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7th May 2022 – NSC meeting

Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00

In recent years, the National Service Committee (NSC) of CoDA UK has flourished, with members filling most of the available service positions. However, due to personal circumstances, several committee members have recently had to step down from their roles, and this means there are a number of vacant positions, which could have an impact on the work of the NSC. 

Available roles are now all listed on the website here: https://codauk.org/open-service-positions/ and you can see the full list of committee roles here: https://codauk.org/nsc-service-positions/

To take account of all these changes and ensure the health of the NSC, it has been agreed by members that we will hold an open Group Inventory to look at the NSC and its work at our next scheduled meeting on 7th May. Everyone in the fellowship is welcome to attend. 

The format for this session is included in the attached agenda and the meeting will be chaired by Andy from the London and South East Region.  

Please join the zoom call just before 1pm

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Everyone is welcome to join, so please do share this communication at your groups. 

If you have any further questions please feel free to contact me at communications@codauk.org

We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 7th May. 

Agenda ItemStart TimeEnd Time
1. Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. Appointment of a spiritual timekeeper. 20 mins1 PM1:20 PM
2. Introductions and Feelings check.
20 mins
1:20 PM1:40 PM
3. Request for a member to take minutes and voting entity established and appointment of a spiritual timekeeper
10 mins
1:40 PM1:50 PM
4. Discussion of mission statement for NSC. Consider the purpose of the NSC as an entity of CoDA UK.
60 mins
1:50 PM2:50 PM
10 minute break2:50
PM
3:00 PM
5. Inventory of NSC service work in progress and forward look at work planned but not yet started/ put on hold . What subcommittees/activities are currently active/healthy with members in service? What work is essential for the UK fellowship to continue? What can stay on hold until members come forward to serve?
60 mins
3:00 PM4:00 PM
6. Service positions available – Nominations, discussions and votes. 20 mins

All available positions: https://codauk.org/nsc-service-positions/ 
Plus 1-2 CSC reps/alternates (no job description available) 
4 PM4:20 PM
7. Consider any legal requirements of the NSC if it’s to gain charity status. Agree next steps for the NSC based on the outcome of items 4,5 & 6 30 mins4:20 PM4:50 PM
8. Agree actions onscreen so minutes can be circulated straight away 5 mins4:50 PM4:55 PM
9. Close – Promises and long form Serenity Prayer
5 mins
4:55 PM5 PM

The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:

20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/ votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/ PI/ Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 – motion carried

5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15  – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for. 
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried

5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chairman can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 – motion carried

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25th-26th June – CoDA 24 hour event

25th June 5pm (GMT) – 26th June 5pm (GMT)
(25th June Noon (EST) – 26th June Noon EST)
Be a part of this major 24 Hour World CoDA Event

We are looking for:

  • coordinators/organizers – you can represent your time zone/country, be
    part of planning committee and have more involvement in the event
  • speakers/workshop leaders – if you want to share your story or organize a
    workshop (1-2 hour timeslots)
  • hosts (who may select cohosts) – managing zoom and breakout rooms
  • session facilitators – reading script, calling on people, introducing speakers
  • interpreters to fill all time slots – do volunteer to help coda reach different
    languages

If you have any questions, please contact:
Katja F: Katja.Fleck@outlook.com
LeSha C: Lcharnetsky@gmail.com
Mahima C: mahima.coda.outreach@gmail.com
Sara J: sarajcoda@gmail.com

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17th July – CoDA Online Sponsorship Workshop

Working the steps in Coda;
Exploring different Sponsorship approaches.

Sunday 17th July, 1.00 – 3.30 London (UK time) (8am EST)
(doors open 12.30, there will be a 15 minute comfort break)

  • Are you looking for a sponsor?
  • Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
  • Are you looking for new sponsees?

Come along to listen and share experience, strength and hope about being a sponsee, a sponsor or a co-sponsor.

This workshop is an introduction to the various ways of sponsorship, and not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part. Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery. We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a home group and joining WhatsApp groups (see below).

No registration is required to attend this event. Zoom limit of 100 people

Format: A CoDA meeting with a 15 minute break. Only CoDA speakers. Only CoDA approved literature.

No entrance fee. 7th Tradition donated to your home group.

Joining Details:

CoDA UK NSC is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting

Subject: CoDA Quarterly sponsorship workshop

Join Zoom meeting

Are you willing to do service to support the workshop?

Opportunities for Service before the workshop and on the day include:

  • Being Chair Finder
  • Being a co-host for the next workshop
  • Reading the Script
  • Spiritual Timekeeper
  • Greeter
  • Newcomers rep
  • Treasurer
  • Being on the Quarterly Sponsorship Workshop Committee

The quarterly sponsorship workshop committee plans and facilitates these workshops through a group conscience process – we meet monthly on the 4th Saturday of the month from 5.00-6.00pm – everyone is welcome to attend.

Next meetings are: Sat 28th May 5-6 pm & 25th June 5-6pm

If you would like to volunteer for service, please email sponsorship@codauk.org

Following workshop date: Saturday 8th October 1.00-3.30

We have a script for the workshop (working document), if that helps: all are welcome to read and comment:

Zoom Script Sponsorship April 2022.docx

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CoDA Connections – New submissions

Call For New Submissions!

Have Weekly Readings and Meeting in Print been helpful or thought-provoking for you?

Consider submitting your story and sharing your insight with other CoDA members!

How has CoDA changed your life? Sharing your experience, strength and hope may help thousands of codependents still suffering. Everybody in CoDA has a recovery story to tell.

Please email: connections@coda.org

Some Possible Topics: (Could include, but not limited to!)

  1. Sharing Strength and Hope
    How CoDA and the 12 Steps have made a positive impact
  1. Lessons Learned
    Lessons learned while you’ve been working the CoDA program
  1. Working the 12 Steps
    Your experience working one or more of the 12 Steps
  1. Affirmations
    Original affirmations you may have come up with
  1. Recovery – Tips and Techniques
    Helpful Tips and techniques, which are in line with our traditions and documents.
  1. Words of Wisdom
    What are some of your favorite sayings? How about submitting your own?
  1. Other Thoughts
    Observations, perspectives, etc

(We ask that no submissions or articles violate the letter or spirit of the 12 Steps or 12 Traditions. We also request that authors refrain from using second party “You” statements, and stick to first person “I” statements.)

We look forward to hearing from you.

In Service,

The CoDA Co-NNections Committee (Weekly Readings and Meeting in Print)

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12th March – NSC Meeting

Time: 13:00 for 13.30-17:00

CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. 

The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.

Please note there are several service positions currently available. please attend if you are interested in offering service.

Available service positions

Available service positions details are posted here.

Current positions include:

  • Meeting list coordinator
  • Web Service
  • Communications Service
  • Public Liability Insurance
  • Bank Signatory

Submit Agenda Items (for future events)

Please submit any agenda items to secretary@codauk.org using the following template.

Previous meeting minutes are published here.

How to join the meeting:

The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.

Join Zoom meeting 

Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
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29th January – CoDA INTERGROUP NORTH REGION

We look forward to welcoming you on Saturday 29th January 2022 – ‘doors’ open from 1.45pm starting 2pm until 4pm/4.30pm

Meeting on Zoom:

ID: 932 8388 5330
Password: 715822

CoDA Intergroup North Region are holding our Quarterly Workshop Meeting on Saturday 29th January 2022 at 2pm until 4pm/4.30pm.

We welcome all CoDA Members and Newcomers in Our Region – from Birmingham right up to and including NW and NE England, and including Scotland, together with all Wales and Northern Ireland, to discuss or put forward any questions or problems or suggestions you might have regarding CoDA and we are hoping to plan further Workshops for our Region to aid and strengthen our CoDA recovery, including having weekend Retreats. We need your input so please join us.

We will also be reading and sharing on various CoDA Literature and there will be time for sharing.

We are also looking for support to keep our Intergroup relevant and helpful to serve the needs of all our members. No one is ‘in charge’ – we are all trusted servants willing to give what we have been freely given –
recovery from codependency.

Please join us – we need your support to continue carrying the message of CoDA recovery, experience, strength and hope to the still suffering codependent. All are welcome.

Again, we look forward to welcoming you on Saturday 29th January, 2022 – ‘doors’ open from 1.45pm starting 2pm until 4pm/4.30pm

ID: 932 8388 5330
Password: 715822

Contact for further information:
northregion@codauk.org or gilliancoda@gmail.com or 07792 236888

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CoDA Service Conference 2021 Report

For the CSC held online over 27th to 30th July 2021

By Pete H

TL/DR

As I have ended up writing quite a long report and included a lot of detail, I figured a “Too Long… Didn’t Read” section for the majority of members who will benefit from an abridged set of information that can be shared with your homegroups.

Lots of great items were brought to the CSC and were passed. The highlights are:

Voting entities (like the UK) can now bring agenda items directly to the CSC.

Social media and modern platforms can be used for CoDA to carry the message, for meetings etc without breaching tradition 11. Clarification of the principle of anonymity in these modern times in a connected digital world.

A refocus on CoDA youth services. Looking to relaunch and reinvigorate CoDA youth/teen.

Update of Tradition 11 wording:

  • Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and all other public forms of communication.

New literature approved for publishing:

  • Newcomers’ handbook second edition – with loads of changes
  • Second edition of Making choices in recovery, positive affirmations for working on our shortcomings – loads of changes, essentially a complete re-write
  • Joy In the Journey, Recover with colour – a new ‘adult colouring book’
  • Codependency & Recovery, The Differences – well known one page document approved by CSC
  • Prayers for CoDA’s Twelve Traditions – set of 12 prayers approved
  • The Longer Serenity Pray – the prayer used widely in the UK approved by CSC (finally!)

And finally the CoDA Preamble has been agreed to be updated to replace “men and women” with “people”.

Who Am I?

I would like to start by thanking the members of CoDA UK for allowing me to provide service by acting as one of the UK representative delegates to the CoDA Service Conference (CSC) 2021. I would also like to express gratitude to my fellow candidate and alternate delegate Philip F and Cammie A.

The while event was online and to ease people in to aid the levelling of various experience and capability levels with the meeting technology and online meetings there were numerous rehearsals run. During the rehearsals we gathered together as candidates and went through a mock conscience item vote. These rehearsals were suitable imperfect helping us to not take ourselves too seriously.

Looking to the schedule and the content of the delegate pack (that can all still be downloaded from codependents.org) it seemed evident that there was almost certainly a lot of business that must have been trimmed down to squeeze as much in as possible. There were certainly quite a few items from the delegate pack that didn’t make it to discussion or vote. Just like our own UK service committee there is so much business to attend to and so little time.

The process that was followed to present and discuss issues was fast and efficient but was prone to running short on time as the proposer could take up much of their allotted schedule by repeating what was int eh delegate pack rather than hand the time over to questions or “pro’s and con’s”. as such time the first couple of days overran by over an hour each, which translated to wrapping things up around 2 am UK time.

Taking on my role as the UK delegate I feel I voted following the principles of the program, in particular, “does this come from a place of love, acceptance, and inclusion”, “does it help the codependent who still suffers”, “does it help to carry the message”, “will this help attraction to the program”.

A short introduction of myself as we may not have met previously. I am Pete and I am codependent. I have been in recovery for three years now having spent a year working the steps in another program prior to finding CoDA. I am fortunate enough to be working the program alongside my partner, gradually growing our dysfunctional relationship of 20+ years into something healthier one day at a time.

I have been grateful to provide service in various areas across CoDA in my time so far, including as the current web service person for the UK NSC. Service has allowed me to practice healthy patterns in safe spaces, helping me build the esteem to bring them into all areas of my life.

I believe that CoDA is a program for helping me to work through and heal the underlying problems in my life from childhood onwards, so they no longer control my present life. I hope that this universal acceptance, healing, and love show in my service and in the way I have represented the CoDA members of the UK in my voting at the CSC.

The Long Version…

For the next section of my report, I will provide a brief overview of the items that were discussed and voted on, how I voted, and the outcome. If you would like to read about each item in more detail, then the accompanying service items report document and the resources from the delegate pack available from https://www.codependents.org/CSC/2021/2021.htm are available.

The full motions report from the CSC passed motions from 2021 can be downloaded from here:

CSC Motions Day 1

Several of the agenda items were for text corrections or updates to literature. The weeks agenda started with a few of these. I have cut out motions raised around changes to breaks, timings, extensions of the day etc to just share the items that may be worth sharing with fellows and home groups.

I have prefaced my commentary with “VE:”

Motion/Issue: 21007

Move to correct the wording of the following sentence from Part 4, Section 2, Page 10 of the Fellowship Service Manual, Last Revision 2021-05-09.

VE: This seemed like a sensible amendment and a clarification of wording so I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21008

Move that the Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) Service Structure chart of the inverted pyramid revert to the chart used by CoDA from 2005-2016 as in Figure 1.

VE: there seemed to be a lot of confusion about different versions from different years that have been updated, lost, reverted, edited, etc in various places and formats. As we are not intended to be perfect but making progress it seemed that making a change this year was worthwhile and if those identifying alternatives that they felt were better then that could be brought next year. I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21009

Move that Voting Entities be granted the right to bring motions directly to CSC precisely as the CoDA Board of Trustees and World Standing Committees currently do.

VE: This is a most welcome change. Previously to bring an item to the CSC it had to be submitted to a CSC committee who would take it on and bring it to conference. This often meant that items didn’t get submitted in the first year and prevented items from being heard. With this passed then any voting entity, including the UK or a UK region, can bring an agenda item to future CSC. I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21010

correction: Page 8 Error – to change the comma after “Conference” to a period and change “the” to “The” to begin a new sentence.

VE: this seemed to be a simple typo error and I was mostly surprised items like this couldn’t be dealt with by a committee as a trusted servant responsibility. I voted in favour, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21011

Move that Motion 20023 be amended to encompass the following seven CoDA Foundational Documents: The CoDA Twelve Steps, the CoDA Twelve Traditions, the CoDA Twelve Service Concepts, the CoDA Twelve Promises, the CoDA Welcome, the Short Version of the CoDA Welcome, and the CoDA Preamble.

VE: This vote was quite contentious and during the statements section I made a representation stating that I felt that preventing any change from being implemented for two years, and to require an initial 66% and then a 75% affirmative vote (more than needed to pass this motion) to make any change to the wording in the defined documents, removes group autonomy, prevents the inclusive evolution of the fellowship in line with the growing understanding of the issues people face in life. Also, that this high bar would allow a small minority to block changes for inclusive wording. I voted against this motion, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21002

Chairs and visitors be given voice at convention. Includes everyone that is present will have voice. Not everyone present will have vote. YouTube viewers are just observers.

VE: This item moved to allow those that are attending the CSC as alternate, in other service capacity, as a committee member etc the opportunity to raise their hand to speak on agenda items whether they have a voting right or not. To me this provides opportunity to hear a wider array of experience, strength, and hope than just that of the registered voting delegates. I voted yes on this, and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21004

Description: Accept the community solving problem as listed on the screen and adapted for virtual. Those in favour of pros is called first and a list is made from raised hands by the moderator. A list of cons will raise their hands and the moderator will write down the names in order. Moderator will then call the alternate views for discussion.

VE: This outlined the way the problem-solving approach to discussing items was to be used for this CSC (already nine motions in) as the approach hadn’t technically been approved for use in a virtual CSC. This process had been practiced during the rehearsals and had so far allowed discussion and airing of differing views and E-S-H on matters. I voted yes, and the motion passed.

CSC Motions Day 2

Beginning the second full day of the agenda.

Motion/Issue: 21016

Subject: All motions to take immediate effect unless otherwise stated.

VE: This item was quite important, especially considering the motion being passed on the first day so that any changes, amendments, or corrections to 7 CoDA documents would take two years to be implemented with successive votes of 2/3 and ¾ to pass. There were several proposed changes to some of the documents in later motions that would be immediately impacted if the change was immediate. The other option was that the changes would take effect at the close of the conference.

During discussion it was mentioned that the approach had always been for items to take effect as soon as they are passed. I was torn on this one as it seemed procedure had not changed, but also that again the precedent that a motion could be passed that would make another impossible simply by the order in which they are submitted or selected to be scheduled. I can’t recall how I voted on this item in the end, but it passed with a 2/3 majority.

Motion/Issue: 21018

Subject: Ratification of Board Motions 2020-2021.

VE: this motion was to approve/accept the motions and actions that the CoDA board had passed during the 2020-2021 period. The motions were all provided in the VE delegate pack which can still be viewed. There was quite a lot of business they had gone through, a lot of it general housekeeping as with many committees. I saw nothing in the motions that was problematic and voted yes, the motion passed.

Motion/Issue: 21019

Subject: Correct Preamble

Communications Committee moves that the preamble be changed as noted:

Proposed change: Co-Dependents Anonymous is an inclusive fellowship whose common purpose is to develop healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of selfdiscovery – learning to love the self.

VE: I was largely in favour of this, however, this item had been merged with about 3 committees submitting similar proposals to improve the preamble and not all the committees had been informed that their item had been merged into this, and were not consulted with decisions and changes around this. The communications committee that presented this item also refused crafting. This had also been voted on or discussed last year with the simple change of “men and women” to people and this specific change was being overlooked for a broader amendment. I also felt that this new wording didn’t really correct the repetition word salad that often sounds like gibberish when spoken aloud at meetings. If crafting had been accepted I would have proposed the following:

“co-dependents anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose and only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self.”

As it stood, I voted in favour of this as it had become the only option to improve the welcome with inclusive language. From my experience I know how simple language can turn something loving and caring into something frightening and traumatic. Being told I am wrong instead of that I did something wrong. As much as anything it brings to mind a wise quote “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better”. Progress not perfection, and progress is needed. This motion was defeated.

Motion/Issue: 21021

Subject: Accept QR Code for use in CoDA.

VE: A lot seemed to be made of accepting a QR code design to be included in literature and print outs etc. The link was proposed to just point to the coda.org website and carry not further data. There then seemed to be all manner of perfectionistic statements about artwork and different use cases and the general purpose seemed to get lost along the way. I was a bit surprised that this wouldn’t be something that could just be performed by a committee as a trusted servant activity and really doesn’t need to be made a complicated as it was being turned into. The proposer withdrew the motion to further investigate all the overly complicated “well, actually…” thrown at them.

Motion/Issue: 21022

Subject: Revise social media policy.

VE: This item, to my mind, was an important step forward for CoDA as a whole. The Fellowship Service Manual (FSM) and general CoDA guidance on the use of social media and technology platforms has long been based on a very restrictive and blinkered view of the traditions, especially tradition 11. As stated in the motion text, Tradition 11 speaks of maintaining anonymity when representing CoDA to outside entities. Members engaging with social media, going about their lives online are not representing CoDA. This motion clarifies many things.

  • Sharing our faces and full names (our identity) within a meeting, business meeting, or social media does not violate tradition 11.
  • Members are also not required to share their face or identity within a CoDA meeting. It is personal choice.
  • Outreach, meetings, and CoDA attraction can be performed on social media and other platforms.

Having a technical background myself there is an awful lot of misunderstandings about what is and isn’t private and confidential online. A lot of fear, uncertainty, and doubt is spread about platforms and services that is certainly an outside issue and has been preventing the sharing of the message of CoDA recovery and providing the resources that people may find and witness to foster the attraction and reaching the codependent that still suffers. I voted in favour of this motion and it passed.

Motion/Issue: 21025

Subject: Update to CoDA Investment Policy

VE: whilst there are all sorts of complicate issues around making sure that member donations go back into actively serving the membership, carrying the message, and reaching the codependent that still suffers, it seems sensible to ensure that ongoing costs can be safely covered through investment of funds that CoDA holds. There was a large spreadsheet of the current and projected costs for things and the face to face CSC seems to cost an awful lot. Overall it seemed sensible that the funds that in some ways needed to be set aside should be invested in safe locations that also ensure that the value of the money doesn’t depreciate. I voted in favour, and the motion passed.

Motion/Issue: 21028

Subject: CoDA and CoRE Board Candidate Introduction.

VE: Five prospective members (2 for CoRE and 3 for the CoDA board) were introduced with an opportunity to share about themselves, their recovery and service experience, and what they hoped to bring to service with CoRE or the CoDA board. It was good to get a feel for the real people that are doing service on behalf of CoDA so that they are not just an entity.

Motion/Issue: 21033

Subject: Spanish Outeach – CoDA youth.

VE: whilst there was no motion attached, Spanish Outreach had created a video that highlights the plight of the young codependent and those actively living through the trauma that is so commonly the foundation of a life of codependency. This has hopefully shone a light in an area of service growth need that fellows in the UK are in the process of taking up.

Motion/Issue: 21035

Subject: Translation and Publication Information / Disclaimer.

VE: in short there seems to be a bit of an oversight in the translated printing such that doesn’t currently provide the reader of translated literature information on whether the translated text has been approved by CoDA or CoRE, whether it was translated by volunteers or a paid service.

It seems that there is a large need for translation services from volunteers and where necessary professional services. Also, for these translations to be checked by members for quality and accuracy. With important literature the intent and nuance can be subtle and missed by someone unfamiliar with the content. Among discussion it seemed that there was not a great deal of conversation on this before submission with relevant committees.

I felt it appropriate that members be able to understand that currently translations are not endorsed by CoDA Inc and are the responsibility of the translating country or committee. I voted yes, this was a close vote, passing by a simple majority.

CSC Motions Day 3

The penultimate day had several important items on the agenda, including a proposed change to Tradition 11, many new pieces of literature, and importantly for us in the UK… the endorsement of the longer serenity prayer!

Motion/Issue: 21040

Subject: Replace the Current Tradition 11.

Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and all other public forms of communication.

VE: This was coming back for the second-year vote to pass. The change was proposed and passed last year but as a change to a tradition requires passing with a ¾ vote in the second year. The historic tradition is obviously quite limited in terms of public media forms in this day and age and whilst it has been understood by most that the spirit of the tradition doesn’t just cover ‘press, radio, and film’ it doesn’t hurt to bring it up to date. I did wonder why it wasn’t shortened to simply “all public forms of media” but progress not perfection must prevail. I voted yes and this passed with a ¾ majority.

Motion/Issue: 21044

Subject: Retreats and Other Events.

To allow the CoDA Events Committee to organize financially self-supporting CoDA events, virtual or face to face, separate from the CoDA Service Conference (CSC) and International CoDA Convention (ICC) in coordination with local CoDA communities when possible.

VE: I queried why this was not just within the bounds of ‘trusted servant activity’ and was informed that it would be an expansion of the committee role, reach, and responsibility which itself was a 3 year trial period set to end this year. I voted yes as I felt that the more events and activities there are available for members then the greater the chance that members can attend and further their recovery (‘build it and they will come’). I voted yes, and it passed with a 2/3 majority.

Motion/Issue: 21045

Subject: Newcomer Handbook.

CSC to endorse the second edition of the newcomer handbook.

VE: the new version is quite different from the current edition of the newcomer handbook. New literature is always a good thing in my mind, so I was happy to vote yes. The motion passed with a 2/3 majority and the second edition is endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21046

Subject: Making choices in recovery, positive affirmations for working on our shortcomings.

CSC to endorse the second edition of the making choices booklet.

VE: another great new edition with significant changes. The new content and format now really help focus the booklet on steps 6 and 7 which I would admit I hadn’t realised was the focus of the original. I have had great experience with the first edition and look forward to reading and sharing the new edition. I voted yes and the motion passed. The second edition is endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21049

Subject: CSC to endorse Joy In The Journey, Recover with colour as a new piece of CoDA literature.

VE: this is the new adult colouring book from CoDA illustrated by a CoDA fellow. So many members have benefited from colouring as an inner child and recovery activity that bringing CoDA messages and literature into colouring really seems a beautiful notion. I was happy to vote yes, and the motion passed unanimously. The book is endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21050

Subject: Codependency & Recovery, The Differences.

CSC to endorse CoDependency & Recovery, The Differences, as a one-page service item.

VE: apparently this has been around within CoDA for a very long time, the provenance has long been lost which raised some concern with members as a risk of copyright or other legal issue. This is used widely in UK and other global meetings. I have seen and used this document since joining CoDA. I voted yes, and the motion passed.

Motion/Issue: 21052

Subject: Prayers for CoDA’s Twelve Traditions

CSC to endorse twelve new prayers, one for each of the The Twelve Traditions.

VE: there were some potentially valid queries around some of the language used. The intent is for the prayers to be available freely on the website and to be included in future prayers booklets. It seemed to me that it would again be good to have something that can be progressed upon rather than wait to try and have the ‘perfect’ thing. I voted yes, and the motion passed. The prayers are endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21053

Subject: The Longer Serenity Pray

CSC to endorse The Longer Serenity Prayer as a service piece on our website and pieces of printed literature.

VE: this is the long serenity prayer as well used throughout the UK. To be endorsed as a long version and not to ‘replace’ the original serenity prayer. There were some valid queries around endorsing a new prayer that uses God rather than higher power. In time these terms will undoubtedly be updated through progress. I voted yes, and the motion passed. The long serenity prayer is now finally CoDA endorsed.

Motion/Issue: 21058

Subject: Board of Trustees Elections

VE: we voted on the board members that were introduced previously with the following results:

  • Florence F. – MD – Alternate #2 Board of Directors: elected
  • Liliana R. – Colombia, Board of Trustees: not elected
  • Katherine T. – AZ – Alternate #1 Board of Directors: elected

Motion/Issue: 21059

Subject: CoRE board elections

VE: we voted on the CoRE board members that were introduced previously with the following results:

  • Kathy H – PA: CoRE Board – elected to board
  • Annie S – MA: CoRE Board: elected to board

CSC Motions Day 4

The final day of the CSC.

Motion/Issue: 21063

Subject: Issues Mediation Committee Nominations and election.

VE: election for members of the IMC with the following results:

Nominations:

  • Shannon O. – Canada
  • Carmen W. – NV
  • Jorge B. – Mexico

Returning:

  • Chris J. – IL
  • Steve S. – FL
  • Darlene H. – SoCal
  • Dan R. – Ontario Canada
  • Laurie C. – Georg

 All member elected.

Motion/Issue: 21067

VE Canada. Following the presentation and provisional acceptance of the draft version at the 2020 CSC, we request the 2021 CSC to approve the revised version of Service Concepts – “Alive & Strong” as a new piece of printed and/or downloadable CoDa Endorsed Literature.

VE: another great piece of new literature produced for the fellowship. This one makes the service concepts more understandable and accessible to member. I voted yes and this passed unanimously.

Motion/Issue: 21068

Arizona VE: New proposed preamble.

Preamble:

Co-Dependents Anonymous is a Fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We gather together to support and share with each other in a journey of self-discovery – learning to love the self. Living the program allows each of us to become increasingly honest with ourselves about our personal histories and our own codependent behaviors.

We rely upon the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In CoDA, we each learn to build a bridge to a Higher Power of our understanding, and we allow others the same privilege.

This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives.

VE: thankfully we were able to add this item as an urgent AOB item given the problems with the first attempt to revise the preamble. Unfortunately, this is now in the two-year process of revision as the preamble is part of the foundation documents and will need to be approved again next year. Groups and regions could start to use this as agreed by their own group conscience. There was a lot of discussion that potentially edged into outside issues, personalities etc. In my mind though the primary purpose here is to update language used to ensure that people are not shamed or excluded but are aware that all are welcome in CoDA. Some people also seem to think that a change in wording would mean that already printed literature must be re-printed which made no sense to me, surely you just don’t print any more with the old wording. I voted Yes and this passed with a large majority.

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4th Dec –  Fellowship Development Workshop

Saturday 4th December 2021
(2pm – 4pm)

An opportunity to discover the work and service that regions can provide to groups and members, and the value of connection and unity between groups in service and recovery.

During the workshop there will be several speaker shares on topics covering the nature of the current structure and methods for working service in a region. How the ‘homegroup for homegroups’ can work. Sharing experience of growing fellowship through regions. Drawing on the shared experience, strength, and hope within a region, and more. How regions help individual members voices to be heard and represented within CoDA. There will also be opportunity for members to share.

We are especially enthusiastic for members from groups that are not currently served by a region to attend.

Our initial workshop will be held online on Saturday 4th December 2021 from 2pm to 4pm. Following the close of the workshop members are invited to remain and share fellowship and ideas about moving forward together.

We hope to see you at the workshop.

Join us
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/429544928?pwd=a2wyWE0weU9YTUxnU2RtMU5lMEtBZz09

Meeting ID: 429544928 ; Passcode 103301

If you have any questions – email : hannahinrecovery@gmail.com , shellac777@yahoo.com , or petehcoda@outlook.com
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20th and 21st November 2021 MOM CoDA Inner Child Weekend

Saturday 20th and Sunday 21st November 2021

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The Mixed Online Meeting Group offers an open invitation to attend a weekend of Inner Child related meetings and activities!

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100 on a first come – first served basis

  • The event will NOT be recorded.
  • All readings used will be taken from CoDA approved literature.
  • Activities draw from the content and spirit of CoDA conference approved literature.
  • The Event and meetings all adhere to all the CoDA principles and values.
  • All those providing service are fellows in CoDA.
  • 7th Tradition details are posted below and will be made available during the retreat – all donations will be used to help reach the Co-dependents who still suffer.

7th tradition donations during the retreat can be made anonymously using the following link:

Retreat Meeting details

CoDA Inner Child Weekend (Online)

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 864 9587 6136

Passcode: 967838

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is used.

There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

Any further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Hannah on hannahinrecovery@gmail.com or Pete on petehcoda@outlook.com

Weekend Schedule

Saturday 20th November

Opening Ceremony – 9am-10am

Meeting – Childhood and life today meeting – 10:15am-11:45am

Meal – Teddy bears Picnic – 12pm-1pm

Meeting – Sensory painting – 13:15pm-2:45pm

Activity – Yoga (for all levels) – 3pm-4pm

Activity – Music Room – 4pm-5pm

Meal – Teenager Junk Food Dinner – 5pm-6pm

Activity – Chair share on inner child – 6pm-7pm

Saturday Night Social – 7:15pm-8:15pm

Meeting – Bedtime Story Meeting – 8:30pm-10pm

Sunday 21st November

Meeting – Step 1 The Inner Child – 1pm-2:30pm

Meeting – Promise Two questions writing prompt 2:45-4:15pm

Activity – Improv and Clowning – 4:15pm-5:15pm

Meal – Friendship fat munch – 5:15pm-6:30pm

Meeting – Parenting the inner child plus affirmations – 6:45pm-8:15pm

Closing ceremony – 8:15pm-9pm

Inner Child Disco – 9pm -10pm

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30th Oct – North Region Intergroup ‘Home Group Workshop’

Saturday 30th October 2021

1.45pm for 2pm until 5pm on Zoom

CoDA UK’s North Region Intergroup is trying something new for our next quarterly meeting.

A CoDA member said that a healthy regional group is a “Home Group for Home Groups“.

We would like to explore this concept together in Fellowship.

The meeting is open to all members, including Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and newcomers alike. We are inviting CoDA members from Scotland, Wales, Northern Ireland, Ireland and the North of England and Midlands to join us for an afternoon of fellowship and sharing online on Zoom.

We can raise any concerns, problems or questions from our Home Group, or individually, to share with each other about our experiences of attending a CoDA meeting, Step Groups, Sponsoring/looking for a Sponsor and especially sharing our experiences during the disruptions of the past many months at these most difficult of times.

In this Workshop we can find new opportunities to broaden our Recovery in the Fellowship of CoDA. We can bring news and views from our local meetings that are important to us, where we will be heard in an atmosphere of love, friendship and fellowship and where it will be a safe space to hear or share our Experience, Strength and Hope of CoDA Recovery.

We will be using breakout rooms during the workshop so we can meet and chat with members from other meetings in smaller groups, and then all come back together as a whole group in order to share all the issues and ideas presented: a melting pot of ideas and initiatives to strengthen our CoDA Fellowship and support each other with our own experience, strength and hope carrying us through to our happy road to recovery from codependency and to encourage inclusivity.

The workshop will be held in a relaxed and informal way, following the CoDA Preamble, Welcome, Steps & Traditions, and other CoDA meeting literature.

Some literature it might be useful for groups and members to read together with their Home groups and have in mind when you attend the workshop are:

Building CoDA Community: Healthy Meetings Matter 
https://www.codaliterature.co.uk/building-coda-community-healthy-meetings-matter-booklet-23-p.asp

Carrying the Message: Living the Twelfth Step
 https://www.codaliterature.co.uk/new-carrying-the-message-living-the-twelfth-step-56-p.asp

Common Threads of Codependency
https://www.codaliterature.co.uk/common-threads-of-codependency-booklet-20-p.asp

Codependency & Recovery – The Differences 
Codependency & Recovery – The Differences

Join us on Zoom: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82116364363?pwd=aEk2QkhlMGdsOWNRVUFKbnp3SkNXQT09

ID: 821 1636 4363

Password: 732740



Come and join us in what promises to be an exciting and helpful experience in CoDA Recovery.

All members – newcomers, seasoned CoDA members, GSRs etc – are welcome.

We look forward to seeing you on 30th October!


In gratitude, love, fellowship and service 

CoDA North Region Intergroup

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9th Oct – Intl CoDA Convention – Call for speakers / organisers

Saturday 9th October 2021
(12 noon – 6pm)

We are looking for CoDA members interested in leading a workshop or being a speaker. Workshops typically are 1 hour to 1½ hours and Speakers 45 min to 1 hour depending on the number of applicants. The theme of the convention is “Celebrating CoDA Community.”

The number of workshops and speakers will be decided once all the applications are received. We have the ability to provide virtual rooms so there can be multiple workshops or speakers going on at the same time.

We also have the ability to use the interpretation feature via Zoom in one of the virtual rooms. If your group would like to offer interpretation of English workshops to your native language, please contact Events with names and emails of Trusted Servants who would like to provide this service work.

If you are interested in hosting a workshop, being a speaker, or assisting in interpretation during the event, email iccworkshops@coda.org

Deadline to return workshop / speaker application and interpretation information is 10th September 2021

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24th July – CoDA North Region Meeting

The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. There are quarterly regional meetings, usually held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future. The meeting normally takes the format of a service meeting in the morning, and an open CoDA meeting in the afternoon.

The next CoDA North Region meeting will be held on:

Saturday 24th July 2021

Times: 10.15 for 10.30am-13.00pm and 2.00pm-3.30pm

Morning 10.30-13.00:

CoDA North is holding our quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the North region meetings (which include Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland).

Join us online/by phone to discuss our region’s CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed but all members are welcome to attend. 

If you have any business your group would like to be discussed at the morning meeting, please mention it when you email for the password so that we can put it on the agenda. If possible, the agenda will be circulated in advance to all those registered.

Afternoon Morning 2.00-3.30:

Join us for an open CoDA sharing meeting with fellows from around the North region. This will be run along the lines of a normal CoDA meeting.

NOTE: Meeting Password:
For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email northregion@codauk.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on the day of the meeting. 

We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend the afternoon meeting before 10am.

Join Zoom Meeting online: https://zoom.us/j/93283885330?pwd=ZG9RZTA4KzRIejZwTVdMaDdwbHBodz09

Meeting ID: 932 8388 5330

Or dial in on one of the numbers below using the above meeting ID and the password:

  • +44 330 088 5830
  • +44 131 460 1196
  • +44 20 3481 5237
  • +44 20 3481 5240
  • +44 20 8080 6591
  • +44 20 8080 6592

All CoDA members are welcome.

Not able to attend?
Please email northregion@codauk.org with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.

CoDA North Intergroup Contributions
If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email northregion@codauk.org to request the bank details.

NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.

Keep in touch…
If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email northregion@codauk.org with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.

In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.

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Open Service Positions

A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions

Tradition 7


Why is service part of recovery?

Those who have gone before us recognize that service is critical to recovery and is part of the Twelfth step. Service work is a place to practice recovery skills and extend our recovery to new areas of our lives. At the group level, CoDA members carry the message in many ways, by sharing in meetings, speaking to newcomers (with a focus on providing information rather than giving advice) and trying to adhere to CoDA principles in meetings and elsewhere in their lives. Members can start practicing these types of service from early on in their recovery.

Find out more

Available NSC Service Positions

Full list of NSC service positions

It was agreed at the November 2021 NSC meeting that all the vacant positions could be shared by more than one member, and a full handover will be given by the outgoing member in service.

Full post descriptions open in new tabs – click below to find out more:


Voting Entities for CSC
Charity trustees – to be voted in May 2022

Teams seeking service support

CoDA Unity Committee (UK Speaker Series)
London South East Region – Committee
NSC – Public Information Committee
NSC – Sponsorship Committee
NSC – Web Committee
North Region – (N England, Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland)
Outreach support – Member Networks
Sponsorship – via Member Networks

Other opportunities

Join a CoDA Member Network
Offer service at your home group
Sponsor a newcomer
Start a new CoDA Meeting
Submit a CoDA Share

See also

Home Group – Service Positions

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17th Jul – Fear vs Love (Founders Share)

Global Conversation with Ken & Mary – 14:00 BST

Ken R. and Mary R. founded Co-Dependents Anonymous in 1986. Today, they specialize in helping people achieve their maximum effectiveness by applying the practices and principles of CoDA’s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.

The Q&A (question and answer period) will provide a question from each language to be asked on a first come first serve basis. There will be a round robin of one question per language. Submit your question to your Interpreter who will submit the translation to Events. English speaking attendees can give their question to Events directly. There will be further instructions in the morning to help connect to the Interpretation channels, and more.  

For safety, registration is a 2-Step process with Eventbrite and then with Zoom. Please expect a Zoom Invitation to REGISTER A SECOND TIME before the event. COMPLETE the ZOOM REGISTRTIO and the Zoom Webinar link to the Global Conversation with Ken & Mary will be sent to your email before 17th July.

Register here

Presented by CoDA Events Committee – Find out more

Email events@coda.org to find out more 

NOTE:

Updating your Zoom App is recommended and possible with this link:  https://zoom.us/download#client_4meeting

Translation will be available in Farsi, French, Hebrew, Italian, Mandarin, Russian, Spanish, Ukrainian, and Portuguese.

This World Event will have 9 languages being interpreted in a consecutive style which means the presenter will speak then pause (meaning the English room will be silent) to give time for the Interpreters to convey their message in the Zoom interpretation channels. This speak and pause method will occur for the duration of their talks and the Q&A.

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10th July – LSER Region – Committee Meeting

1:30 – 5pm

All CoDA members are invited and welcome to attend.

Joining details will be sent by email closer to the time.

Email coda.uk.se.region@gmail.com to find out more 

Meetings are every 3 months and are principally a forum for Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to discuss CoDA business, share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and discuss putting on events and other community building activities.

For more information see London South East Region page

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26th to 27th June 2021 CoDA Summer Mixed Retreat (Online)

Saturday 26th to Sunday 27th June 2021

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The Monday Online Mixed Group welcomes you with an open invitation to attend their Summer Online Weekend Retreat!

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100 on a first come – first served basis

  • The event will NOT be recorded.
  • All readings used will be taken from CoDA approved literature including ‘In This Moment Daily Meditations’ booklet and the ‘Twelve Steps’ booklet.
  • The Event and meetings all adhere to all the CoDA principles and values.
  • All those providing service are fellows in CoDA.
  • A Whatsapp Group will be set up for all attendees to facilitate outreach, CoDA fellowship.
  • 7th Tradition details are posted below and will be made available during the retreat – all donations will be used to help reach the Co-dependents who still suffer.

7th tradition donations during the retreat can be made anonymously using the following link:

Retreat Meeting details

CoDA Summer Mixed Retreat (Online)

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 893 0963 1775

Passcode: 788687

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

The meetings schedule and suggested readings for each meeting can be found here:

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is used.

There will be a disco on the Saturday evening and a social gathering on the Sunday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

Any further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Hannah on hannahinrecovery@gmail.com or Pete on petehcoda@outlook.com

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19th June 2021 – NSC meeting

Time: 12:50 for 13.00-16:00

CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. 

The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.

How to join the meeting:

The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.

Join Zoom meeting 

Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688

Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592

Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. 20 mins

1pm – 1:20pm

Request for a member to take minutes and agreement on how this will be done (see agreed proposals below) 10 mins

1:20pm – 1:30pm

Introductions and Feelings check with meetings info from General Service Representatives (GSRs) and AOB requests from any attendee who wishes to have an issue discussed that isn’t on the agenda.

1:30pm – 1:50pm

Voting entity established and appointment of a spiritual time keeper

1:50pm – 1:55pm

Matters arising from 1st May minutes – are there any questions arising from these?

1:55pm – 2:15pm

Public Information (PI) proposals – discussion and votes.

a). Introduction of a formal PI budget

2:15pm – 2:25pm

Service positions available
– discussion and votes 40 mins
a. PLI coordinator – Nomination received and role description attached
b. Chair – Nomination received and role description attached
c. Secretary – role description attached, nominations required
d. Literature Secretary – role description attached, nominations required

2:25pm – 3:05pm

AOB

3:15pm – 3:30pm

All to agree actions onscreen so minutes can be
circulated straight away

3:30pm – 3:40pm

Close – Promises and long form Serenity Prayer

3:40pm – 3:50pm

The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/ votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/ PI/ Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 – motion carried

5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15  – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for. 
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried

5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chairman can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 – motion carried

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22nd May East Kent CoDA Convention

Saturday 22nd May

2021-05-22T10:15:00

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Theme ‘Healthy and Loving Relationships’

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100. Doors open 10.15am.

The schedule for the day is as follows:

10.30am to 12.00: Topic meeting – Learning to Love the Self

12.00 to 1.00pm: lunch break – we will remain online – please feel free to stay and chat

1.00 to 2.30pm: Tradition 2 in Service and in Relationships

2.30 to 3.00pm: break

3.00 to 4.30pm: Topic meeting – Our Primary Purpose in Relationships

4.30 to 5.00pm: break

5.00 to 6.15pm: Open get-together for people to share or perform songs, poems, jokes, talents, magic tricks etc.….this will be an opportunity to have fun and share in a different way, or to just listen and enjoy the fellowship.

6.15 to 6.30pm – Closing.

Convention Meeting details

East Kent CoDA Convention

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 869 2668 8874

Passcode: 913079

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

This convention complies with CoDA UK approval guidelines: CoDA Traditions are observed and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale.

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15th and 16th May 2021 MOM CoDA Inner Child Weekend

Saturday 15th and Sunday 16th May 2021

2021-05-15T09:00:00

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The Monday Online Mixed Group offers an open invitation to attend a weekend of Inner Child related meetings and activities!

No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100 on a first come – first served basis

  • The event will NOT be recorded.
  • All readings used will be taken from CoDA approved literature ‘In This Moment Daily Meditations’ Booklet.
  • Activities draw from the content and spirit of CoDA conference approved literature.
  • The Event and meetings all adhere to all the CoDA principles and values.
  • All those providing service are fellows in CoDA.
  • 7th Tradition details are posted below and will be made available during the retreat – all donations will be used to help reach the Co-dependents who still suffer.

7th tradition donations during the retreat can be made anonymously using the following link:

Retreat Meeting details

CoDA Inner Child Weekend (Online)

Join Zoom meeting

Zoom Meeting ID: 859 7584 0363

Passcode: 137168

or call:

+44 203 481 5237 UK

+1 929 205 6099 US (New York)

+353 1 240 8941 Ireland

Find your local number here

This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is used.

There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.

Any further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Hannah on hannahinrecovery@gmail.com or Pete on petehcoda@outlook.com

Weekend Schedule

Saturday 15th May

Opening Ceremony – 9am-10am

Meeting – Childhood and life today meeting – 10:15am-11:45am

Activity – Teddy bears Picnic – 12pm-1pm

Meeting – Step 1 – The inner child meeting – 13:15pm-2:45pm

Activity – Yoga (for all levels) – 3pm-4pm

Activity – Music Room – 4pm-5pm

Activity – Teenager Junk Food Dinner – 5pm-6pm

Activity – Art Therapy – 6pm-7pm

Saturday Night Social – 7:15pm-8:15pm

Meeting – Bedtime Story Meeting – 8:30pm-10pm

Activity – Bedtime Meditation – 10:15pm-11:15pm

Sunday May 16th

Meeting – Step 4 The Inner Child Meeting – 1pm-2:30pm

Activity – Selected Step 4 questions writing prompt 2:45-4:15pm

Activity – Improv and Clowning – 4:15pm-5:15pm

Activity – Dinner – 5:15pm-6:30pm

Meeting – Parenting the inner child plus affirmations – 6:45pm-8:15pm

Closing ceremony – 8:15pm-9pm

Inner Child Disco – 9pm -10pm

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Safer Online Meetings

With many of our CoDA meetings moved to internet-based video rooms & phone lines, by now you’ve probably heard of the “bombers” that like to interrupt meetings with their inappropriate behaviours. 

Following requests from meetings affected by such interruptions the CoDA Board of Trustees have collated some suggestions to help keep your group’s meetings safe, and we share these for our UK fellows below.

These are not 100% inclusive; it is best to research the help file of the provider or vendor that your meeting chooses.

1. Do not use your personal meeting ID – instead generate a new meeting ID for your meeting. Meeting app accounts allow the creation of many meetings with a unique ID which can be used recurring. The limitation applied is with the concurrent use of different meeting IDs.

2. Consider using a meeting password – even if this is published on a publicly accessible meetings list this can still act as a preventative measure.

3. Consider using a “waiting room” feature – this allows the meeting host(s) to vet each person before granting them access to the meeting. Should someone join the meeting for disruptive purposes they can be removed to the waiting room by the host. This also allows members to provide a new service role.

4. Mute audio as members enter the meeting or once the meeting starts – ask members to unmute when it is their time to share. Once the meeting is running only those providing service by reading the script, reading literature, or sharing need to have their mic open. This can also form a part of meeting etiquette to prevent audio echo and feedback.

5. Turn off screen sharing for everyone but the meeting host(s) – many disruptive joiners share material to interrupt the screen. Having a service position of host allows any sharing of readings or other meeting materials to be performed as part of the service role.

6. Be prepared to remove anyone that is disruptive with inappropriate behaviour – the only requirement to attend a CoDA meeting is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. By joining to disrupt intentionally signals that this is not the reason for joining the meeting.

We hope these suggestions will help you to keep CoDA meetings healthy, safe, and secure!

If your group would like assistance with setting up any of these measures, the UK Web service would be happy to share instructions – please email him on codawebservice@codauk.org.

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Public Liability Insurance 2022-2023

Is your group returning to Face to Face meetings after lockdown? 

Does the lease for your venue require your group to have public liability insurance?

If a meeting member had an accident at your venue and made a claim
Who would the claim be made against? Who would be liable to pay?

Without public liability insurance, the person who signs the lease on behalf of the group is personally liable to meet all costs in the event of a claim.

Did you know that CoDA UK holds a group Public Liability Insurance Policy which is significantly cheaper than groups can get individually?

If you would like more information or would like your group to be included on this policy, please send an email to:

coda.uk.insurance@gmail.com

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24th April – CoDA North Region Meeting

The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. There are quarterly regional meetings, usually held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future. The meeting normally takes the format of a service meeting in the morning, and an open CoDA meeting in the afternoon.

The next CoDA North Region meeting will be held on:

Saturday 24th April 2021

Times: 10.15 for 10.30am-13.00pm and 2.00pm-3.30pm

Morning 10.30-13.00:

CoDA North is holding our quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the North region meetings (which include Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland).

Join us online/by phone to discuss our region’s CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed but all members are welcome to attend. 

If you have any business your group would like to be discussed at the morning meeting, please mention it when you email for the password so that we can put it on the agenda. If possible, the agenda will be circulated in advance to all those registered.

Afternoon 2.00-3.30:

Join us for an open CoDA sharing meeting with fellows from around the North region. This will be run along the lines of a normal CoDA meeting.

NOTE: Meeting Password:
For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email northregion@codauk.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on the day of the meeting. 

We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend the afternoon meeting before 10am.

Join Zoom Meeting online: https://zoom.us/j/93283885330?pwd=ZG9RZTA4KzRIejZwTVdMaDdwbHBodz09

Meeting ID: 932 8388 5330

Or dial in on one of the numbers below using the above meeting ID and the password:

  • +44 330 088 5830
  • +44 131 460 1196
  • +44 20 3481 5237
  • +44 20 3481 5240
  • +44 20 8080 6591
  • +44 20 8080 6592

All CoDA members are welcome.

Not able to attend?
Please email northregion@codauk.org with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.

CoDA North Intergroup Contributions
If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email northregion@codauk.org to request the bank details.

NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.

Keep in touch…
If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email northregion@codauk.org with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.

In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.

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CoDA Fellowship Forum – event (and shares)

Hosted by CoDA Communications Committee

Join us for CoDA Member shares
with time for questions and fellowship

WHEN: Last Saturday of every month:
8 PM (GMT-UK),12 PM (PT), 1 PM (MT), 2 PM (CT) and 3 PM (ET),Sun. 7am (AEST-Aus)

Join Zoom Meeting!
Meeting ID: 997 1221 0733

Sign up for event reminders!

© Codependents Anonymous, inc 2018-2020

This podcast is the property of CoDependents Anonymous.  

Reproduction without written permission from CoDependents Anonymous is not permitted.

CoDA Fellowship Forums purpose is to share information with any & all CoDA members, especially that which may effect CoDA as a whole.

CoDA Fellowship Forum send out regular emails with CoDA events, announcements, issues & CoDA business of interest to both specific regions & to the entire CoDA fellowship.

Per the 2nd tradition, For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority, a loving higher power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. Developing a group conscience requires an informed fellowship, & to be effective trusted servants those you’ve elected must know the group conscience of the fellowship.

2022
Apr 30th – Boundaries & Jealousy
Mar 26th – The 12 Promises
Feb 26th –
Trauma Bonding
Jan 29th – Forgiveness & Acceptance

2021
Dec 25th – Anonymity – David A
Nov 27th – Gratitude – James K
Oct 30th – My First CoDA Meeting – David A
Sept 25th – Intentions vs Actions – What is my authentic self? – David A
Aug 28th – Willingness – David A, Jim K
July 31st – Hope – David A
June 24th – Spirituality – Facilitator – David A; Speaker – James K
May 24th – Dealing with Change – How to the Principles & Guides Help Me?
Apr 24th – Let’s Talk About the Power of Pause – “What is 30 seconds?”
Mar 27th – Silver Linings
Feb 27th –
Let’s Talk About: Service

2020
Dec 19thLet’s Talk About: How Do I Feel?
Nov 28th – Let’s Talk About: Gratitude
Oct 31 – Let’s Talk About: How To Deal With Fear
Sept 26 – Let’s Talk About: Sponsorship
July 25 – Let’s Talk About: Inner Child
June 27 – Let’s Talk About: Writing for CoDA   
May 30 – Step 12 – Service (Open Sharing)
Apr 18 – When Life Gives You Lemons…CoDA Tools to Use –
Mar 28 – Speaking My Truth Was Liberating
Feb 29 – The Twelve Service Concepts, Spiritual Guidelines, Alive & Strong

( View full index of coda.org – fellowship forum shares)
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27th Mar – End of Winter Retreat 2021

Power of Connections through Loving & Healthy Relationships or Service

Virtual Workshops and Speakers: Free Registration via Eventbrite. Suggested Donation $10. After you register through Eventbrite you will receive additional instructions via email to register for the Zoom meeting. Agenda will also follow via email.

Eventbrite link: https://2021codaworldretreat.eventbrite.com

Email events@coda.org to find out more 
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6th Feb – NSC Open Meeting: Group Inventory

1-5pm online, with programmed breaks during the session

At a National Service Committee (NSC) group conscience meeting on 5th December 2020 it was agreed that there would be a Group Inventory meeting conducted as a priority. This is to help us reflect on our service, to carry out our service roles in a healthy way and to share about our experience in service with the wider fellowship. It will take place instead of our quarterly business meeting.

We invite the fellowship to join us for this session of reflection and discussion, and hope that the experience will assist in sharing the message of service and healthy groups with the fellowship. Group inventories can be used for step groups, home groups and service groups, and allow us to focus on how the traditions and our ultimate authority, a loving Higher Power as expressed to our group conscience, guide our work and our daily lives.

The session will end with a period of reflection to determine the way forward for some of the organisational challenges the NSC has been discussing in recent meetings. This will include next steps on how regularly the NSC meets, and confirmation of the next meeting where regular business will resume, including items of business carried over from previous meetings.

If you would like to attend, please email northregion@codauk.org to register for the meeting link, any time before the meeting, stating which group you attend most regularly. Details of how to join, what software platform you will need and more details on how the inventory will be carried out will be circulated the week before the event.

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30th Jan – CoDA North Region Meeting

The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. There are quarterly regional meetings, usually held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future. The meeting normally takes the format of a service meeting in the morning, and an open CoDA meeting in the afternoon.

The next CoDA North Region meeting will be held on:

Saturday 30 January 2021

Times: 10.15 for 10.30am-13.00pm and 2.00pm-3.30pm

Morning 10.30-13.00:

CoDA North is holding our quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the North region meetings (which include Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland).

Join us online/by phone to discuss our region’s CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed but all members are welcome to attend. 

If you have any business your group would like to be discussed at the morning meeting, please mention it when you email for the password so that we can put it on the agenda. If possible, the agenda will be circulated in advance to all those registered.

Afternoon 2.00-3.30:

Join us for an open CoDA sharing meeting with fellows from around the North region. This will be run along the lines of a normal CoDA meeting.

NOTE: Meeting Password:
For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email northregion@codauk.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on the day of the meeting. 

We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend the afternoon meeting before 10am.

Join Zoom Meeting online: https://zoom.us/j/93283885330?pwd=ZG9RZTA4KzRIejZwTVdMaDdwbHBodz09

Meeting ID: 932 8388 5330

Or dial in on one of the numbers below using the above meeting ID and the password:

  • +44 330 088 5830
  • +44 131 460 1196
  • +44 20 3481 5237
  • +44 20 3481 5240
  • +44 20 8080 6591
  • +44 20 8080 6592

All CoDA members are welcome.

Not able to attend?
Please email northregion@codauk.org with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.

CoDA North Intergroup Contributions
If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email northregion@codauk.org to request the bank details.

NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.

Keep in touch…
If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email northregion@codauk.org with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.

In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.

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9th Jan – London South-East Region meeting

NEXT MEETING : January 9th – 1:45pm
(Meeting runs: 2pm – 5pm)

All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend

Join Zoom Meeting

Meeting ID: 885 6658 2862
Passcode: 463449

LSER Communications Secretary

Agenda items for discussion include:

  • LSER service position roles and guidelines.
  • The best time to hold our meeting to enable more members to attend.
  • What kind of support GSRs and groups would like to receive from Region and how you’d like to participate. 
  • Ideas for events.

By request, there will be a talk on the WhatsApp Outreach and Step Working Groups, with time for questions and discussion.

LSER meetings will be held on Zoom for the time being. We hope this will allow GSRs and members from all corners of our Region to attend and participate.

3rd Oct – London South East Region Meeting

The next meeting of the LSER committee is on Saturday Oct 3rd at 2pm to 4pm. The meeting will be opened at 1.45pm. GSRs and all CoDA members are warmly invited to attend. The invite is below. At the last meeting Andy B was elected as Chair, Annie W as Communications Secretary, Carmel T as […]

LSER Committee Meeting July 2020

Dear CoDA London South East Region (LSER) Members, I hope this finds you well. This is a reminder and your invitation for this Saturday’s 11th July 1pm London South East Region meeting. The aim of this meeting is to vote in the LSER Committee.  The Zoom login details are listed below. The below list shows which service […]

LSER Update 30/6

Service positions available Tuesday 30th June Dear CoDA London South East Region Members, An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020. During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed […]

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UK Speaker Recordings – Co-Dependence Matters

Sessions are run most Saturdays by the group

Saturday, 7pm (GMT)
Join Zoom meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87616355527 (NEW LINK)

Meeting ID : 87616355527
Password: 861572

Where recordings are taken – theyre anonymized to remove names of attendees.

These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to the speaker event organisers.

May you find what you need from the recordings.

1 – 8th Aug 20 – Christina
2 – 22nd Aug 20 – On Service
3 – 29th Aug 20 – Heidi
4 – Charlie
5 – 24th Oct 20 – John
6 – 7th Nov 20 – Andy
7 – 31st Oct 20 – Frank – Steps
8 – 31st Oct 20 – Frank – Traditions
9 – 10th Oct 20 – V
10 – 21st Nov 20 – Lyn
11 – 16th Jan – Ken R – Founder CoDA
12 – 23rd Jan – Mary R – Founder CoDA
13 – Susan
14 – Emily
15 – Penny P
16 – Scott
17 – Lennie
18 – Alice
19 – Frank – Sponsorship
20 – Heidi – Shame
21 – Richard and Karen – traditions 1 to 4 of the 12 piece relationship toolkit
22 – Heidi – Self Parenting
23 – Richard and Karen – traditions 5 to 8 of the 12 piece relationship toolkit
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30th Dec – 7th Virtual Cross Timezone New Years eve meeting

Email registration is required to receive meeting ID access, And phone numbers for audio only callers.

Thank you for your support of CoDA safe meetings.

All are welcome to join listen or share their recovery experience, strength and hope. Holiday stories, singing, dancing, reciting, reading, yodeling, as well as short music Instrumentals such as accordion, piano, guitar, soft drumming and more.

Celebrate CoDA recovery together.

More details to come

To register / further info via
coda2021XTZ@gmail.com

More info to come

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1st May 2021 – NSC Quarterly meeting

Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00

CoDA UK is holding its quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.

Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. 

The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there is not enough time in the meeting to go through the written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions in section 5, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.

One paper will follow during the week and this will be added below.

We ask members to consider agenda item 3 to see if they can offer service at this meeting – as our previous secretary has now finished her role, we will need someone to take notes.

Agenda document (presented below)

1 – Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines.
Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. 20 mins
1.00 – 1.20pm
2 – Introductions and Feelings check with meetings info from General Service Representatives (GSRs) and AOB requests from any attendee who wishes to have an issue discussed that isn’t on the agenda. 20 mins1.20-1.40pm
3 – Request for a member to take minutes and agreement on how this will be done 10 mins1.40-1.50pm
4 – Voting entity established and appointment of a
spiritual time keeper 5 mins
1.50-1.55pm
5 – Reports and updates from members in service
circulated in advance
– are there any questions arising from these? 20 mins
a. Treasurer
b. Literature Secretary
c. Sponsorship Committee
d. Contacts Management working group
e. London & SE Region (LSER) – verbal report from
meeting 10th April 2021 and background document
attached
f. North Region draft minutes – NSC to note, especially the discussions held about the three AOB items which
they would like to share with the wider fellowship
1.55 – 2.15pm
6 – Treasurer proposals: 30 mins
a. Zoom subscription renewal – vote
b. Set up Paypal or Givt account – discussion and vote
c. Lloyds Bank signatories – discussion for guidance
2.15 – 2.45pm
7 – Public Information (PI) proposals – discussion
and votes 20 mins

a. Introduction of a formal PI budget
b. Set up simple way for groups to engage with PI work
2.45 – 3.05pm
Break3.05 – 3.20pm
8 – CoDA UK to register as a charity discussion and
vote 10 mins
3.20 – 3.30pm
9 – Service positions – discussion and votes 30 mins
a. Service role job descriptions
b. Service role service role length, vacancies and
appointments

c. Role of trusted servants
3.40 – 4.00pm
10 – Service positions available – discussion and
votes 30 mins

a. PLI coordinator – Nomination received and role
description attached
b. Secretary – role description attached, nominations
required
c. Chair – Handover proposal attached and role
description to be added here before meeting;
nominations required
4.00 – 4.30pm
11 – Confirm future meeting dates & times
discussion and vote 10 mins
4.30 – 4.40pm
12 – AOB 15 mins4.40 – 4.55pm
13 – Close – Promises and long form Serenity
Prayer 5 mins
4.55 – 5pm

The draft agenda has been produced by the chair and proposal secretary, in consultation with other trusted servants as required, and will be available here on 24th/25th April.

How to join the meeting:

The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.

Join Zoom meeting 

Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688

Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592

NB: The vote which was taken at the NSC last year to use Teams for an NSC meeting will be revisited in May, due to a change in circumstances.
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Ken and Mary – Living the Third Step

Shared with thanks to Arizona CoDA Events Committee


Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on living the third step through these unusual times.

Two and half hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.

Copy of exercises included below video.

CoDA Third Step Prayer – Exercise

God, I give to You all that I am and all that I will be for Your healing and direction.

  1. What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you are for your Higher Power’s healing and direction”?
  2. What does it mean to you to “give to your Higher Power all that you will be your Higher Power’s healing and direction?”

Make new this day as I release all my worries and fears, knowing that You are by my side.

  1. How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you in releasing all your worries and fears?
  2. How does knowing that your Higher Power is by your side help you during this time of pendemic?

Please help me to open myself to Your love,

  1. What is your process to opening yourself up to your Higher Power’s Love?

To allow Your love to heal my wounds,

  1. How do you experience your Higher Powerr’s Love healing your wounds?

And to allow Your love to flow through me and from me and from me to those around me.

  1. What is your experience emotionally, intellectually, physically and spirtitually when you allow your Higher Power’s Love to flow through you to others?

May Your will be done this day and always.

  1. What do you generally think your Higher Power’s will is for you? Is it Loving? Demanding? Fearful? Affirming? Joyful?

Amen

Possible Solutions and Tools for living our 3rd Step while dealing with advertsity, including the pandemic.

These tools are meant for suggestions only. Some are meant, clearly, to be practised on a daily basis, while others can be practised every week or two.

Remember that Self-Care is always about action, which is also the process of CoDA recovery.

Natural tools to deal with depression and anxiety through loving self-care

  1. Pray Daily… this is always #1, connect and talk with your loving Higher Power, always and in all ways.
  2. Step Work (possibly: I am powerless over the pandemic and feel like my life is unmanageable… we altered this a bit 🙂
  3. Meditate
  4. Breathe Deeply, Exhale Slowly… repeat and repeat
  5. Exercise
  6. Connect with others:
    (Zoom CoDA Meetings, Face-Time with friends and family, Phone Calls, Email, Social Media)
  7. Zoom CoDA Study Groups using the CoDA Blue Book, The CoDA Green Workbook and/or CoDA Pamphlets and Booklets.
  8. Ask yourself: “What would my Higher Power say about…?” “How would my Higher Power comfort me?” etc.
  9. Daily dialog with your Inner Child and Inner Teen.
  10. Loving Affirmations
  11. Journal your thoughts and feelings
  12. Releasing Emotional Energy from your body (see attachment)
  13. Do a Fear List Exercise:

    “Write out one liner’s of what you are afraid of, anxious over, worried about or fearful of.

    Separate the fears into 3 categories:
  • Problem Solving Fears: these are fears that you can get into solution with like: I’m low on groceries and need to get to the market before they close.” We can intervene on these fears by taking action through problem solving… like, going to the market and getting groceries before they close.
  • Fears of Shame: fears where we are afraid of looking dumb, stupid, not enough etc. (our negative self-talk). We can intervene on these and affirm the loving truth about who we are and who our Loving Higher Power see us to be.
  • General Fears of Bad Things Possibly Happening: this includes self-doubt, what-if’s, Ya Buts. We can intervene on these to stop scarig ourselves about the future and instead look for solutions, especially coming back to our 3rd Step and being willing to turn our fears over to the care of God as we understand God.
  1. Stick to a reasonable daily schedule
  2. Bathe and brush your teeth
  3. Participate in some form of hobby, recreation, and productivity
  4. Play games with friends online
  5. Play games with family
  6. Find new creative ways to play and have fun
  7. Healthy Diet (avoiding too many stimulants like sugar and caffeine).
    21 If you are in a relationship at home, make sure that you create consistent time apart to avoid circumstantial enmeshment.
  8. Is you have children at home, shared parenting is vital to everyone. If that is not possible, then asking for help from others is of great benefit in order to have some relief and balance in your responsibilities and for the children as well.
  9. Get outside for sunshine and fresh air.
  10. Watch the stars at night… notice the expensiveness of the Universe
  11. If possible, drive to a new destination every 2-3 days
  12. No matter what, know that you are not alone. We truly are all in this together. Practising loving self-care and loving self-acceptance of where you are right here, right now. It is enough!

Mary’s Closing reading

Our CoDA 3rd Step “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God” helps to remind us that loving self-care is an important part of being “willing to be willing”. If we are not taking care of ourselves emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually or sexually, we can be more susceptible to returning to a “conflict in gods” making ourselves, others, even our feelings more important than our Higher Power.

“Making a decision” includes intentional thought, intentional surrender and intentional willingness to allow our Higher Power to guide us, to teach us, to heal us, to LOVE us right here, right now.

The tools we have listed are helpful for self-care, self-love and loving surrender. This is a short list, for there are engless ways we can love ourselves. In taking action to love our Higher Power and ourselves, living the 3rd Step is much easier.

It is always important to remember that we are human beings, loveable and fallible. There is no perfection in recovery. No perfection in life. It is a process made from a beautiful loveing heart that we continue on this journey.

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London South East Region – operational

The London & South East Region (LSER) became operational again at the last meeting on July 11th, and a committee has been formed consisting of Chair, Communications Secretary, Minutes Secretary and GSR (Regional Rep).

We’ll be holding regular meetings every 3 or 4 months (to be decided at the next meeting) and we’re hoping the LSER will be  a forum for GSRs and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and to discuss putting on events and other community building activities.

We currently have a vacancy for the post of Treasurer, other service positions will become available as we look to do various projects and work out what we need in the Region.

NEXT MEETING : October 3rd – 1pm on Zoom
Login details and links will be sent out nearer the time. All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend

All CoDA members are warmly invited to attend

In Fellowship

LSER Communications Secretary

CoDA Service Information : http://coda.org/index.cfm/service-info/

Find out more about LSER here

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LSER Update 30/6

Service positions available

Tuesday 30th June

Dear CoDA London South East Region Members,

An informal London & South East Region (LSER) Zoom meeting took place on Saturday 23rd May to continue the dialogue from the initial meeting in February 2020.

During the meeting, general consensus was to reform the LSER committee and some of those present expressed an interest to serve. It was agreed to open all the Committee roles to the wider LSER community and anyone who is interested can read the service role descriptors (see below) to understand what would be required. This will then allow for nominations and a vote to take place during our next meeting on Saturday 11th July 1-3 pm, to which you and your group members are invited. 

The below list shows which service positions are available should you wish to put yourself forward with a brief description of what each role entails. Some of these positions (Chair, Treasurer and Secretary) are described more fully in part 3 of the CoDA Fellowship Services Manual (FSM): https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/FSM-Part-3-Guidelines-for-Other-Service-Levels.pdf

Service roles that require filling: 

Chair – manages the business meetings and set the agenda.

Secretary – the role would include producing and distributing meeting minutes and other key information to attendees, officers, and the local Fellowship.

Minutes Taker – takes the minutes during the meeting.

Communications Secretary – creates and maintains a Region contact list, answers incoming email, and would handle most mass mailings.

GSR – attends and reports to the National Steering Committee (NSC) every 3 or 4 months.

Treasurer – responsible for accounting and documentation of all funds, maintaining accurate records and presenting written reports of the status of the LSER account at meetings and when requested to the Fellowship.

Literature Secretary – to liaise with UK CoDA publisher to ensure literature is available. Provides other information about literature (new publications etc).

Timekeeper – during the LSER meetings.

Please note the CoDA Fellowship Service Manual states: ‘Terms of office and/or rotation of officers is highly recommended and considered healthy in CoDA. A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’

Please inform your group members about these service vacancies to get more involved at intergroup level (LSER) which are also opportunities to further your recovery as well as meet other CoDA members. If you as a GSR or any of your group members are willing to serve at the regional level then please note it is recommended to be attending local fellowship for at least 1 year and have worked or are working the CoDA program. For those of you interested in the Treasurer role the guidelines are more than 3 years.

A term office of two years is suggested unless otherwise specified by a Group conscience.’

Also, in accordance with the CoDA FSM 2019, GSRs and Committee members have a right to vote however as there is no LSER Committee yet this means only GSRs can vote. Ideally, the formed LSER Committee would consist of GSRs and Service members who are not GSRs.

Finally, LSER committee meetings are open for all CoDA members to attend, to contribute ideas about what they would like to see happen in their region and to discuss any issues their groups are experiencing, currently they are taking place on Zoom. It is a good way to be informed of what is happening with CoDA groups across the London South East Region and to connect with other CoDA members too.

We hope to see you on Sat 11th July 2020 at 1pm, when all being well the LSER Committee will once again become operational,

In fellowship
Acting LSER Communications Secretary

Note: please contact coda.uk.se.region@gmail.com for Zoom login details.

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What is codependence video

CoDA world service has produced a video to educate the public on ‘What codependency is’ and to be of service to the codependent who still suffers.

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Ken and Mary 2019 Speaker Event Recordings

During October 2019 two weekend long speaker events were held, one in London and the other in Liverpool, during which Ken and Mary shared their experience, strength and hope with the fellowship. The sessions were recorded and following anonymisation work to remove names for all attendees are now available.

These recordings are made freely available for use by all CoDA groups and members and may be used and redistributed for free maintaining attribution to CoDA UK, Ken R and Mary R.

May you find what you need from the recordings.

1 – Boundaries, Relationships and Resentments
(Presentation starts: 14m 22s)
2 – Abuse, Control and Family of Origin
(Presentation starts: 2m 32s)
3 – 12 Piece Toolkit – Relationship Recovery
(Presentation: 7m 55s)
4 – 12 Steps on a Daily Basis and Self Care
(Presentation starts: 4m 56s)
5 – Abandonment, anger and reconnecting with the inner child
(Presentation starts: 10m 50s)
6 – Reparenting ourselves, Letting go of Resentments, Allowing Ourselves to Grieve
(Presentation starts: 0m 55s)
7 – Recovery through Service
(Presentation starts: 4m 44s)
8 – Coda Fellowship
(Presentation starts: 2m 20s)
9 – Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable.
(Presentation starts: 5m 32s)
10 – Step 2 – Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
(Presentation starts: 3m 50s)
11 – Step 3 – Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
(Presentation starts: 2m 20s)
12 – Step 4 – Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Step 5 – Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
(Presentation starts: 6m 36s)
13 – Step 6 – Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Step 7 – Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
(Presentation starts: 12m)
14 – Step 8 – Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
Step 9 – Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
(Presentation starts 4m 08s )
15 – Step 10 – Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
Step 11 – Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
(Presentation starts 2m 33s)
16 – Step 12 – Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message
to other co-dependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
(Presentation 3m 10s)

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Website Feedback

While we are developing this new website for CoDA we appreciate members input to ensure that the site works towards meeting tradition 5 ‘to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer’.

Should you identify any areas which you would like to provide feedback on, experience any technical issues, or have ideas on how the site can be improved, please provide your input through this form:

Website Feedback Form

Submissions are anonymous, however contact details may be provided should you wish to discuss the item further.

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Ken & Mary Letter

Following the well received workshops held in London and Liverpool during October 2019, Ken and Mary have sent a letter of thanks to be shared with members.