Hopeful messages of recovery – the struggles, the victories, and how to continue in this recovery journey. May you find inspiration and hope as you hear from people who have been where you have been. You’re worth it!CoDA North Texas
Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships.CoDA Preamble
The only requirement for member is a desire for healthy and loving relationships
“We admit we are powerless over other people…“
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 1
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 1,2,3
CoDA Minnesota Blog – Step 1
CoDA – Step 1 – pamphlet
CoDA Recovery Stories – The Importance of Working the Steps
CoDA Meetings in Print – What’s Control, What’s Asserting Boundaries?
“Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves…“
“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over…“
“Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves…“
“Admitted… to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.“
Step 6 & 7
“Were entirely ready…Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings…“
“Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends…Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others…“
“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong…admitted it…“
“Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact “
“Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message…“
Shared With Thanks – CoDA Shares – By Topic
Step 1,2,3 – 30 Questions
CoDA Recovery Story – Working a Twelve Step Programme When Youre Not Sure About God
CoDA Founders – 12 Steps on a Daily Basis & Self Care
CoDA Founders – Recovering a Relationship with Ourselves Using the 12 Steps
CoDA Reflections – 10 month walk through the steps
Desert CoDA – Chase – Step study notes
Communication and Recovery
Friday 26th to Sunday 28th May 2023
The CoDA Noddfa retreat committee are happy to announce an additional retreat is being organised this year at the ever popular and wonderful location of Noddfa, Penmaenmawr in North Wales. The Retreat runs from Friday 26th May to Sunday 28th May.
This is a bank holiday weekend so may allow members to attend who would find the restricted timing of travel to and from Borth Wales difficult. It may also allow more to stay over Sunday night to travel home on the Monday.
Additional meetings may be occurring on the Sunday and Monday after the usual retreat closure but will not be scheduled.
TO SECURE A PLACE
We can only offer a maximum of 27 rooms for this retreat. Places are expected to be taken quickly. Due to previous non-attendance and cancellations we are testing a new approach and boundaries.
It is important that we be able to contact you to confirm your place and attendance on the retreat and to confirm numbers for our hosts.
We will then send you the payment information for Noddfa and ask you to directly to pay a non-refundable deposit of £30. Then send a receipt or screenshot from your payment (online banking app, reference etc).
Do not pay any money unless we have confirmed a place is available. Once your deposit is paid your place is confirmed.
The total cost for the retreat accommodation and facilities (including the deposit) for the Friday to Sunday is £160.
The retreat registration is £10 paid on arrival (cash preferred), to help with literature and admin costs etc.
NODDFA, Conwy Old Road, Penmaenmawr, North Wales LL34 6YF
Additionally, there is a £10 Registration Fee to be paid on arrival which goes to CoDA.
There will be an initial cut off for reserving places on the 28th April.
Please not that you may also arrange separately with NODDFA if you wish to stay on the nights before or after the retreat.
Registration is from 4pm on 26th May (Dinner 6.30pm) and the retreat ends Sunday 28th May at 3pm.
- This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale.
- The retreat will adhere to the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Codependents Anonymous.
- No outside speakers are involved.
There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.
Readings at meetings throughout the weekend will be taken from the following literature:
- The CoDA big book
- The Codependents Anonymous Workbook
- In This Moment daily meditation book
- …along with reading selections from CoDA approved literature.
CoDA literature will be available to purchase during the retreat.
Bring along a teddy, picture of yourself as a child and anything that may help reach and comfort your child within.
The Retreat will take place at Noddfa spirituality centre. Noddfa is home to a small, extremely kind and friendly spiritual group of religious Sisters and is a venue used by 12 Step and numerous other groups throughout the year. It is a lovely old house with views of the sea and the hills. The grounds are full of trees, colourful shrubs and flowers. There is also a walled vegetable garden, a labyrinth and many other hidden treasures.
NODDFA is a Welsh word meaning ‘haven’ or ‘refuge’. A place of peace and welcome, a place where you can regain energy. This is the venue we have again chosen for our Retreat and we hope it will be a time for you to relax and recharge while taking time to be self-aware.
During your stay it is not compulsory to attend all the meetings if you do not wish to.
The beach is a 10 minute walk downhill, and obviously it takes longer coming back. The mountains are also accessible and the grounds around Noddfa are vast. Most of the bedrooms are for single occupancy and each floor has ample washing facilities and plenty of tea-making areas.
The rooms (and attendance) will be allocated on a first come first serve basis.
The food at Noddfa is wholesome and plentiful (and their soda bread is delicious!) If you need a special diet i.e. vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free etc. please inform us when you are arranging your place.
We are looking forward to an exciting and uplifting Retreat and to
welcome new and previous participants.
With fellowship from 15:00-16:00
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups. This meeting will be the AGM, which we haven’t held for a couple of years, and all members are invited to join us to hear and discuss annual reports from all areas of service work, and to join in fellowship afterwards.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and hear how service in CoDA UK happens. NSC Committee Members and Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. There will be time for questions about the NSC and any aspect of service and our work in the fellowship time after the main meeting ends at 3pm. You can read more about service on the NSC here.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.
Please note, the minute taker will record any votes and actions, which we will review at the end of the meeting. Any references to individuals are on a first name basis only. If you do not wish to be mentioned by name in the minutes, please make this clear to the minute taker.
There is no requirement to attend the whole meeting – feel free to drop in at any time during the day. We ask that you put your name and home group (if you have one) in the chat, and please mention if you’re a GSR so we can keep track of the voting entity for any items which require a vote.
AGM Reports – for meeting
Important point – please read through the attached reports before attending the meeting. We have a lot of business to attend to and there may not be time to go through every report in detail during the meeting, so it’s important that members have some understanding of what’s being discussed in advance – especially those who can vote (NSC committee members, GSRs and anyone voted by their group to be acting GSR for the day).
Please join the zoom call just before 10am or drop in any time
Join Zoom meeting
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
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Everyone is welcome to join, so please do share this communication at your groups.
If you have any further questions please feel free to contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 4th February.
|Agenda Item||Start Time||End Time|
|1. Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. |
Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests.
Appointment of a spiritual timekeeper. (20 mins)
|2. Introductions and Feelings check in (15 mins)|
Individual only, i.e. not service, subcommittee or group reports – if any groups wish to raise questions, please do so in AOB, item 9.
Establish voting entity
|3. November NSC Minutes|
Minutes attached. Are there any questions arising? Any updates? (5 mins)
|4. Subcommittee & service areas |
Reports, updates and any plans for year ahead (including any budget requirements) from members in service
30 second timed shares following verbal summary of reports
|4a. Sponsorship Committee (15 mins) report attached at page 1|
ACTION from last NSC: The Sponsorship Committee will consider:
– guidance for sponsees on where they can look for support.
– concern about sponsors being able to sponsor from Step 5 but may not have enough recovery.
and come back with any future proposals.
These actions will be picked up by the new sponsorship committee.
|4b. Member Networks/CoDA Outreach groups (15 mins)|
No report as no-one in service at the NSC
|4c. Literature (5 mins)|
No report as no-one in service at the NSC
|4d. PLI (15 mins)|
Decision to be taken on renewals in 2023 and beyond.
ACTION from last NSC: Questions raised for Rochelle to look into and this item will be brought back to NSC if required.
|4e. Website & Meetings; 4f Comms (15 mins)|
report attached page 2-3
|15-minute break (may be moved if earlier timings change)||11.45||12.00|
|4g. Public Information (15 mins)|
report and proposals attached page 4-5
Proposal 1: Introduce formal support/budget, so that the PI Committee can send Conference-endorsed book samples to institutions expressing interest in starting CoDA meetings in facilities.
Proposal 2: To agree a figure to introduce formal support/budget, so that the PI Committee can attend recovery events to take Conference materials and present CoDA ESH to professional teams.
Decisions on finances will be taken during the Treasury report section
|4h. CoDA Teen (5 mins)|
no report as no-one in service at the NSC
|4i. North Region (15 mins)|
report attached at page 6
|4j. London South East Region – (5 mins)|
report attached at page 6
|5. CoDA Service Conference information attached at page 7|
– What is CSC and why do NSC send Delegates? (5 mins)
– Need to vote for 2 CSC Delegates and an alternate to be our Voting Entity (VE) for 2023 (10 mins)
– Report from last year’s CSC
|6. CoDA UK Treasury Report (45 mins)|
report attached pages 8-10
ACTIONS from last NSC:
a) Treasurer to include a recommendation on 7th Tradition donations from NSC at each AGM (large excess at present) – discussion and vote required
(b) A sub-group will form to look into setting up a Charitable Incorporated Organisation (CIO) with Rochelle: Emma, Philip, Gillian, Hil, Sam and report back to the next meeting.
A WhatsApp/email group will be set up to take this forward. Concerns raised on GDPR, Safeguarding Commission reporting – sub-group need to look into this and report back.
Minutes from committee meeting 19-1-23 are attached at
Appendix B pages 11-12
(c) PayPal account and written guide, ‘How To Set up an
Anonymous PayPal Account’. A short and long guide to this are attached at Appendix B pages 13-14
|15-minute break (may be moved if earlier timings change)||1.40||1.55|
|7. Service positions vacant (25 mins)|
Discussion if needed; votes
Key positions vacant:
– Literature Secretary
– Meetings List Coordinator
– Sponsorship Rep & Committee Members
– Vice Chair
– CSC Delegates
– General NSC Members, including email responders, internal comms people, website coordinators (including volunteers to develop the service pages), public information team and more.
All available positions, including shared ones:
|8. Agenda items 30 second timed shares|
No additional agenda items have been received for this meeting
|9. Any Other Business (20 mins)|
If no time to cover all items of AOB, please submit to next NSC meeting in May
|10. Agree actions onscreen so minutes can be circulated straight away (10 mins)||2.40||2.50|
|11. Confirm date of next meeting (5 mins)|
Sunday 7th May, 1-5pm
(or Saturday 6th May (Coronation Day) or Saturday 13th May)
|12. Close – (5 mins)|
Promises and long form Serenity Prayer
|All are welcome to stay on the call for fellowship and questions about NSC service. We can set up breakout rooms if members would like to chat in smaller groups about different aspects of service.||3.00||4.00|
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/PI/Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chair can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 Motion carried
Updates made – November 2022 – by NSC & Sponsorship committees – indicated with asterix
The Disclosure and Barring Service and Scottish Government have confirmed that fellowship members do not require DBS or Disclosure Scotland check for 12th Stepping or Sponsorship, as they are members of self-regulating groups. As individuals, however, fellowship members should be aware of their duty of care to others and hence follow the law and best practice on safeguarding, when acting in the fellowship’s name.
This guidance has been updated following recent high-profile cases in the wider charity sector which have prompted the need to review and further strengthen safeguarding standards within the Fellowship.
The basic principle
Everyone should recognise that all individuals, regardless of age, disability, gender, racial heritage, religious belief, sexual orientation and identity, have a right to equal protection from all types of harm and abuse.
Who the guidance protects?
This Guidance applies to the safeguarding of all fellowship members or those who fellowship members encounter when acting in the fellowship’s name, including those under the age of 18 (minor) or any vulnerable adults who may be members of the fellowship.
Disseminating best practice
It is suggested that a copy of a version of this Guidance should be available at each meeting and copies can be obtained on request for every new (and existing) fellowship member. Also reference to the existence of a safeguarding policy could be mentioned in the script?
It is vital that all Group Secretaries understand and learn about safeguarding and protection issues within the context of the fellowship in order to ensure a safe environment for members and those who members encounter when acting in the fellowship’s name.
Meetings with new members to the fellowship:
- should be conducted by two existing members and, whenever possible, by a man and a woman
- should be held in a public place and the date, time and place of any meeting should be reported in advance to the Group Secretary
- It is suggested that a Sponsor who has completed step 5 and is attending meetings regularly has regard for this guidance and their duty of care towards other fellowship members.
- Sponsors do not ever give advice on medication in any circumstances, even if they are trained professionals. The only person who can give advice on medication is the sponsee’s own medical professional.*
- Sponsors only use CoDA Approved Literature in sponsoring.*
Fellowship members are not legally required to obtain a DBS Certificate in order to act as a Sponsor.
However, Sponsors are encouraged to consider their legal and moral responsibility to themselves, prospective sponsees, and the fellowship when considering whether accepting a particular sponsee is in the best interest of those involved.
Reporting safeguarding concerns
If any fellowship member believes they are being abused or knows/suspects that another fellowship member is being abused/abusing someone else, they should consider taking the following action(s), as appropriate:
Preserve any evidence
Report all concerns to the:
Group Secretary and/or any Group member;
Local Authority Adult Social Care team (about a vulnerable adult); and/or
Local Authority Children’s Services team (about a minor)
In an emergency, if there is immediate risk of abuse call 999.
If there is any doubt about whether a situation amounts to abuse, members of the group should ask the advice of their Local Authority Safeguarding Lead.
CoDA World Service has produced a video to educate the public on what codependency is and to be of service to the codependent who still suffers.
Hosted by CoDA Arizona Group
Members of CoDA Arizona share and welcome in CoDA’s 36th birthday in Phoenix, Arizona where it all began in 1986 – see you there!
Starts: 7pm (UK time) – for online membersIf you have any questions email email@example.com
Register for the event – via eventbrite
Saturday 22nd October 2022
|Registration (face to face)||5PM|
|Magic by Robbie (face to face)||5:30PM|
|Lunch & Overview |
of CoDA Arizona
(face to face)
|“How to have healthy and intimate |
relationships that last a lifetime”
Scott & Judy J
|Kan and Mary (founders of CoDA)||10.30PM|
|Birthday Cake||12.20AM (midnight)|
$55 in person (North Scottsdale United Methodist Church, Arizona)
$15 virtual – via Zoom
Please contact Nixie at firstname.lastname@example.org if you are in need of financial assistance.
Shared with thanks to Codependence Matters Committee
Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on inner child and self parenting .
Two hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.
Copy of exercises and audio will be added after the event.
Saturday, 30th July 2022, 7pm (GMT)
Join Zoom meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87616355527 (NEW LINK)
Meeting ID : 87616355527For further info email email@example.com
Date: Saturday 30th July 2022
Time: 1.45pm for 2pm until 4.30pm (with short break)
We welcome all CoDA Members and newcomers in our region – from Birmingham & Midlands, right up to and including North West England, North East England, all of Scotland, North and South Wales and Northern Ireland.
We will use the first 30-40 minutes to bring reports from our own meetings, putting forward any questions, problems or suggestions we might have regarding CoDA meetings etc. There will then be a CoDA Literature Workshop where we read and share on fellowship literature.
We are hoping to plan further workshops for our region to aid and strengthen our CoDA recovery, and a two day workshop on the 12-Piece Relationship Toolkit and or the Blue Book has been suggested. We need your input to arrange this, so please join us.
We are hoping members might like to come forward as representatives of their home group, General Service Representatives (GSRs), ordinary CoDA members as well as newcomers who might think about enhancing their CoDA Recovery by dipping their toes into enjoying CoDA fellowship and service. No one is ‘in charge’ – we are all trusted servants willing to give what we have been freely given: recovery from codependency.
Please join with us – we need your support to continue carrying the message of CoDA recovery, experience, strength and hope to the still-suffering codependent. All are welcome.
Again, we look forward to welcoming you on Saturday 30th July 2022 – ‘doors’ open from 1.45pm, workshop starts 2pm until 4.30pm.
Date: Saturday 30th July, 2022
Time: 1.45pm for 2pm until 4.30/5pm
(with short break)
Meeting on Zoom
Zoom ID: 852 0891 0153
Or dial on one of the numbers below:
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237, +44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592Contact for any further information firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com or 07792 236888
A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributionsTradition 7
Why is service part of recovery?
Those who have gone before us recognize that service is critical to recovery and is part of the Twelfth Step. Service work is a place to practice recovery skills and extend our recovery to new areas of our lives. At the group level, CoDA members carry the message in many ways, by sharing in meetings, speaking to newcomers (with a focus on providing information rather than giving advice) and trying to adhere to CoDA principles in meetings and elsewhere in their lives. Members can start practicing these types of service from early on in their recovery.
Available NSC Service Positions
It was agreed at the November 2021 NSC meeting that all the vacant positions could be shared by more than one member, and a full handover will be given by the outgoing member in service.
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Support Welcomed for
Teams seeking service support
Home Group – Service Positions
25th June 5pm – UK (BST) – 26th June 5pm – UK (BST)
(25th June Noon (EST) – 26th June Noon EST)
Be a part of this major 24 Hour World CoDA Event
“Higher Power, Literature, The Most Important Relationship”
“’I’ Statements, For Safety’s Sake”
“Step Eleven and Mindfulness”
Note: session ties below are EDT
UK (British Summer Time) – 5 hours ahead
12PM session (EDT) = 5pm UK Time (BST)
Register for the event:
If you have any questions, please contact:
Sara J: firstname.lastname@example.org
LeSha C: Lcharnetsky@gmail.com
Mahima C: email@example.com
Melanie G: Melanieagreenmhm@gmail.com
We are still looking for presenters, leaders, and Zoom hosts. If interested, please contact:
Katja F: Katja.Fleck@outlook.com
Call For New Submissions!
Consider submitting your story and sharing your insight with other CoDA members!
How has CoDA changed your life? Sharing your experience, strength and hope may help thousands of codependents still suffering. Everybody in CoDA has a recovery story to tell.
Please email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Some Possible Topics: (Could include, but not limited to!)
- Sharing Strength and Hope
How CoDA and the 12 Steps have made a positive impact
- Lessons Learned
Lessons learned while you’ve been working the CoDA program
- Working the 12 Steps
Your experience working one or more of the 12 Steps
Original affirmations you may have come up with
- Recovery – Tips and Techniques
Helpful Tips and techniques, which are in line with our traditions and documents.
- Words of Wisdom
What are some of your favorite sayings? How about submitting your own?
- Other Thoughts
Observations, perspectives, etc
(We ask that no submissions or articles violate the letter or spirit of the 12 Steps or 12 Traditions. We also request that authors refrain from using second party “You” statements, and stick to first person “I” statements.)
We look forward to hearing from you.
The CoDA Co-NNections Committee (Weekly Readings and Meeting in Print)
For the CSC held online over 27th to 30th July 2021
By Pete H
As I have ended up writing quite a long report and included a lot of detail, I figured a “Too Long… Didn’t Read” section for the majority of members who will benefit from an abridged set of information that can be shared with your homegroups.
Lots of great items were brought to the CSC and were passed. The highlights are:
Voting entities (like the UK) can now bring agenda items directly to the CSC.
Social media and modern platforms can be used for CoDA to carry the message, for meetings etc without breaching tradition 11. Clarification of the principle of anonymity in these modern times in a connected digital world.
A refocus on CoDA youth services. Looking to relaunch and reinvigorate CoDA youth/teen.
Update of Tradition 11 wording:
- Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and all other public forms of communication.
New literature approved for publishing:
- Newcomers’ handbook second edition – with loads of changes
- Second edition of Making choices in recovery, positive affirmations for working on our shortcomings – loads of changes, essentially a complete re-write
- Joy In the Journey, Recover with colour – a new ‘adult colouring book’
- Codependency & Recovery, The Differences – well known one page document approved by CSC
- Prayers for CoDA’s Twelve Traditions – set of 12 prayers approved
- The Longer Serenity Pray – the prayer used widely in the UK approved by CSC (finally!)
And finally the CoDA Preamble has been agreed to be updated to replace “men and women” with “people”.
Who Am I?
I would like to start by thanking the members of CoDA UK for allowing me to provide service by acting as one of the UK representative delegates to the CoDA Service Conference (CSC) 2021. I would also like to express gratitude to my fellow candidate and alternate delegate Philip F and Cammie A.
The while event was online and to ease people in to aid the levelling of various experience and capability levels with the meeting technology and online meetings there were numerous rehearsals run. During the rehearsals we gathered together as candidates and went through a mock conscience item vote. These rehearsals were suitable imperfect helping us to not take ourselves too seriously.
Looking to the schedule and the content of the delegate pack (that can all still be downloaded from codependents.org) it seemed evident that there was almost certainly a lot of business that must have been trimmed down to squeeze as much in as possible. There were certainly quite a few items from the delegate pack that didn’t make it to discussion or vote. Just like our own UK service committee there is so much business to attend to and so little time.
The process that was followed to present and discuss issues was fast and efficient but was prone to running short on time as the proposer could take up much of their allotted schedule by repeating what was int eh delegate pack rather than hand the time over to questions or “pro’s and con’s”. as such time the first couple of days overran by over an hour each, which translated to wrapping things up around 2 am UK time.
Taking on my role as the UK delegate I feel I voted following the principles of the program, in particular, “does this come from a place of love, acceptance, and inclusion”, “does it help the codependent who still suffers”, “does it help to carry the message”, “will this help attraction to the program”.
A short introduction of myself as we may not have met previously. I am Pete and I am codependent. I have been in recovery for three years now having spent a year working the steps in another program prior to finding CoDA. I am fortunate enough to be working the program alongside my partner, gradually growing our dysfunctional relationship of 20+ years into something healthier one day at a time.
I have been grateful to provide service in various areas across CoDA in my time so far, including as the current web service person for the UK NSC. Service has allowed me to practice healthy patterns in safe spaces, helping me build the esteem to bring them into all areas of my life.
I believe that CoDA is a program for helping me to work through and heal the underlying problems in my life from childhood onwards, so they no longer control my present life. I hope that this universal acceptance, healing, and love show in my service and in the way I have represented the CoDA members of the UK in my voting at the CSC.
The Long Version…
For the next section of my report, I will provide a brief overview of the items that were discussed and voted on, how I voted, and the outcome. If you would like to read about each item in more detail, then the accompanying service items report document and the resources from the delegate pack available from https://www.codependents.org/CSC/2021/2021.htm are available.
The full motions report from the CSC passed motions from 2021 can be downloaded from here:
CSC Motions Day 1
Several of the agenda items were for text corrections or updates to literature. The weeks agenda started with a few of these. I have cut out motions raised around changes to breaks, timings, extensions of the day etc to just share the items that may be worth sharing with fellows and home groups.
I have prefaced my commentary with “VE:”
Move to correct the wording of the following sentence from Part 4, Section 2, Page 10 of the Fellowship Service Manual, Last Revision 2021-05-09.
VE: This seemed like a sensible amendment and a clarification of wording so I voted in favour, and it passed.
Move that the Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) Service Structure chart of the inverted pyramid revert to the chart used by CoDA from 2005-2016 as in Figure 1.
VE: there seemed to be a lot of confusion about different versions from different years that have been updated, lost, reverted, edited, etc in various places and formats. As we are not intended to be perfect but making progress it seemed that making a change this year was worthwhile and if those identifying alternatives that they felt were better then that could be brought next year. I voted in favour, and it passed.
Move that Voting Entities be granted the right to bring motions directly to CSC precisely as the CoDA Board of Trustees and World Standing Committees currently do.
VE: This is a most welcome change. Previously to bring an item to the CSC it had to be submitted to a CSC committee who would take it on and bring it to conference. This often meant that items didn’t get submitted in the first year and prevented items from being heard. With this passed then any voting entity, including the UK or a UK region, can bring an agenda item to future CSC. I voted in favour, and it passed.
correction: Page 8 Error – to change the comma after “Conference” to a period and change “the” to “The” to begin a new sentence.
VE: this seemed to be a simple typo error and I was mostly surprised items like this couldn’t be dealt with by a committee as a trusted servant responsibility. I voted in favour, and it passed.
Move that Motion 20023 be amended to encompass the following seven CoDA Foundational Documents: The CoDA Twelve Steps, the CoDA Twelve Traditions, the CoDA Twelve Service Concepts, the CoDA Twelve Promises, the CoDA Welcome, the Short Version of the CoDA Welcome, and the CoDA Preamble.
VE: This vote was quite contentious and during the statements section I made a representation stating that I felt that preventing any change from being implemented for two years, and to require an initial 66% and then a 75% affirmative vote (more than needed to pass this motion) to make any change to the wording in the defined documents, removes group autonomy, prevents the inclusive evolution of the fellowship in line with the growing understanding of the issues people face in life. Also, that this high bar would allow a small minority to block changes for inclusive wording. I voted against this motion, and it passed.
Chairs and visitors be given voice at convention. Includes everyone that is present will have voice. Not everyone present will have vote. YouTube viewers are just observers.
VE: This item moved to allow those that are attending the CSC as alternate, in other service capacity, as a committee member etc the opportunity to raise their hand to speak on agenda items whether they have a voting right or not. To me this provides opportunity to hear a wider array of experience, strength, and hope than just that of the registered voting delegates. I voted yes on this, and it passed.
Description: Accept the community solving problem as listed on the screen and adapted for virtual. Those in favour of pros is called first and a list is made from raised hands by the moderator. A list of cons will raise their hands and the moderator will write down the names in order. Moderator will then call the alternate views for discussion.
VE: This outlined the way the problem-solving approach to discussing items was to be used for this CSC (already nine motions in) as the approach hadn’t technically been approved for use in a virtual CSC. This process had been practiced during the rehearsals and had so far allowed discussion and airing of differing views and E-S-H on matters. I voted yes, and the motion passed.
CSC Motions Day 2
Beginning the second full day of the agenda.
Subject: All motions to take immediate effect unless otherwise stated.
VE: This item was quite important, especially considering the motion being passed on the first day so that any changes, amendments, or corrections to 7 CoDA documents would take two years to be implemented with successive votes of 2/3 and ¾ to pass. There were several proposed changes to some of the documents in later motions that would be immediately impacted if the change was immediate. The other option was that the changes would take effect at the close of the conference.
During discussion it was mentioned that the approach had always been for items to take effect as soon as they are passed. I was torn on this one as it seemed procedure had not changed, but also that again the precedent that a motion could be passed that would make another impossible simply by the order in which they are submitted or selected to be scheduled. I can’t recall how I voted on this item in the end, but it passed with a 2/3 majority.
Subject: Ratification of Board Motions 2020-2021.
VE: this motion was to approve/accept the motions and actions that the CoDA board had passed during the 2020-2021 period. The motions were all provided in the VE delegate pack which can still be viewed. There was quite a lot of business they had gone through, a lot of it general housekeeping as with many committees. I saw nothing in the motions that was problematic and voted yes, the motion passed.
Subject: Correct Preamble
Communications Committee moves that the preamble be changed as noted:
Proposed change: Co-Dependents Anonymous is an inclusive fellowship whose common purpose is to develop healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of selfdiscovery – learning to love the self.
VE: I was largely in favour of this, however, this item had been merged with about 3 committees submitting similar proposals to improve the preamble and not all the committees had been informed that their item had been merged into this, and were not consulted with decisions and changes around this. The communications committee that presented this item also refused crafting. This had also been voted on or discussed last year with the simple change of “men and women” to people and this specific change was being overlooked for a broader amendment. I also felt that this new wording didn’t really correct the repetition word salad that often sounds like gibberish when spoken aloud at meetings. If crafting had been accepted I would have proposed the following:
“co-dependents anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose and only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self.”
As it stood, I voted in favour of this as it had become the only option to improve the welcome with inclusive language. From my experience I know how simple language can turn something loving and caring into something frightening and traumatic. Being told I am wrong instead of that I did something wrong. As much as anything it brings to mind a wise quote “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better”. Progress not perfection, and progress is needed. This motion was defeated.
Subject: Accept QR Code for use in CoDA.
VE: A lot seemed to be made of accepting a QR code design to be included in literature and print outs etc. The link was proposed to just point to the coda.org website and carry not further data. There then seemed to be all manner of perfectionistic statements about artwork and different use cases and the general purpose seemed to get lost along the way. I was a bit surprised that this wouldn’t be something that could just be performed by a committee as a trusted servant activity and really doesn’t need to be made a complicated as it was being turned into. The proposer withdrew the motion to further investigate all the overly complicated “well, actually…” thrown at them.
Subject: Revise social media policy.
VE: This item, to my mind, was an important step forward for CoDA as a whole. The Fellowship Service Manual (FSM) and general CoDA guidance on the use of social media and technology platforms has long been based on a very restrictive and blinkered view of the traditions, especially tradition 11. As stated in the motion text, Tradition 11 speaks of maintaining anonymity when representing CoDA to outside entities. Members engaging with social media, going about their lives online are not representing CoDA. This motion clarifies many things.
- Sharing our faces and full names (our identity) within a meeting, business meeting, or social media does not violate tradition 11.
- Members are also not required to share their face or identity within a CoDA meeting. It is personal choice.
- Outreach, meetings, and CoDA attraction can be performed on social media and other platforms.
Having a technical background myself there is an awful lot of misunderstandings about what is and isn’t private and confidential online. A lot of fear, uncertainty, and doubt is spread about platforms and services that is certainly an outside issue and has been preventing the sharing of the message of CoDA recovery and providing the resources that people may find and witness to foster the attraction and reaching the codependent that still suffers. I voted in favour of this motion and it passed.
Subject: Update to CoDA Investment Policy
VE: whilst there are all sorts of complicate issues around making sure that member donations go back into actively serving the membership, carrying the message, and reaching the codependent that still suffers, it seems sensible to ensure that ongoing costs can be safely covered through investment of funds that CoDA holds. There was a large spreadsheet of the current and projected costs for things and the face to face CSC seems to cost an awful lot. Overall it seemed sensible that the funds that in some ways needed to be set aside should be invested in safe locations that also ensure that the value of the money doesn’t depreciate. I voted in favour, and the motion passed.
Subject: CoDA and CoRE Board Candidate Introduction.
VE: Five prospective members (2 for CoRE and 3 for the CoDA board) were introduced with an opportunity to share about themselves, their recovery and service experience, and what they hoped to bring to service with CoRE or the CoDA board. It was good to get a feel for the real people that are doing service on behalf of CoDA so that they are not just an entity.
Subject: Spanish Outeach – CoDA youth.
VE: whilst there was no motion attached, Spanish Outreach had created a video that highlights the plight of the young codependent and those actively living through the trauma that is so commonly the foundation of a life of codependency. This has hopefully shone a light in an area of service growth need that fellows in the UK are in the process of taking up.
Subject: Translation and Publication Information / Disclaimer.
VE: in short there seems to be a bit of an oversight in the translated printing such that doesn’t currently provide the reader of translated literature information on whether the translated text has been approved by CoDA or CoRE, whether it was translated by volunteers or a paid service.
It seems that there is a large need for translation services from volunteers and where necessary professional services. Also, for these translations to be checked by members for quality and accuracy. With important literature the intent and nuance can be subtle and missed by someone unfamiliar with the content. Among discussion it seemed that there was not a great deal of conversation on this before submission with relevant committees.
I felt it appropriate that members be able to understand that currently translations are not endorsed by CoDA Inc and are the responsibility of the translating country or committee. I voted yes, this was a close vote, passing by a simple majority.
CSC Motions Day 3
The penultimate day had several important items on the agenda, including a proposed change to Tradition 11, many new pieces of literature, and importantly for us in the UK… the endorsement of the longer serenity prayer!
Subject: Replace the Current Tradition 11.
Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and all other public forms of communication.
VE: This was coming back for the second-year vote to pass. The change was proposed and passed last year but as a change to a tradition requires passing with a ¾ vote in the second year. The historic tradition is obviously quite limited in terms of public media forms in this day and age and whilst it has been understood by most that the spirit of the tradition doesn’t just cover ‘press, radio, and film’ it doesn’t hurt to bring it up to date. I did wonder why it wasn’t shortened to simply “all public forms of media” but progress not perfection must prevail. I voted yes and this passed with a ¾ majority.
Subject: Retreats and Other Events.
To allow the CoDA Events Committee to organize financially self-supporting CoDA events, virtual or face to face, separate from the CoDA Service Conference (CSC) and International CoDA Convention (ICC) in coordination with local CoDA communities when possible.
VE: I queried why this was not just within the bounds of ‘trusted servant activity’ and was informed that it would be an expansion of the committee role, reach, and responsibility which itself was a 3 year trial period set to end this year. I voted yes as I felt that the more events and activities there are available for members then the greater the chance that members can attend and further their recovery (‘build it and they will come’). I voted yes, and it passed with a 2/3 majority.
Subject: Newcomer Handbook.
CSC to endorse the second edition of the newcomer handbook.
VE: the new version is quite different from the current edition of the newcomer handbook. New literature is always a good thing in my mind, so I was happy to vote yes. The motion passed with a 2/3 majority and the second edition is endorsed.
Subject: Making choices in recovery, positive affirmations for working on our shortcomings.
CSC to endorse the second edition of the making choices booklet.
VE: another great new edition with significant changes. The new content and format now really help focus the booklet on steps 6 and 7 which I would admit I hadn’t realised was the focus of the original. I have had great experience with the first edition and look forward to reading and sharing the new edition. I voted yes and the motion passed. The second edition is endorsed.
Subject: CSC to endorse Joy In The Journey, Recover with colour as a new piece of CoDA literature.
VE: this is the new adult colouring book from CoDA illustrated by a CoDA fellow. So many members have benefited from colouring as an inner child and recovery activity that bringing CoDA messages and literature into colouring really seems a beautiful notion. I was happy to vote yes, and the motion passed unanimously. The book is endorsed.
Subject: Codependency & Recovery, The Differences.
CSC to endorse CoDependency & Recovery, The Differences, as a one-page service item.
VE: apparently this has been around within CoDA for a very long time, the provenance has long been lost which raised some concern with members as a risk of copyright or other legal issue. This is used widely in UK and other global meetings. I have seen and used this document since joining CoDA. I voted yes, and the motion passed.
Subject: Prayers for CoDA’s Twelve Traditions
CSC to endorse twelve new prayers, one for each of the The Twelve Traditions.
VE: there were some potentially valid queries around some of the language used. The intent is for the prayers to be available freely on the website and to be included in future prayers booklets. It seemed to me that it would again be good to have something that can be progressed upon rather than wait to try and have the ‘perfect’ thing. I voted yes, and the motion passed. The prayers are endorsed.
Subject: The Longer Serenity Pray
CSC to endorse The Longer Serenity Prayer as a service piece on our website and pieces of printed literature.
VE: this is the long serenity prayer as well used throughout the UK. To be endorsed as a long version and not to ‘replace’ the original serenity prayer. There were some valid queries around endorsing a new prayer that uses God rather than higher power. In time these terms will undoubtedly be updated through progress. I voted yes, and the motion passed. The long serenity prayer is now finally CoDA endorsed.
Subject: Board of Trustees Elections
VE: we voted on the board members that were introduced previously with the following results:
- Florence F. – MD – Alternate #2 Board of Directors: elected
- Liliana R. – Colombia, Board of Trustees: not elected
- Katherine T. – AZ – Alternate #1 Board of Directors: elected
Subject: CoRE board elections
VE: we voted on the CoRE board members that were introduced previously with the following results:
- Kathy H – PA: CoRE Board – elected to board
- Annie S – MA: CoRE Board: elected to board
CSC Motions Day 4
The final day of the CSC.
Subject: Issues Mediation Committee Nominations and election.
VE: election for members of the IMC with the following results:
- Shannon O. – Canada
- Carmen W. – NV
- Jorge B. – Mexico
- Chris J. – IL
- Steve S. – FL
- Darlene H. – SoCal
- Dan R. – Ontario Canada
- Laurie C. – Georg
All member elected.
VE Canada. Following the presentation and provisional acceptance of the draft version at the 2020 CSC, we request the 2021 CSC to approve the revised version of Service Concepts – “Alive & Strong” as a new piece of printed and/or downloadable CoDa Endorsed Literature.
VE: another great piece of new literature produced for the fellowship. This one makes the service concepts more understandable and accessible to member. I voted yes and this passed unanimously.
Arizona VE: New proposed preamble.
Co-Dependents Anonymous is a Fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.
We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.
This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives.
VE: thankfully we were able to add this item as an urgent AOB item given the problems with the first attempt to revise the preamble. Unfortunately, this is now in the two-year process of revision as the preamble is part of the foundation documents and will need to be approved again next year. Groups and regions could start to use this as agreed by their own group conscience. There was a lot of discussion that potentially edged into outside issues, personalities etc. In my mind though the primary purpose here is to update language used to ensure that people are not shamed or excluded but are aware that all are welcome in CoDA. Some people also seem to think that a change in wording would mean that already printed literature must be re-printed which made no sense to me, surely you just don’t print any more with the old wording. I voted Yes and this passed with a large majority.
Saturday 4th December 2021
(2pm – 4pm)
An opportunity to discover the work and service that regions can provide to groups and members, and the value of connection and unity between groups in service and recovery.
During the workshop there will be several speaker shares on topics covering the nature of the current structure and methods for working service in a region. How the ‘homegroup for homegroups’ can work. Sharing experience of growing fellowship through regions. Drawing on the shared experience, strength, and hope within a region, and more. How regions help individual members voices to be heard and represented within CoDA. There will also be opportunity for members to share.
We are especially enthusiastic for members from groups that are not currently served by a region to attend.
Our initial workshop will be held online on Saturday 4th December 2021 from 2pm to 4pm. Following the close of the workshop members are invited to remain and share fellowship and ideas about moving forward together.
We hope to see you at the workshop.
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Saturday 30th October 2021
1.45pm for 2pm until 5pm on Zoom
CoDA UK’s North Region Intergroup is trying something new for our next quarterly meeting.
A CoDA member said that a healthy regional group is a “Home Group for Home Groups“.
We would like to explore this concept together in Fellowship.
The meeting is open to all members, including Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and newcomers alike. We are inviting CoDA members from Scotland, Wales, Northern Ireland, Ireland and the North of England and Midlands to join us for an afternoon of fellowship and sharing online on Zoom.
We can raise any concerns, problems or questions from our Home Group, or individually, to share with each other about our experiences of attending a CoDA meeting, Step Groups, Sponsoring/looking for a Sponsor and especially sharing our experiences during the disruptions of the past many months at these most difficult of times.
In this Workshop we can find new opportunities to broaden our Recovery in the Fellowship of CoDA. We can bring news and views from our local meetings that are important to us, where we will be heard in an atmosphere of love, friendship and fellowship and where it will be a safe space to hear or share our Experience, Strength and Hope of CoDA Recovery.
We will be using breakout rooms during the workshop so we can meet and chat with members from other meetings in smaller groups, and then all come back together as a whole group in order to share all the issues and ideas presented: a melting pot of ideas and initiatives to strengthen our CoDA Fellowship and support each other with our own experience, strength and hope carrying us through to our happy road to recovery from codependency and to encourage inclusivity.
The workshop will be held in a relaxed and informal way, following the CoDA Preamble, Welcome, Steps & Traditions, and other CoDA meeting literature.
Some literature it might be useful for groups and members to read together with their Home groups and have in mind when you attend the workshop are:
Building CoDA Community: Healthy Meetings Matter
Carrying the Message: Living the Twelfth Step
Common Threads of Codependency
Codependency & Recovery – The Differences
Codependency & Recovery – The Differences
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Come and join us in what promises to be an exciting and helpful experience in CoDA Recovery.
All members – newcomers, seasoned CoDA members, GSRs etc – are welcome.
We look forward to seeing you on 30th October!
In gratitude, love, fellowship and service
CoDA North Region Intergroup
Saturday 9th October 2021
(12 noon – 6pm)
We are looking for CoDA members interested in leading a workshop or being a speaker. Workshops typically are 1 hour to 1½ hours and Speakers 45 min to 1 hour depending on the number of applicants. The theme of the convention is “Celebrating CoDA Community.”
The number of workshops and speakers will be decided once all the applications are received. We have the ability to provide virtual rooms so there can be multiple workshops or speakers going on at the same time.
We also have the ability to use the interpretation feature via Zoom in one of the virtual rooms. If your group would like to offer interpretation of English workshops to your native language, please contact Events with names and emails of Trusted Servants who would like to provide this service work.
If you are interested in hosting a workshop, being a speaker, or assisting in interpretation during the event, email firstname.lastname@example.org
Deadline to return workshop / speaker application and interpretation information is 10th September 2021
With many of our CoDA meetings moved to internet-based video rooms & phone lines, by now you’ve probably heard of the “bombers” that like to interrupt meetings with their inappropriate behaviours.
Following requests from meetings affected by such interruptions the CoDA Board of Trustees have collated some suggestions to help keep your group’s meetings safe, and we share these for our UK fellows below.
These are not 100% inclusive; it is best to research the help file of the provider or vendor that your meeting chooses.
1. Do not use your personal meeting ID – instead generate a new meeting ID for your meeting. Meeting app accounts allow the creation of many meetings with a unique ID which can be used recurring. The limitation applied is with the concurrent use of different meeting IDs.
2. Consider using a meeting password – even if this is published on a publicly accessible meetings list this can still act as a preventative measure.
3. Consider using a “waiting room” feature – this allows the meeting host(s) to vet each person before granting them access to the meeting. Should someone join the meeting for disruptive purposes they can be removed to the waiting room by the host. This also allows members to provide a new service role.
4. Mute audio as members enter the meeting or once the meeting starts – ask members to unmute when it is their time to share. Once the meeting is running only those providing service by reading the script, reading literature, or sharing need to have their mic open. This can also form a part of meeting etiquette to prevent audio echo and feedback.
5. Turn off screen sharing for everyone but the meeting host(s) – many disruptive joiners share material to interrupt the screen. Having a service position of host allows any sharing of readings or other meeting materials to be performed as part of the service role.
6. Be prepared to remove anyone that is disruptive with inappropriate behaviour – the only requirement to attend a CoDA meeting is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. By joining to disrupt intentionally signals that this is not the reason for joining the meeting.
We hope these suggestions will help you to keep CoDA meetings healthy, safe, and secure!
If your group would like assistance with setting up any of these measures, the UK Web service would be happy to share instructions – please email him on email@example.com.
Is your group returning to Face to Face meetings after lockdown?
Does the lease for your venue require your group to have public liability insurance?
If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim
Who would the claim be made against? Who would be liable to pay?
Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group is personally liable to meet all costs in the event of a claim.
Did you know that CoDA UK holds a group Public Liability Insurance Policy which is significantly cheaper than groups can get individually?
If you would like more information or would like your group to be included on this policy, please send an email to:
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CoDA Fellowship Forum send out regular emails with CoDA events, announcements, issues & CoDA business of interest to both specific regions & to the entire CoDA fellowship.
Per the 2nd tradition, For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority, a loving higher power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. Developing a group conscience requires an informed fellowship, & to be effective trusted servants those you’ve elected must know the group conscience of the fellowship.
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1-5pm online, with programmed breaks during the session
At a National Service Committee (NSC) group conscience meeting on 5th December 2020 it was agreed that there would be a Group Inventory meeting conducted as a priority. This is to help us reflect on our service, to carry out our service roles in a healthy way and to share about our experience in service with the wider fellowship. It will take place instead of our quarterly business meeting.
We invite the fellowship to join us for this session of reflection and discussion, and hope that the experience will assist in sharing the message of service and healthy groups with the fellowship. Group inventories can be used for step groups, home groups and service groups, and allow us to focus on how the traditions and our ultimate authority, a loving Higher Power as expressed to our group conscience, guide our work and our daily lives.
The session will end with a period of reflection to determine the way forward for some of the organisational challenges the NSC has been discussing in recent meetings. This will include next steps on how regularly the NSC meets, and confirmation of the next meeting where regular business will resume, including items of business carried over from previous meetings.
If you would like to attend, please email email@example.com to register for the meeting link, any time before the meeting, stating which group you attend most regularly. Details of how to join, what software platform you will need and more details on how the inventory will be carried out will be circulated the week before the event.
The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. There are quarterly regional meetings, usually held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future. The meeting normally takes the format of a service meeting in the morning, and an open CoDA meeting in the afternoon.
The next CoDA North Region meeting will be held on:
Saturday 30 January 2021
Times: 10.15 for 10.30am-13.00pm and 2.00pm-3.30pm
CoDA North is holding our quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the North region meetings (which include Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland).
Join us online/by phone to discuss our region’s CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed but all members are welcome to attend.
If you have any business your group would like to be discussed at the morning meeting, please mention it when you email for the password so that we can put it on the agenda. If possible, the agenda will be circulated in advance to all those registered.
Join us for an open CoDA sharing meeting with fellows from around the North region. This will be run along the lines of a normal CoDA meeting.
NOTE: Meeting Password:
For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email firstname.lastname@example.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on the day of the meeting.
We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend the afternoon meeting before 10am.
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Or dial in on one of the numbers below using the above meeting ID and the password:
- +44 330 088 5830
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All CoDA members are welcome.
Not able to attend?
Please email email@example.com with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.
CoDA North Intergroup Contributions
If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email firstname.lastname@example.org to request the bank details.
NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.
Keep in touch…
If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email email@example.com with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.
In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.
NEXT MEETING : January 9th – 1:45pm
(Meeting runs: 2pm – 5pm)
All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend
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Meeting ID: 885 6658 2862
Agenda items for discussion include:
- LSER service position roles and guidelines.
- The best time to hold our meeting to enable more members to attend.
- What kind of support GSRs and groups would like to receive from Region and how you’d like to participate.
- Ideas for events.
By request, there will be a talk on the WhatsApp Outreach and Step Working Groups, with time for questions and discussion.
LSER meetings will be held on Zoom for the time being. We hope this will allow GSRs and members from all corners of our Region to attend and participate.
The next meeting of the LSER committee is on Saturday Oct 3rd at 2pm to 4pm. The meeting will be opened at 1.45pm. GSRs and all CoDA members are warmly invited to attend. The invite is below. At the last meeting Andy B was elected as Chair, Annie W as Communications Secretary, Carmel T as…
Dear CoDA London South East Region (LSER) Members, I hope this finds you well. This is a reminder and your invitation for this Saturday’s 11th July 1pm London South East Region meeting. The aim of this meeting is to vote in the LSER Committee. The Zoom login details are listed below. The below list shows which service…
Service positions available Tuesday 30th June Dear CoDA London South East Region Members, An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020. During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed…
Speaker Sessions are run most Saturdays by the group.
Saturday, 7pm (GMT)
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These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to the speaker event organisers.
May you find what you need from the recordings.
*UPDATE* Codependence Matters – Meetings are run
Weekday sessions: 7:30pm – 9pm (GMT)
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All are welcome to join listen or share their recovery experience, strength and hope. Holiday stories, singing, dancing, reciting, reading, yodeling, as well as short music Instrumentals such as accordion, piano, guitar, soft drumming and more.
Celebrate CoDA recovery together.
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Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00
CoDA UK is holding its quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there is not enough time in the meeting to go through the written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions in section 5, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.
One paper will follow during the week and this will be added below.
We ask members to consider agenda item 3 to see if they can offer service at this meeting – as our previous secretary has now finished her role, we will need someone to take notes.
|1 – Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines.|
Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. 20 mins
|1.00 – 1.20pm|
|2 – Introductions and Feelings check with meetings info from General Service Representatives (GSRs) and AOB requests from any attendee who wishes to have an issue discussed that isn’t on the agenda. 20 mins||1.20-1.40pm|
|3 – Request for a member to take minutes and agreement on how this will be done 10 mins||1.40-1.50pm|
|4 – Voting entity established and appointment of a|
spiritual time keeper 5 mins
|5 – Reports and updates from members in service|
circulated in advance – are there any questions arising from these? 20 mins
b. Literature Secretary
c. Sponsorship Committee
d. Contacts Management working group
e. London & SE Region (LSER) – verbal report from
meeting 10th April 2021 and background document
f. North Region draft minutes – NSC to note, especially the discussions held about the three AOB items which
they would like to share with the wider fellowship
|1.55 – 2.15pm|
|6 – Treasurer proposals: 30 mins|
a. Zoom subscription renewal – vote
b. Set up Paypal or Givt account – discussion and vote
c. Lloyds Bank signatories – discussion for guidance
|2.15 – 2.45pm|
|7 – Public Information (PI) proposals – discussion|
and votes 20 mins
a. Introduction of a formal PI budget
b. Set up simple way for groups to engage with PI work
|2.45 – 3.05pm|
|Break||3.05 – 3.20pm|
|8 – CoDA UK to register as a charity – discussion and|
vote 10 mins
|3.20 – 3.30pm|
|9 – Service positions – discussion and votes 30 mins|
a. Service role job descriptions
b. Service role service role length, vacancies and
c. Role of trusted servants
|3.40 – 4.00pm|
|10 – Service positions available – discussion and|
votes 30 mins
a. PLI coordinator – Nomination received and role
b. Secretary – role description attached, nominations
c. Chair – Handover proposal attached and role
description to be added here before meeting;
|4.00 – 4.30pm|
|11 – Confirm future meeting dates & times –|
discussion and vote 10 mins
|4.30 – 4.40pm|
|12 – AOB 15 mins||4.40 – 4.55pm|
|13 – Close – Promises and long form Serenity|
Prayer 5 mins
|4.55 – 5pm|
The draft agenda has been produced by the chair and proposal secretary, in consultation with other trusted servants as required, and will be available here on 24th/25th April.
How to join the meeting:
The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.
Join Zoom meetingNB: The vote which was taken at the NSC last year to use Teams for an NSC meeting will be revisited in May, due to a change in circumstances.
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
Shared with thanks to Arizona CoDA Events Committee
Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on living the third step through these unusual times.
Two and half hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.
Copy of exercises included below video.
CoDA Third Step Prayer – Exercise
God, I give to You all that I am and all that I will be for Your healing and direction.
- What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you are for your Higher Power’s healing and direction”?
- What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you will be your Higher Power’s healing and direction?”
Make new this day as I release all my worries and fears, knowing that You are by my side.
- How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you in releasing all your worries and fears?
- How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you during this time of pendemic?
Please help me to open myself to Your love,
- What is your process to opening yourself up to your Higher Power’s Love?
To allow Your love to heal my wounds,
- How do you experience your Higher Powerr’s Love healing your wounds?
And to allow Your love to flow through me and from me and from me to those around me.
- What is your experience emotionally, intellectually, physically and spirtitually when you allow your Higher Power’s Love to flow through you to others?
May Your will be done this day and always.
- What do you generally think your Higher Power’s will is for you? Is it Loving? Demanding? Fearful? Affirming? Joyful?
Possible Solutions and Tools for living our 3rd Step while dealing with advertsity, including the pandemic.
These tools are meant for suggestions only. Some are meant, clearly, to be practised on a daily basis, while others can be practised every week or two.
Remember that Self-Care is always about action, which is also the process of CoDA recovery.
Natural tools to deal with depression and anxiety through loving self-care
- Pray Daily… this is always #1, connect and talk with your loving Higher Power, always and in all ways.
- Step Work (possibly: I am powerless over the pandemic and feel like my life is unmanageable… we altered this a bit 🙂
- Breathe Deeply, Exhale Slowly… repeat and repeat
- Connect with others:
(Zoom CoDA Meetings, Face-Time with friends and family, Phone Calls, Email, Social Media)
- Zoom CoDA Study Groups using the CoDA Blue Book, The CoDA Green Workbook and/or CoDA Pamphlets and Booklets.
- Ask yourself: “What would my Higher Power say about…?” “How would my Higher Power comfort me?” etc.
- Daily dialog with your Inner Child and Inner Teen.
- Loving Affirmations
- Journal your thoughts and feelings
- Releasing Emotional Energy from your body (see attachment)
- Do a Fear List Exercise:
“Write out one liner’s of what you are afraid of, anxious over, worried about or fearful of.
Separate the fears into 3 categories:
- Problem Solving Fears: these are fears that you can get into solution with like: I’m low on groceries and need to get to the market before they close.” We can intervene on these fears by taking action through problem solving… like, going to the market and getting groceries before they close.
- Fears of Shame: fears where we are afraid of looking dumb, stupid, not enough etc. (our negative self-talk). We can intervene on these and affirm the loving truth about who we are and who our Loving Higher Power see us to be.
- General Fears of Bad Things Possibly Happening: this includes self-doubt, what-if’s, Ya Buts. We can intervene on these to stop scarig ourselves about the future and instead look for solutions, especially coming back to our 3rd Step and being willing to turn our fears over to the care of God as we understand God.
- Stick to a reasonable daily schedule
- Bathe and brush your teeth
- Participate in some form of hobby, recreation, and productivity
- Play games with friends online
- Play games with family
- Find new creative ways to play and have fun
- Healthy Diet (avoiding too many stimulants like sugar and caffeine).
21 If you are in a relationship at home, make sure that you create consistent time apart to avoid circumstantial enmeshment.
- Is you have children at home, shared parenting is vital to everyone. If that is not possible, then asking for help from others is of great benefit in order to have some relief and balance in your responsibilities and for the children as well.
- Get outside for sunshine and fresh air.
- Watch the stars at night… notice the expensiveness of the Universe
- If possible, drive to a new destination every 2-3 days
- No matter what, know that you are not alone. We truly are all in this together. Practising loving self-care and loving self-acceptance of where you are right here, right now. It is enough!
Mary’s Closing reading
Our CoDA 3rd Step “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God” helps to remind us that loving self-care is an important part of being “willing to be willing”. If we are not taking care of ourselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually or sexually, we can be more susceptible to returning to a “conflict in gods” making ourselves, others, even our feelings more important than our Higher Power.
“Making a decision” includes intentional thought, intentional surrender and intentional willingness to allow our Higher Power to guide us, to teach us, to heal us, to LOVE us right here, right now.
The tools we have listed are helpful for self-care, self-love and loving surrender. This is a short list, for there are engless ways we can love ourselves. In taking action to love our Higher Power and ourselves, living the 3rd Step is much easier.
It is always important to remember that we are human beings, loveable and fallible. There is no perfection in recovery. No perfection in life. It is a process made from a beautiful loveing heart that we continue on this journey.
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The London & South East Region (LSER) became operational again at the last meeting on July 11th, and a committee has been formed consisting of Chair, Communications Secretary, Minutes Secretary and GSR (Regional Rep).
We’ll be holding regular meetings every 3 or 4 months (to be decided at the next meeting) and we’re hoping the LSER will be a forum for GSRs and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and to discuss putting on events and other community building activities.
We currently have a vacancy for the post of Treasurer, other service positions will become available as we look to do various projects and work out what we need in the Region.
NEXT MEETING : October 3rd – 1pm on ZoomAll CoDA members are warmly invited to attend
Login details and links will be sent out nearer the time. All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend
LSER Communications Secretary
CoDA Service Information : http://coda.org/index.cfm/service-info/
Find out more about LSER here
Service positions available
Tuesday 30th June
Dear CoDA London South East Region Members,
An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020.
During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed an interest to serve. It was agreed to open all the Committee roles to the wider LSER community and anyone who is interested can read the service role descriptors (see below) to understand what would be required. This will then allow for nominations and a vote to take place during our next meeting on Saturday 11th July 1-3 pm, to which you and your group members are invited.
The below list shows which service positions are available should you wish to put yourself forward with a brief description of what each role entails. Some of these positions (Chair, Treasurer and Secretary) are described more fully in part 3 of the CoDA Fellowship Services Manual (FSM): https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/FSM-Part-3-Guidelines-for-Other-Service-Levels.pdf
Service roles that require filling:
Chair – manages the business meetings and set the agenda.
Secretary – the role would include producing and distributing meeting minutes and other key information to attendees, officers, and the local Fellowship.
Minutes Taker – takes the minutes during the meeting.
Communications Secretary – creates and maintains a Region contact list, answers incoming email, and would handle most mass mailings.
GSR – attends and reports to the National Steering Committee (NSC) every 3 or 4 months.
Treasurer – responsible for accounting and documentation of all funds, maintaining accurate records and presenting written reports of the status of the LSER account at meetings and when requested to the Fellowship.
Literature Secretary – to liaise with UK CoDA publisher to ensure literature is available. Provides other information about literature (new publications etc).
Timekeeper – during the LSER meetings.
Please note the CoDA Fellowship Service Manual states: ‘Terms of office and/or rotation of officers is highly recommended and considered healthy in CoDA. A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’
Please inform your group members about these service vacancies to get more involved at intergroup level (LSER) which are also opportunities to further your recovery as well as meet other CoDA members. If you as a GSR or any of your group members are willing to serve at the regional level then please note it is recommended to be attending local fellowship for at least 1 year and have worked or are working the CoDA program. For those of you interested in the Treasurer role the guidelines are more than 3 years.A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’
Also, in accordance with the CoDA FSM 2019, GSRs and Committee members have a right to vote however as there is no LSER Committee yet this means only GSRs can vote. Ideally, the formed LSER Committee would consist of GSRs and Service members who are not GSRs.
Finally, LSER committee meetings are open for all CoDA members to attend, to contribute ideas about what they would like to see happen in their region and to discuss any issues their groups are experiencing, currently they are taking place on Zoom. It is a good way to be informed of what is happening with CoDA groups across the London South East Region and to connect with other CoDA members too.
We hope to see you on Sat 11th July 2020 at 1pm, when all being well the LSER Committee will once again become operational,In fellowship
Acting LSER Communications Secretary
Note: please contact email@example.com for Zoom login details.
During October 2019 two weekend long speaker events were held, one in London and the other in Liverpool, during which Ken and Mary shared their experience, strength and hope with the fellowship. The sessions were recorded and following anonymisation work to remove names for all attendees are now available.
These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to CoDA UK, Ken R and Mary R.
May you find what you need from the recordings.
While we are developing this new website for CoDA we appreciate members’ input to ensure that the site works towards meeting Tradition Five “…..to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer”.
Should you identify any areas which you would like to provide feedback on, experience any technical issues, or have ideas on how the site can be improved, please provide your input through this form:
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