 1pm, when all being well the LSER Committee will once again become operational,
In fellowship Acting LSER Communications Secretary
Is your group covered for public liability insurance? Does your room rent include public liability insurance? If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim Who would the claim be made against? who would be liable to pay?
Several CoDA groups who rent rooms are unsure of the answer to both these questions and believe they are covered by their venues insurance policy. Without reading the small print of the lease and asking specific questions to the Landlord it’s not always obvious.
Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group, in the event of a claim is personally liable to meet all costs.
In 2019, CoDA UK contacted all groups requesting they check if the rent they pay for their rooms includes Public Liability Insurance. Many groups discovered they were not covered which led to CoDA UK purchasing a group policy for those groups who wanted to be covered. Several groups later approached us and paid to be added to the policy as their venue required a copy for their landlord to continue renting out the room.
The cost for each group to be covered last year was £50 per annum. A few groups last year paid the amount over several weeks. If your group would like to purchase cover and be included in the CoDA group insurance or if you have any questions regarding the policy, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org before the 26th March 2020.
During October 2019 two weekend long speaker events were held, one in London and the other in Liverpool, during which Ken and Mary shared their experience, strength and hope with the fellowship. The sessions were recorded and following anonymisation work to remove names for all attendees are now available.
These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to CoDA UK, Ken R and Mary R.