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Open Service Positions

A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions

Tradition 7


Why is service part of recovery?

Those who have gone before us recognize that service is critical to recovery and is part of the Twelfth Step. Service work is a place to practice recovery skills and extend our recovery to new areas of our lives. At the group level, CoDA members carry the message in many ways, by sharing in meetings, speaking to newcomers (with a focus on providing information rather than giving advice) and trying to adhere to CoDA principles in meetings and elsewhere in their lives. Members can start practicing these types of service from early on in their recovery.

Find out more

Available NSC Service Positions

Full list of NSC service positions

It was agreed at the November 2021 NSC meeting that all the vacant positions could be shared by more than one member, and a full handover will be given by the outgoing member in service.

Full post descriptions open in new tabs – click below to find out more:


Support welcomed for…..


Teams seeking service support

Codependence Matters (UK Speaker Series)
London South East Region – Committee
North Region – (N England, Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland)
Outreach support – Member Networks

Other opportunities

Join a CoDA Member Network
Offer service at your home group
Sponsor a newcomer
Start a new CoDA Meeting
Submit a CoDA Share

See also

Home Group – Service Positions

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Shares (By Step)

Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships.
The only requirement for member is a desire for healthy and loving relationships

CoDA Preamble

Step 1

We admit we are powerless over other people…

Desert CoDA
CoDA Fellowship Forum
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – the First Step
CoDA Arizona– Cynthia “Experience, Stength & Hope”

See also:
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 1
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 1,2,3
CoDA Minnesota Blog – Step 1
CoDA – Step 1 – pamphlet
CoDA Recovery Stories – The Importance of Working the Steps
CoDA Meetings in Print – What’s Control, What’s Asserting Boundaries?

Step 2

Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves…

CoDA Arizona – Jobe
CoDA Arizona – Chris J
CoDA Tucson
Step 2 – Graphic
Desert CoDA
Desert CoDA – Cindy
Desert CoDA –Chase – “A New Sense of Hope”
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – Step 2

See also
CoDA – Step 2 – pamphlet
CoDA Recovery Stories – Coming to Believe

Step 3

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over…

Living the Third Step – CoDA Founders – Ken & Mary
Handout
Desert CoDA – Tom G – “Make new this day”
Desert CoDA
Desert CoDA – Cindy
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – Step 3

See also
CoDA – Step 3 – pamphlet
CoDA Recovery Prayer

Step 4

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves…

CoDA Arizona – Sert & Jesse
Desert CoDA
Desert CoDA – Ronni
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – Step 4 & 5
CoDA Arizona– Jeannie L “Healing Past Wounds through the 4th Step”
SoCal CoDA – 2023 Conference – Dancing in the Mirror – Gentle and Loving Approach to Working Steps 4-5 – Julie
Dancing in the Mirror – Handout

See also
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 4
The Recovery Patterns
The 40 Questions – Step 4 & 5
CoDA – Step 4 – pamphlet

Step 5

Admitted… to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.

CoDA Fellowship Forum
Desert CoDA

See also
CoDA Recovery Stories – The Rewards of Step 5
CoDA – Step 5 – pamphlet

Step 6 & 7

Were entirely ready…Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings…

CoDA Tucson – CoDA Founders – Ken & Mary
Internation al CoDA Conference 2021 – JW
Step 6&7 – Slides
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – Step 6 & 7
CoDA Arizona– Ken R (CoDA Founder) “Steps 6 & 7 – Transforming Knowledge into Action”

See also
CoDA – Step 6 – pamphlet
CoDA – Step 7 – pamphlet
Establishing Boundaries in Recovery

Step 8&9

Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends…Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others…

Desert CoDA
CoDA Portland
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – Step 8 & 9
CoDA Arizona-Sharia A – Steps 8, 9, 10

See also
CoDA – Step 8 – pamphlet
CoDA – Step 9 – pamphlet

Step 10

Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong…admitted it…

CoDA Arizona – Paul & Cammie
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – Step 10 & 11
Desert CoDA – Chase – Step 10 & 11

See also
Texas CoDA – A Daily Checklist
CoDA – Step 10 – pamphlet

Step 11

Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact 

CoDA Tuscon
CoDA Arizona – CoDA Founder – Mary – Seeking Gods Will
Codependence Matters – Malasula

See also
CoDA Recovery Stories – “The Daily Eleventh Step”
CoDA – Step 11 – pamphlet

Step 12

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message…

CoDA Fellowship Forum
CoDA Founders – London 2019 – Step 12
Desert CoDA – David M – Spiritual Awakening

See also
North Texas CoDA – Honouring the Twelfth Step
CoDA – Step 12 – pamphlet
Dealing with Disagreements

Other resources

Shared With Thanks – CoDA Shares – By Topic
Step 1,2,3 – 30 Questions
CoDA Recovery Story – Working a Twelve Step Programme When Youre Not Sure About God
CoDA Founders – 12 Steps on a Daily Basis & Self Care
CoDA Founders – Recovering a Relationship with Ourselves Using the 12 Steps
CoDA Reflections – 10 month walk through the steps
Desert CoDA – Chase – Step study notes
Communication and Recovery

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What is Codependence? video

CoDA World Service has produced a video to educate the public on what codependency is and to be of service to the codependent who still suffers.

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Fellowship Meeting – Safeguarding Policy *updated*

Updates made – November 2022 – by NSC & Sponsorship committees – indicated with asterix

Background
The Disclosure and Barring Service and Scottish Government have confirmed that fellowship members do not require DBS or Disclosure Scotland check for 12th Stepping or Sponsorship, as they are members of self-regulating groups. As individuals, however, fellowship members should be aware of their duty of care to others and hence follow the law and best practice on safeguarding, when acting in the fellowship’s name.

This guidance has been updated following recent high-profile cases in the wider charity sector which have prompted the need to review and further strengthen safeguarding standards within the Fellowship.

The basic principle
Everyone should recognise that all individuals, regardless of age, disability, gender, racial heritage, religious belief, sexual orientation and identity, have a right to equal protection from all types of harm and abuse.

Who the guidance protects?
This Guidance applies to the safeguarding of all fellowship members or those who fellowship members encounter when acting in the fellowship’s name, including those under the age of 18 (minor) or any vulnerable adults who may be members of the fellowship.

Disseminating best practice
It is suggested that a copy of a version of this Guidance should be available at each meeting and copies can be obtained on request for every new (and existing) fellowship member. Also reference to the existence of a safeguarding policy could be mentioned in the script?

It is vital that all Group Secretaries understand and learn about safeguarding and protection issues within the context of the fellowship in order to ensure a safe environment for members and those who members encounter when acting in the fellowship’s name.

New members
Meetings with new members to the fellowship:

  • should be conducted by two existing members and, whenever possible, by a man and a woman
  • should be held in a public place and the date, time and place of any meeting should be reported in advance to the Group Secretary

Sponsors

  • It is suggested that a Sponsor who has completed step 5 and is attending meetings regularly has regard for this guidance and their duty of care towards other fellowship members.
  • Sponsors do not ever give advice on medication in any circumstances, even if they are trained professionals. The only person who can give advice on medication is the sponsee’s own medical professional.*
  • Sponsors only use CoDA Approved Literature in sponsoring.*

Fellowship members are not legally required to obtain a DBS Certificate in order to act as a Sponsor.

However, Sponsors are encouraged to consider their legal and moral responsibility to themselves, prospective sponsees, and the fellowship when considering whether accepting a particular sponsee is in the best interest of those involved.

Reporting safeguarding concerns
If any fellowship member believes they are being abused or knows/suspects that another fellowship member is being abused/abusing someone else, they should consider taking the following action(s), as appropriate:

Preserve any evidence
Report all concerns to the:
Group Secretary and/or any Group member;
Local Authority Adult Social Care team (about a vulnerable adult); and/or
Local Authority Children’s Services team (about a minor)
In an emergency, if there is immediate risk of abuse call 999.

If there is any doubt about whether a situation amounts to abuse, members of the group should ask the advice of their Local Authority Safeguarding Lead.

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Sat, 22nd Oct 22 – CoDA’s 36th Birthday Party

Hosted by CoDA Arizona Group

Members of CoDA Arizona share and welcome in CoDA’s 36th birthday in Phoenix, Arizona where it all began in 1986 – see you there!

Starts: 7pm (UK time) – for online members
Register for the event – via eventbrite

If you have any questions email eventschairaz@gmail.com

Saturday 22nd October 2022

Registration (face to face)5PM
Magic by Robbie (face to face)5:30PM
Lunch & Overview
of CoDA Arizona
(face to face)
7PM
“How to have healthy and intimate
relationships that last a lifetime”
Scott & Judy J
8:10PM
BREAK10:10PM
Kan and Mary (founders of CoDA) 10.30PM
Birthday Cake12.20AM (midnight)
Cleanup1AM

$55 in person (North Scottsdale United Methodist Church, Arizona)
$15 virtual – via Zoom

Please contact Nixie at codaarizona@gmail.com if you are in need of financial assistance.

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30th July 22 – Ken and Mary – Workshop Inner Child and Self Parenting

Shared with thanks to Codependence Matters Committee


Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on inner child and self parenting .

Two hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.

Copy of exercises and audio will be added after the event.

Saturday, 30th July 2022, 7pm (GMT)
Join Zoom meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87616355527 (NEW LINK)

Meeting ID : 87616355527
Password: 861572

For further info email codaunitycommittee@gmail.com

Recordings

Codependence Matters – recordings
CoDA Founder shares – 2007 >

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New Updates on the website

Help wanted to assist with developing our meetings offering on the website

We’re looking for fellows to assist with developing the ‘How to Start a Meeting’ and ‘No Meeting in Your Area?’ sections of the website. You may have good editing or writing skills, or more technical skills, but an enthusiasm for carrying the message is all that’s required. We’re also looking for someone with WordPress skills who can help to develop a technical aspect of the meetings list.

As part of this development work, we’re collecting sample meeting scripts to share as part of a meeting start up pack. There are lots of different meeting formats in the UK fellowship, both online and in person, and we invite groups to send in your scripts for sharing as part of this process.

Please email them to meetings@codauk.org where a fellow is waiting to anonymise them and turn them into downloadable templates on the new meetings page.

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Co-Dependence Matters – meetings (and shares)

Speaker Sessions are run most Saturdays by the group.

Saturday, 7pm (BST) (UTC+1)
Join Speaker Sessions: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81287357167

Meeting ID : 81287357167
Password: 679646

Email: CodependenceMatters@gmail.com

7th Tradition Fund: https://paypal.me/CodependenceMatters

Where recordings are taken, some of them have been anonymised to remove names of attendees.

These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to the speaker event organisers.

May you find what you need from the recordings.

2023

14th Jan 23 – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope
21st Jan 23 – Heidi A – Arizona,USA – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope
28th Jan 23 – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope
11th Feb 23 – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope
23rd Feb 23 – Heidi A – Peeling the Onion
Powerpoint slides
4th Mar 23 – ESH – Step 3
28th March 23 – Barbara, USA – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope (30 years in CoDA)
15th April 23 – Alice – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope
29th April 23 – Norma – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope
8th May 23 – Alice – Low Self Esteem
6th May 23 – Andy B & Annie W– Healthy Meetings Matter
6th May 23 – Evie – How Not to Go Crazy Doing Service
6th May 23 – Ken & Mary R– Love versus Fear in Service Work
6th May 23 – Heida A & Vince – The 12 Piece Relationship Toolkit
6th May 23 – Dan R – The writing of The 12 Service Concepts booklet
Presentation
6th May 23 – Lisa J – Spirituality and Service
13th May 23 – Jeremiah J – Step 5
20th May 23 – Star – Sharing Experience Strength and Hope
*NEW* 10th June 23 – Eric – Experience Strength and Hope
*NEW* 17th June 23 – Heidi – Why cant I just be happy?
Presentation
*NEW* 24th June 23 – S – Experience Strength & Hope – Tools of Recovery
*NEW* 15th July 23 – Hil C – Experience Strength and Hope
*NEW* 29th July 23 – Kate EB – Experience Strength and Hope
*NEW* 5th August 23 – Hannah F – Experience Strength and Hope
*NEW* 12th August 23 – david a – Experience Strength and Hope
*NEW* 19th August 23 – Shelly D – Experience Strength and Hope
2022
Jan 22 – Heidi– Self Parenting
Jan 22 – Ritchard and Karen – Traditions 1 to 4 of The Twelve Piece Relationship Toolkit
Feb 22 – Ritchard and Karen – Traditions 5 to 8 of The Twelve Piece Relationship Toolkit
9th Apr 22 – M
23rd Apr 22 – A
7th May 22 – E
14th May 22 – TJ –
21st May 22 – C
28th May 22 – B
18th Jun 22– The Guidelines for Sharing
25th Jun 22 – Lisa J – Inner Children and their Higher Powers
16th Jul 22 – R– Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
30th Jul 22 – Workshop – CoDA Founders – Inner Child
6th Aug 22 – Cammi A – Promise 8
15th Aug 22 – J.W – Building a Strong Foundation – Tools for Recovery
Google Presentation
PDF Presentation
3rd Sept 22 – Kate – Service
10th Sept 22 – N – Experience Strength & Hope
17th Sept 22 – Malasula – Step 11
1st Oct 22 – K– Experience, Strength & Hope
8th Oct 22 – SJ – Experience Strength & Hope
15th Oct 22 – Phil P – Experience Strength & Hope
19th Nov 22 – Paul G – Experience Strength & Hope
26th Nov 22 – JJ USA – Experience Strength & Hope
10th Dec 22 – Traditions
17th Dec 22 – Experience Strength Hope – Step Eleven
2021
Jan 20 – Lyn
23rd Jan 21 – Mary R – CoDA Founder
Jan 21 – Ken R – CoDA Founder
Feb 21 – Susan
Feb 21 – Emily
May 21 – Penny P
May 21 – Scott
May 21 – Lennie
Jun 21 – Alice
Dec 21 – Frank C – Sponsorship
Dec 21 – Heidi – Shame
2020
8th Aug 20 – Christina
22th Aug 20 – On Service
29th Aug 20 – Heidi
10th Oct 20 – Frank C – Steps
Oct 20 – Frank C – Traditions
Oct 20 – Charlie
24th Oct 20 – John
7th Nov 20 – Andy
21st Nov 20 – V
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Public Liability Insurance 2023-2024

Is your group meeting face to face?

Does the lease for your venue require your group to have public liability insurance?

If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim, who would the claim be made against? Who would be liable to pay?

Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group is personally liable to meet all costs in the event of a claim.

Did you know that CoDA UK holds a group Public Liability Insurance Policy which is significantly cheaper than groups can get individually?

If you would like more information or would like your group to be included on this policy, please send an email to the treasurer: NSCtreasurer@codauk.org

Public Liability Insurance 2023-24 letter
To find out more about the cover for in-person meetings, groups and retreats for this year and how to request it, please download the letter below in your preferred format to share the information with your group.

Letter (docx) | Letter (pdf)

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Safer Online Meetings

With many of our CoDA meetings moved to internet-based video rooms & phone lines, by now you’ve probably heard of the “bombers” that like to interrupt meetings with their inappropriate behaviours. 

Following requests from meetings affected by such interruptions the CoDA Board of Trustees have collated some suggestions to help keep your group’s meetings safe, and we share these for our UK fellows below.

These are not 100% inclusive; it is best to research the help file of the provider or vendor that your meeting chooses.

1. Do not use your personal meeting ID – instead generate a new meeting ID for your meeting. Meeting app accounts allow the creation of many meetings with a unique ID which can be used recurring. The limitation applied is with the concurrent use of different meeting IDs.

2. Consider using a meeting password – even if this is published on a publicly accessible meetings list this can still act as a preventative measure.

3. Consider using a “waiting room” feature – this allows the meeting host(s) to vet each person before granting them access to the meeting. Should someone join the meeting for disruptive purposes they can be removed to the waiting room by the host. This also allows members to provide a new service role.

4. Mute audio as members enter the meeting or once the meeting starts – ask members to unmute when it is their time to share. Once the meeting is running only those providing service by reading the script, reading literature, or sharing need to have their mic open. This can also form a part of meeting etiquette to prevent audio echo and feedback.

5. Turn off screen sharing for everyone but the meeting host(s) – many disruptive joiners share material to interrupt the screen. Having a service position of host allows any sharing of readings or other meeting materials to be performed as part of the service role.

6. Be prepared to remove anyone that is disruptive with inappropriate behaviour – the only requirement to attend a CoDA meeting is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. By joining to disrupt intentionally signals that this is not the reason for joining the meeting.

We hope these suggestions will help you to keep CoDA meetings healthy, safe, and secure!

If your group would like assistance with setting up any of these measures, the UK Web service would be happy to share instructions – please email him on codawebservice@codauk.org.

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CoDA Fellowship Forum – event (and shares)

Hosted by CoDA Communications Committee

Join us for CoDA Member shares with time for questions and fellowship

WHEN: Last Saturday of every month:
8 PM (GMT-UK),12 PM (PT), 1 PM (MT), 2 PM (CT) and 3 PM (ET),Sun. 7am (AEST-Aus)

Join Zoom Meeting!
Meeting ID: 997 1221 0733

Sign up for event reminders!

© Codependents Anonymous, inc 2018-2020

This podcast is the property of CoDependents Anonymous.  

Reproduction without written permission from CoDependents Anonymous is not permitted.

CoDA Fellowship Forums purpose is to share information with any & all CoDA members, especially that which may effect CoDA as a whole.

CoDA Fellowship Forum send out regular emails with CoDA events, announcements, issues & CoDA business of interest to both specific regions & to the entire CoDA fellowship.

Per the 2nd tradition, For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority, a loving higher power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. Developing a group conscience requires an informed fellowship, & to be effective trusted servants those you’ve elected must know the group conscience of the fellowship.

2023

Jan – Join in the Journey with Colour – (CoDA Colouring Book) – Kathy H
Feb – Sponsorship – James K
Mar – Meeting in Print – David A
Apr – Group Conscience Decision Making Process – David A
May – Getting involved in CoDA Service – Patrick B
Jun – CODA Service Conference (CSC) & the Motions for 2023

2022

Jan – Forgiveness & Acceptance
Feb – Trauma Bonding
Mar – The 12 Promises
Apr – Boundaries & Jealousy
May – The Labels of Codependency
Jun – CoDA Unity
Jul – Step 1 – Powerlessness
Sept – Tradition 1 – Unity
Oct – Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes – Gail
Nov – Working Steps 4 & 5 – With 40 Questions – Debbie

Forty Questions – for CoDA Steps 4 & 5 (Final Draft)

2021

Feb – Lets Talk About Service
Mar – Silver Linings
Apr – Let’s Talk About the Power of Pause
May – Dealing with Change
Jun – Spirituality – David A / James K
Jul – Hope – David A
Aug – Willingness – David A & Jim K
Sept – Intentions vs Actions – David A
Oct – My First CoDA Meeting – David A
Nov – Gratitude – James K
Dec – Anonymity – David A

2020

Feb – The 12 Service Guidelines
Mar – Speaking My Truth Was Liberating
Apr – When Life Gives You Lemons
May – Let’s Talk About Service
Jun – Let’s Talk About Writing for CoDA
Jul – Let’s Talk About Inner Child
Sept – Let’s Talk About Sponsorship
Oct – Let’s Talk About How to Deal with Fear
Nov – Let’s Talk About Gratitude
Dec – Let’s Talk About How Do I Feel?

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Ken and Mary – Living the Third Step

Shared with thanks to Arizona CoDA Events Committee


Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on living the third step through these unusual times.

Two and half hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.

Copy of exercises included below video.

CoDA Third Step Prayer – Exercise

God, I give to You all that I am and all that I will be for Your healing and direction.

  1. What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you are for your Higher Power’s healing and direction”?
  2. What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you will be your Higher Power’s healing and direction?”

Make new this day as I release all my worries and fears, knowing that You are by my side.

  1. How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you in releasing all your worries and fears?
  2. How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you during this time of pendemic?

Please help me to open myself to Your love,

  1. What is your process to opening yourself up to your Higher Power’s Love?

To allow Your love to heal my wounds,

  1. How do you experience your Higher Powerr’s Love healing your wounds?

And to allow Your love to flow through me and from me and from me to those around me.

  1. What is your experience emotionally, intellectually, physically and spirtitually when you allow your Higher Power’s Love to flow through you to others?

May Your will be done this day and always.

  1. What do you generally think your Higher Power’s will is for you? Is it Loving? Demanding? Fearful? Affirming? Joyful?

Amen

Possible Solutions and Tools for living our 3rd Step while dealing with advertsity, including the pandemic.

These tools are meant for suggestions only. Some are meant, clearly, to be practised on a daily basis, while others can be practised every week or two.

Remember that Self-Care is always about action, which is also the process of CoDA recovery.

Natural tools to deal with depression and anxiety through loving self-care

  1. Pray Daily… this is always #1, connect and talk with your loving Higher Power, always and in all ways.
  2. Step Work (possibly: I am powerless over the pandemic and feel like my life is unmanageable… we altered this a bit 🙂
  3. Meditate
  4. Breathe Deeply, Exhale Slowly… repeat and repeat
  5. Exercise
  6. Connect with others:
    (Zoom CoDA Meetings, Face-Time with friends and family, Phone Calls, Email, Social Media)
  7. Zoom CoDA Study Groups using the CoDA Blue Book, The CoDA Green Workbook and/or CoDA Pamphlets and Booklets.
  8. Ask yourself: “What would my Higher Power say about…?” “How would my Higher Power comfort me?” etc.
  9. Daily dialog with your Inner Child and Inner Teen.
  10. Loving Affirmations
  11. Journal your thoughts and feelings
  12. Releasing Emotional Energy from your body (see attachment)
  13. Do a Fear List Exercise:

    “Write out one liner’s of what you are afraid of, anxious over, worried about or fearful of.

    Separate the fears into 3 categories:
  • Problem Solving Fears: these are fears that you can get into solution with like: I’m low on groceries and need to get to the market before they close.” We can intervene on these fears by taking action through problem solving… like, going to the market and getting groceries before they close.
  • Fears of Shame: fears where we are afraid of looking dumb, stupid, not enough etc. (our negative self-talk). We can intervene on these and affirm the loving truth about who we are and who our Loving Higher Power see us to be.
  • General Fears of Bad Things Possibly Happening: this includes self-doubt, what-if’s, Ya Buts. We can intervene on these to stop scarig ourselves about the future and instead look for solutions, especially coming back to our 3rd Step and being willing to turn our fears over to the care of God as we understand God.
  1. Stick to a reasonable daily schedule
  2. Bathe and brush your teeth
  3. Participate in some form of hobby, recreation, and productivity
  4. Play games with friends online
  5. Play games with family
  6. Find new creative ways to play and have fun
  7. Healthy Diet (avoiding too many stimulants like sugar and caffeine).
    21 If you are in a relationship at home, make sure that you create consistent time apart to avoid circumstantial enmeshment.
  8. Is you have children at home, shared parenting is vital to everyone. If that is not possible, then asking for help from others is of great benefit in order to have some relief and balance in your responsibilities and for the children as well.
  9. Get outside for sunshine and fresh air.
  10. Watch the stars at night… notice the expensiveness of the Universe
  11. If possible, drive to a new destination every 2-3 days
  12. No matter what, know that you are not alone. We truly are all in this together. Practising loving self-care and loving self-acceptance of where you are right here, right now. It is enough!

Mary’s Closing reading

Our CoDA 3rd Step “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God” helps to remind us that loving self-care is an important part of being “willing to be willing”. If we are not taking care of ourselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually or sexually, we can be more susceptible to returning to a “conflict in gods” making ourselves, others, even our feelings more important than our Higher Power.

“Making a decision” includes intentional thought, intentional surrender and intentional willingness to allow our Higher Power to guide us, to teach us, to heal us, to LOVE us right here, right now.

The tools we have listed are helpful for self-care, self-love and loving surrender. This is a short list, for there are engless ways we can love ourselves. In taking action to love our Higher Power and ourselves, living the 3rd Step is much easier.

It is always important to remember that we are human beings, loveable and fallible. There is no perfection in recovery. No perfection in life. It is a process made from a beautiful loveing heart that we continue on this journey.

If you would like to join the CoDA Arizona mailing list email codaarizona@gmail.com

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CoDA Arizona website
CoDA Arizona – Live Workshop Library
CoDA Arizona – Saturday Speaker Series – Workshop Library

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London South East Region – operational

The London & South East Region (LSER) became operational again at the last meeting on July 11th, and a committee has been formed consisting of Chair, Communications Secretary, Minutes Secretary and GSR (Regional Rep).

We’ll be holding regular meetings every 3 or 4 months (to be decided at the next meeting) and we’re hoping the LSER will be  a forum for GSRs and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and to discuss putting on events and other community building activities.

We currently have a vacancy for the post of Treasurer, other service positions will become available as we look to do various projects and work out what we need in the Region.

NEXT MEETING : October 3rd – 1pm on Zoom
Login details and links will be sent out nearer the time. All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend

All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend

In Fellowship

LSER Communications Secretary

CoDA Service Information : http://coda.org/index.cfm/service-info/

Find out more about LSER here

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LSER Update 30/6

Service positions available

Tuesday 30th June

Dear CoDA London South East Region Members,

An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020.

During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed an interest to serve. It was agreed to open all the Committee roles to the wider LSER community and anyone who is interested can read the service role descriptors (see below) to understand what would be required. This will then allow for nominations and a vote to take place during our next meeting on Saturday 11th July 1-3 pm, to which you and your group members are invited. 

The below list shows which service positions are available should you wish to put yourself forward with a brief description of what each role entails. Some of these positions (Chair, Treasurer and Secretary) are described more fully in part 3 of the CoDA Fellowship Services Manual (FSM): https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/FSM-Part-3-Guidelines-for-Other-Service-Levels.pdf

Service roles that require filling: 

Chair – manages the business meetings and set the agenda.

Secretary – the role would include producing and distributing meeting minutes and other key information to attendees, officers, and the local Fellowship.

Minutes Taker – takes the minutes during the meeting.

Communications Secretary – creates and maintains a Region contact list, answers incoming email, and would handle most mass mailings.

GSR – attends and reports to the National Steering Committee (NSC) every 3 or 4 months.

Treasurer – responsible for accounting and documentation of all funds, maintaining accurate records and presenting written reports of the status of the LSER account at meetings and when requested to the Fellowship.

Literature Secretary – to liaise with UK CoDA publisher to ensure literature is available. Provides other information about literature (new publications etc).

Timekeeper – during the LSER meetings.

Please note the CoDA Fellowship Service Manual states: ‘Terms of office and/or rotation of officers is highly recommended and considered healthy in CoDA. A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’

Please inform your group members about these service vacancies to get more involved at intergroup level (LSER) which are also opportunities to further your recovery as well as meet other CoDA members. If you as a GSR or any of your group members are willing to serve at the regional level then please note it is recommended to be attending local fellowship for at least 1 year and have worked or are working the CoDA program. For those of you interested in the Treasurer role the guidelines are more than 3 years.

A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’

Also, in accordance with the CoDA FSM 2019, GSRs and Committee members have a right to vote however as there is no LSER Committee yet this means only GSRs can vote. Ideally, the formed LSER Committee would consist of GSRs and Service members who are not GSRs.

Finally, LSER committee meetings are open for all CoDA members to attend, to contribute ideas about what they would like to see happen in their region and to discuss any issues their groups are experiencing, currently they are taking place on Zoom. It is a good way to be informed of what is happening with CoDA groups across the London South East Region and to connect with other CoDA members too.

We hope to see you on Sat 11th July 2020 at 1pm, when all being well the LSER Committee will once again become operational,

In fellowship
Acting LSER Communications Secretary

Note: please contact coda.uk.se.region@gmail.com for Zoom login details.

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Ken and Mary 2019 Speaker Event Recordings

During October 2019 two weekend long speaker events were held, one in London and the other in Liverpool, during which Ken and Mary shared their experience, strength and hope with the fellowship. The sessions were recorded and following anonymisation work to remove names for all attendees are now available.

These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to CoDA UK, Ken R and Mary R.

May you find what you need from the recordings.

1 – Boundaries, Relationships and Resentments
(Presentation starts: 14m 22s)
2 – Abuse, Control and Family of Origin
(Presentation starts: 2m 32s)
3 – 12 Piece Toolkit – Relationship Recovery
(Presentation: 7m 55s)
4 – 12 Steps on a Daily Basis and Self Care
(Presentation starts: 4m 56s)
5 – Abandonment, anger and reconnecting with the inner child
(Presentation starts: 10m 50s)
6 – Reparenting ourselves, Letting go of Resentments, Allowing Ourselves to Grieve
(Presentation starts: 0m 55s)
7 – Recovery through Service
(Presentation starts: 4m 44s)
8 – Coda Fellowship
(Presentation starts: 2m 20s)
9 – Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable.
(Presentation starts: 5m 32s)
10 – Step 2 – Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
(Presentation starts: 3m 50s)
11 – Step 3 – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
(Presentation starts: 2m 20s)
12 – Step 4 – Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Step 5 – Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
(Presentation starts: 6m 36s)
13 – Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Step 7 – Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
(Presentation starts: 12m)
14 – Step 8 – Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
(Presentation starts 4m 08s )
15 – Step 10 – Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Step 11 – Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
(Presentation starts 2m 33s)
16 – Step 12 -Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message
to other co-dependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
(Presentation 3m 10s)

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Website Feedback

While we are developing this new website for CoDA we appreciate members’ input to ensure that the site works towards meeting Tradition Five “…..to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer”.

Should you identify any areas which you would like to provide feedback on, experience any technical issues, or have ideas on how the site can be improved, please provide your input through this form:

Website Feedback Form

Submissions are anonymous, however contact details may be provided should you wish to discuss the item further.

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Ken & Mary Letter

Following the well received workshops held in London and Liverpool during October 2019, Ken and Mary have sent a letter of thanks to be shared with members.