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“Peeling the Onion”
10.30am to 6.30pm UK time GMT
No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100. Doors open 10.15am.
Zoom Meeting ID: 310 059 9324
Passcode: 917411
Doors open at 10.15pmJoin zoom meeting: https://us04web.zoom.us/j/3100599324
Theme ‘Peeling The Onion’
All meetings are based on readings from the CoDA booklet ‘Peeling the Onion’ The schedule for the day is as follows:
10.30am to 12.00: Mtg 1 – Relationship Addiction
12.00 to 1.00pm: lunch break*
1.00 to 2.30pm: Mtg 2 – Workshop on ‘The Stages of Recovery’
2.30 to 3.00pm: break*
3.00 to 4.30pm: Mtg 3 – Relationship Avoidance
4.30 to 5.00pm: break*
5.00 to 6.15pm: Open get-together
‘Our programme of recovery is meant to be taken seriously, but we find balancing our recovery work with play, laughter and fun is also important…..These are some of God’s most healing medicines.’ From Co-Dependents Anonymous (Blue Book)
You are invited to share or perform songs, poems, jokes, talents, magic tricks etc, or to just be there and enjoy the fellowship.
6.15 to 6.30pm – Closing.
*We remain online during all the breaks, please feel free to stay and chat
This convention complies with CoDA UK approval guidelines: CoDA Traditions are observed and only CoDA approved literature is read or available for sale.
Friday 8th September to Sunday 10th September 2023
Registration from 4pm on Friday (dinner at 6.00 pm) and ends at 3pm on Sunday
The Codependents Anonymous Approved Women’s Retreat will adhere to the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Codependents Anonymous, adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous. Codependents Anonymous is a spiritual programme. 12 Step Meetings will be held throughout the weekend and CODA approved literature will also be available.
Kairos is home to a small spiritual group of friendly religious Sisters and is a venue used by other 12 Step fellowships.
There will be a choice of meetings to attend or you are free to explore the grounds, walk to Richmond Park (10 minutes away), or do whatever you need for your own health and recovery. There will also be a social gathering on the Saturday evening, which is an opportunity to have some fun. Please share your talents with us, but be mindful of Tradition 6 i.e. no outside enterprises. All activities are optional.
Most of the bedrooms are for single occupancy and few are available for twin sharing. Each floor has ample washing facilities and plenty of tea-making areas. Please bring what you need with you for your own comfort, be it a hot water bottle, your own towel or a special herbal tea. The food at Kairos is wholesome and plentiful. Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner will be provided.
Please inform us when you book if you need a special diet i.e. vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free etc, and this will be catered for. The rooms will be allocated on a first come first served basis, so inform us when you book of any special room requests. There is disabled access. Unfortunately, there is no camping at this venue.
The cost is £210 for accommodation, admin and food to be paid by bank transfer or cheque
To book a place
Please email Judith on jabrookfield@gmail.com stating your preferred room type & any food requirements.Travel: for travel details please see the Kairos website. https://www.thekairoscentre.co.uk/
CoDA Womens Retreat Team
Payment:
- Pay either by cheque (payable to Women’s CoDA Retreat) posted to Judith at 18 Concanon Road, London, SW2 5TA
- or direct bank transfer payment quoting sort code 40-01-22 and current account 61784471
- Giving your first name and surname initial as reference.
- The final booking date is Friday 4th August.
- Refunds after this date are at the discretion of the venue.
- Secure your place by payment in full.
General Enquiries:
For general CoDA queries about the Retreat:
- Phone Sarah on 07906 439898
Time: 13:00-17:00, with fellowship time afterwards
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business. NSC Committee Members and Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item. Papers will be circulated at least a week in advance.
Please note, the minute taker will record any votes and actions, which we will review at the end of the meeting. Any references to individuals are on a first name basis only. If you do not wish to be mentioned by name in the minutes, please make this clear to the minute taker.
There is no requirement to attend the whole meeting – feel free to drop in at any time during the day. We ask that you put your name and home group (if you have one) in the chat, and please mention if you’re a GSR so we can keep track of the voting entity for any items which require a vote.
Reports – for meeting
Important point – please read through the attached reports before attending the meeting. We have a lot of business to attend to and there may not be time to go through every report in detail during the meeting, so it’s important that members have some understanding of what’s being discussed in advance – especially those who can vote (NSC committee members, GSRs and anyone voted by their group to be acting GSR for the day).
NSC – August Agenda
NSC – Agenda Items
NSC Notes & Actions
*New* NSC Treasurer report
“All About the NSC”
NSC – VE Report for CSC
North & Regions – VE Report for CSC
North & Regions – July – Minutes
Please join the zoom call just before 1pm.
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
Everyone is welcome to attend, so please share this communication at your groups.
If you have any further questions please feel free to contact us at communications@codauk.org.
We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 5th August.
Previous meeting minutes are published here.
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/PI/Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chair can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 Motion carried
“Through service inside and outside of CoDA I am growing”
Affirmations
2023 Motions Overview
CoDA Inc – motions for August 2022 – August 2023 – passed
Delegate Relations Committee – setup
Within Fellowship service manual
- Extend “Group Conscience” definition
- Replace “Roberts Rules” with “Community Problem Solving Method”
New literature
- *NEW* Foundational doc – CoDA Teen (Preamble, Welcome)
- *NEW* Foundational doc – CoDA Teen (CoDA’s Minimum Behavioural and Safety Requirements)
- CoDAteen Parental Permission Letter
- CoDAteen Meeting Handbook
- CoDAteen Step Study Guide (2nd year)
- New pamphlet, “Reparenting Our Inner Child“
- New book, “Growing Up in CoDA“
- Revised “Working Steps 4 & 5 – Using the 40 Questions”
New Initiatives
- Hospitals & Institutions Preliminary grant process for International Voting Entities’ Books for Inmates & Institutions Programs
- Conference Endorsed Literature requirement – amended to become a requirement – motion tabled (but not voted on)
Amendments & Updates
- “New Recovery Patterns“
- “We Recover“
- The Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions Workbook of Co-Dependents Anonymous – Fourth Consolidated Edition, Twentieth Anniversary Edition
- Retain the Current version of the “Recovery Patterns of Codependents” online
Other business
- Increase of North American Delegate Grants (includes United States, Mexico and Canada) and International Delegate Grants
- To hold 2024 CoDa Service Conference and International CoDA Convention in Ottowa
- Add the Spanish translation of the CoDA logo to the Fellowship Service Manual (FSM).
- 2024 Year Of Tradition 1 – Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity.”
CoDA 2023 – Full list of motions, results, and refinements discussed
CoDA – Motions and amendments – from 1987 onwards
2023 CSC
More info to follow – keep an eye on this page for details
Delegate presentations
Alternate Format Meetings
US – Arizona State
Canada
Canada – Ontario
Canada – Ottawa – Ontario
Germany
Russia
US – Texas
UK – North & Regions
UK – National Service Committee
Resources from Past Events
CSC Conference Motions and Reports
CSC – Summaries (1987 to date)
CSC Motions and Reports (1987 to date)
Past Convention and Retreat Recordings
CSC – Audio Index
World Service Conference Reports from UK NSC Members
2023 Report from Delegates – will be published
Emma W, Rochelle S, Kate F
2022 Report from Philip, UK Delegate and Voting Entity
CoDA Service Conference 2022
2021 Reports from Philip and Pete, UK Delegates and Voting Entities
CoDA Service Conference 2021 – Philip
CoDA Service Conference 2021 – Pete H
2020 Reports from Gillian, UK Delegate and Voting Entity
CoDA Report from NSC to Service Conference 2020
CoDA Service Conference 2020 Report to NSC
2019 Report from Gillian, UK Delegate and Voting Entity
CoDA Service Conference 2019
2015 Report from Cara, UK Delegate and Voting Entity
CoDA Service Conference 2015
2014 Report with Appendices – NSC rep possibly Dagmar
CoDA Service Conference 2014
2010 Report – NSC reps possibly Dagmar and Geraldine
CoDA Service Conference – Questions & Answers
We are looking for volunteers to give service to expand the service pages, sharing the benefits of service to our recovery, and providing a resource for fellow members to develop their service roles at personal, group, region, national and international level. Please contact codawebservice@codauk.org if you would like to be involved in developing the service pages resource.
Working the Steps in CoDA: exploring different sponsorship approaches.
In need of service
We need people to:
– prepare the script
– be host, co-host,
– give chairs
Without support, we will have to rely on US teams, who have just started running Sponsorship workshops
CoDA UK Sponsorship Committee will host a Zoom Sponsorship workshop
Sunday 16th July 2023, 4-6pm UK time (8-10am Pacific time) (doors open half an hour before)
- Are you looking for a sponsor?
- Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
- Are you looking for new sponsees?
This workshop will have shares on being a sponsor, sponsee and co-sponsoring. It is an introduction to the various ways of sponsorship, not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part. Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery. We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a home group and joining WhatsApp groups (see below).
This event will be limited to the first 100 people who log-in. No registration is needed.
These workshops have not to date exceeded the maximum number of participants, so you should be able to join easily. The link below will be valid on the day.
The meeting will open at 3.30 for a 4.00 start.
- 4.00 – Start all the readings
- 4:15 – Shares on being a sponsor/co-sponsor (2 shares), Shares on being a sponsee (2 shares)
- 4:55 – 5.05 – 10 minute comfort break.
- 5.05 – Sharing time
- 5.55 – Close of workshop
- 6.00 – Open for discussion, outreach offers, requests & questions till 6.30
To make the most of this interactive workshop we suggest that you join using a laptop, desktop or tablet device with your video on so we can all see each other, see the readings and have access to the chat box.
Please remember you can save the materials in the chat box by clicking on the three dots to the right at the bottom of chat. Choose “save chat”. Text document saved in your documents folder. Separate folder called Zoom.
NB: WE ARE SEEKING FELLOWS TO SHARE AS BELOW
- 4.15pm Chair on Being a sponsor (10 minutes)
- 4.25pm Chair on Being a sponsor (10 minutes)
- 4.35pm Chair on Being a sponsee (10 minutes)
- 4.45pm Chair on Being a co-sponsor (10 minutes)
If you’re willing to do a Chair, please email sponsorship@codauk.org by Jan 7th.
Dates for 2023
- Saturday 14th October 2023 4-6pm *In need of service*
Topic: Quarterly Sponsorship Workshop
Time: Sunday July 16th, 2023 16:00 LondonMeeting ID: 873 1053 7470
Passcode: TraditionsIf you are dialling in on a phone, please use Passcode: 4065603071
Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kes4NVI4qX
P.S. We encourage you to read the “Sponsorship: What’s in it for me” booklet before attending which you can purchase from codaliterature.co.uk.
If you want more information
This is the script for the workshop:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/108T5UZzJFnH1eG-fzwjbq194Ec3j3iGR/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=114565587872001819077&rtpof=true&sd=true
Web page on Sponsorship:
https://coda.org/outreach/connecting-members/sponsorship/
https://coda.org/outreach/supporting-members/working-the-twelve-steps/step-study-group/
Read Chapter 5 in the Coda Blue Book.
Sponsorship Brochure:
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Sponsorship%20Brochure.pdf
Resources for Sponsors:
http://outreach.coda.org/index.cfm/connecting-members/sponsorship/resources-for-sponsors/
Working the Steps in a Group v4
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Working%20the%20Steps%20in%20a%20Group%20v4.pdf
Safeguarding Policy
http://coda-uk.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
Safeguarding:
https://codauk.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
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8th July 2023 – LSER Workshop
The LSER’s next online workshop is on Saturday 8th July, 1.30 to 3.30
Zoom Meeting ID: 869 4214 8390
Passcode: 318012
Doors open at 1.15pm
This will include:
- a share on being a GSR
- forum time where members can share questions, issues and experience, strength and hope about matters affecting meetings
- a workshop session on Service Concept 3.
All members are welcome to attend. The event may be especially helpful for GSRs, and any members interested in service or how the wider fellowship works.
Please email anniew.coda@gmail.com if you’d like to volunteer.
We are looking for a GSR to do an 8 minute share their on their experience of the service.
Categories
Open Service Positions
A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions
Tradition 7
Why is service part of recovery?
Those who have gone before us recognize that service is critical to recovery and is part of the Twelfth Step. Service work is a place to practice recovery skills and extend our recovery to new areas of our lives. At the group level, CoDA members carry the message in many ways, by sharing in meetings, speaking to newcomers (with a focus on providing information rather than giving advice) and trying to adhere to CoDA principles in meetings and elsewhere in their lives. Members can start practicing these types of service from early on in their recovery.
Available NSC Service Positions
Full list of NSC service positions
It was agreed at the November 2021 NSC meeting that all the vacant positions could be shared by more than one member, and a full handover will be given by the outgoing member in service.
Full post descriptions open in new tabs – click below to find out more:
Support welcomed for…..
Teams seeking service support
Codependence Matters (UK Speaker Series)
London South East Region – Committee
North Region – (N England, Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland)
Outreach support – Member Networks
Other opportunities
Join a CoDA Member Network
Offer service at your home group
Sponsor a newcomer
Start a new CoDA Meeting
Submit a CoDA Share
See also
Home Group – Service Positions
Categories
Shares (By Step)
Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of people whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships.
The only requirement for member is a desire for healthy and loving relationshipsCoDA Preamble
Step 1
“We admit we are powerless over other people…“
See also:
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 1
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 1,2,3
CoDA Minnesota Blog – Step 1
CoDA – Step 1 – pamphlet
CoDA Recovery Stories – The Importance of Working the Steps
CoDA Meetings in Print – What’s Control, What’s Asserting Boundaries?
Step 2
“Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves…“
See also
CoDA – Step 2 – pamphlet
CoDA Recovery Stories – Coming to Believe
Step 3
“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over…“
Handout
See also
CoDA – Step 3 – pamphlet
CoDA Recovery Prayer
Step 4
“Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves…“
See also
CoDA Recovery Stories – Step 4
The Recovery Patterns
The 40 Questions – Step 4 & 5
CoDA – Step 4 – pamphlet
Step 5
“Admitted… to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.“
See also
CoDA Recovery Stories – The Rewards of Step 5
CoDA – Step 5 – pamphlet
Step 6 & 7
“Were entirely ready…Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings…“
Step 6&7 – Slides
See also
CoDA – Step 6 – pamphlet
CoDA – Step 7 – pamphlet
Establishing Boundaries in Recovery
Step 8&9
“Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends…Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others…“
See also
CoDA – Step 8 – pamphlet
CoDA – Step 9 – pamphlet
Step 10
“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong…admitted it…“
See also
Texas CoDA – A Daily Checklist
CoDA – Step 10 – pamphlet
Step 11
“Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact “
Malasula
See also
CoDA Recovery Stories – “The Daily Eleventh Step”
CoDA – Step 11 – pamphlet
Step 12
“Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message…“
See also
North Texas CoDA – Honouring the Twelfth Step
CoDA – Step 12 – pamphlet
Dealing with Disagreements
Other resources
Shared With Thanks – CoDA Shares – By Topic
Step 1,2,3 – 30 Questions
CoDA Recovery Story – Working a Twelve Step Programme When Youre Not Sure About God
CoDA Founders – 12 Steps on a Daily Basis & Self Care
CoDA Founders – Recovering a Relationship with Ourselves Using the 12 Steps
CoDA Reflections – 10 month walk through the steps
Desert CoDA – Chase – Step study notes
Communication and Recovery
Time: 10:00-14:00, with fellowship time afterwards
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business. NSC Committee Members and Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item. Papers will be circulated at least a week in advance.
To submit a report or an item for discussion, please complete the relevant page of this form and send it to secretary@codauk.org by Saturday 29th April.
The agenda and papers for this meeting have now been published and can be downloaded here:
Agenda for NSC Committee Meeting – May 2023
Agenda Items – 13th May
AGM – Notes & Actions 2023
Charity Sub-Committee – Notes
Please note, the minute taker will record any votes and actions, which we will review at the end of the meeting. Any references to individuals are on a first name basis only. If you do not wish to be mentioned by name in the minutes, please make this clear to the minute taker.
Please join the zoom call just before 10am.
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
Everyone is welcome to attend, so please share this communication at your groups.
If you have any further questions please feel free to contact us at communications@codauk.org.
We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 13th May.
Previous meeting minutes are published here.
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/PI/Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chair can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 Motion carried
9:30am – 2:30pm (PDT)
5:30pm – 10:30pm (GMT)
Hosted by The Transatlantic CoDA Royale Committee & Codependence Matters
Co-Founders of CoDA, and CoDA speakers from all over the world
Topics
- How not to go crazy in service
- How service helped my recovery
- The Twelve-Piece Relationship Toolkit (sample)
- The structure of the fellowship explained
- Feelings of fear & shame about service
- Group conscience & concepts
- The Twelve Service Concepts https://www.codependents.org/CSC/2020/2020_Files/ServiceConceptsAliveStrong.pdf
Join meeting
Zoom meeting: 876 1635 5527
Password: 861572Tradition Seven: https://paypal.me/codamom
On SATURDAY 22nd APRIL 2023
from 2pm until 4.30pm on zoom
Join Quarterly Literature Workshop – via Zoom
ID: 852 0891 0153
Password: 176130IN&R (Intergroup North & Regions) Workshops & Retreats Committee.
We welcome CoDA members from all areas to join us at our quarterly IN&R CoDA Literature Workshop.
This is a safe and friendly space, on zoom, for us to continue our exploration of CoDA Conference endorsed literature, which we continue to do every three months.
We will be reading from the CoDA Booklet “The Twelve-Piece Relationship Toolkit” and answering the questions. (We will be reading Traditions 4, 5 & 6 in the Booklet).
There will be plenty of time for people to share and answer the questions, if they so wish.
We will also be looking at the
- Co-Dependents Anonymous (Blue) Book,
- Chapter Two “Our Spiritual Dilemma”
- Chapter Five in the same book on: the Inner Child, Enmeshment/Detachment, the Shame Spiral etc
- Whatever members decide, with a Group Conscience (GC) so that everyone has voice and choice.
If there is time, we can also review the CoDA “Common Threads of Codependency” Booklet.
This is an opportunity for us to come together and view some of the richness of our CoDA conference endorsed literature created by CoDA members, especially addressing our CoDA members needs and for people to lovingly pass on their experience, strength and hope of CoDA recovery.
We look forward to you joining us on Saturday, 22nd April 2023 at U.K. time 2pm until 4.30pm.
For any further information please contact us on either:
U.K. INTERGROUP North & Regions (IN&R) on northregion@codauk.org
or gilliancoda@gmail.com
or 07792-236888.
Quarterly Literature Workshop
When: SATURDAY, 22nd APRIL 2023
Time: 2pm – 4.30pm (U.K. Time) on zoomID: 852 0891 0153
Password: 176130Looking forward to welcoming you
IN&R (Intergroup North & Regions) Workshops & Retreats Committee.
Working the Steps in CoDA: exploring different sponsorship approaches.
Postponed – in need of service
We need people to:
– prepare the script
– be host, co-host,
– give chairs
Without support, we will have to rely on US teams, who have just started running Sponsorship workshops
CoDA UK Sponsorship Committee will host a Zoom Sponsorship workshop
Saturday 15th April 2023, 4-6pm UK time (8-10am Pacific time) (doors open half an hour before)
- Are you looking for a sponsor?
- Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
- Are you looking for new sponsees?
This workshop will have shares on being a sponsor, sponsee and co-sponsoring. It is an introduction to the various ways of sponsorship, not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part. Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery. We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a home group and joining WhatsApp groups (see below).
This event will be limited to the first 100 people who log-in. No registration is needed.
These workshops have not to date exceeded the maximum number of participants, so you should be able to join easily. The link below will be valid on the day.
The meeting will open at 3.30 for a 4.00 start.
- 4.00 – Start all the readings
- 4:15 – Shares on being a sponsor/co-sponsor (2 shares), Shares on being a sponsee (2 shares)
- 4:55 – 5.05 – 10 minute comfort break.
- 5.05 – Sharing time
- 5.55 – Close of workshop
- 6.00 – Open for discussion, outreach offers, requests & questions till 6.30
To make the most of this interactive workshop we suggest that you join using a laptop, desktop or tablet device with your video on so we can all see each other, see the readings and have access to the chat box.
Please remember you can save the materials in the chat box by clicking on the three dots to the right at the bottom of chat. Choose “save chat”. Text document saved in your documents folder. Separate folder called Zoom.
NB: WE ARE SEEKING FELLOWS TO SHARE AS BELOW
- 4.15pm Chair on Being a sponsor (10 minutes)
- 4.25pm Chair on Being a sponsor (10 minutes)
- 4.35pm Chair on Being a sponsee (10 minutes)
- 4.45pm Chair on Being a co-sponsor (10 minutes)
If you’re willing to do a Chair, please email sponsorship@codauk.org by Jan 7th.
Dates for 2023
- Saturday 15th April 2023 4-6pm *Postponed – in need of service*
- Sunday 16th July 2023 4-6pm *Postponed – in need of service*
- Saturday 14th October 2023 4-6pm *Postponed – in need of service*
Topic: Quarterly Sponsorship Workshop
Time: Saturday April 15th, 2023 16:00 LondonMeeting ID: 873 1053 7470
Passcode: TraditionsIf you are dialling in on a phone, please use Passcode: 4065603071
Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kes4NVI4qX
P.S. We encourage you to read the “Sponsorship: What’s in it for me” booklet before attending which you can purchase from codaliterature.co.uk.
If you want more information
This is the script for the workshop:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/108T5UZzJFnH1eG-fzwjbq194Ec3j3iGR/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=114565587872001819077&rtpof=true&sd=true
Web page on Sponsorship:
https://coda.org/outreach/connecting-members/sponsorship/
https://coda.org/outreach/supporting-members/working-the-twelve-steps/step-study-group/
Read Chapter 5 in the Coda Blue Book.
Sponsorship Brochure:
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Sponsorship%20Brochure.pdf
Resources for Sponsors:
http://outreach.coda.org/index.cfm/connecting-members/sponsorship/resources-for-sponsors/
Working the Steps in a Group v4
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Working%20the%20Steps%20in%20a%20Group%20v4.pdf
Safeguarding Policy
http://coda-uk.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
Safeguarding:
https://codauk.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
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8th April 2023 – LSER Workshop
The LSER’s next online workshop is on Saturday 8th April, 1.30 to 3.30. This will include:
- a share on being a GSR
- forum time where members can share questions, issues and experience, strength and hope about matters affecting meetings
- a workshop session on Service Concept 2.
- All members are welcome to attend. The event may be especially helpful for GSRs, and any members interested in service or how the wider fellowship works.
Zoom Meeting ID: 869 4214 8390
Passcode: 318012
Doors open at 1.15pm
Theme ‘Healthy Communication & Boundaries in Recovery’
10.30am to 6.30pm UK time (GMT)
Join zoom meeting: https://us04web.zoom.us/j/3100599324
ID: 310 059 9324
Password: 917411No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100. Doors open 10.15am.
The schedule for the day is as follows:
10.30am to 12.00: Mtg 1 – Communication and Recovery
12.00 to 1.00pm: lunch break
1.00 to 2.30pm: Mtg 2 – Speaker Meeting
2.30 to 3.00pm: break
3.00 to 4.30pm: Mtg 3 – Establishing Boundaries in Recovery
4.30 to 5.00pm: break
We remain online during all the breaks; please feel free to stay and chat.
5.00 to 6.15pm: Open get-together for people to share or perform songs, poems, jokes, talents, magic tricks etc.….this will be an opportunity to have fun and share in a different way, or to just be there and enjoy the fellowship.
6.15 to 6.30pm: Closing.
This convention complies with CoDA UK approval guidelines: CoDA Traditions are observed and only CoDA approved literature is read or available for sale.
Working the Steps, and Power of 5 Groups
Saturday 18th February 2023, 4-6pm UK time (8-10am Pacific time) (doors open half an hour before)
This is a new venture and will be focusing on Step and Power of 5 groups and defining the difference between the two. There are currently a lot of people doing service on Power of 5 groups both here and in the States.
This event will be limited to the first 100 people who log-in. No registration is needed.
These workshops have not to date exceeded the maximum number of participants, so you should be able to join easily. The link below will be valid on the day.
The meeting will open at 3.30 for a 4.00 start.
To make the most of this interactive workshop we suggest that you join using a laptop, desktop or tablet device with your video on so we can all see each other, see the readings and have access to the chat box.
Please remember you can save the materials in the chat box by clicking on the three dots to the right at the bottom of chat. Choose “save chat”. Text document saved in your documents folder. Separate folder called Zoom.
Topic: Quarterly Sponsorship Workshop
Time: Saturday Feb 18, 2023 16:00 LondonMeeting ID: 823 3401 7308
Passcode: TraditionsIf you are dialling in on a phone, please use Passcode: 4065603071
Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kes4NVI4qX
P.S. We encourage you to read the “Sponsorship: What’s in it for me” booklet before attending which you can purchase from codaliterature.co.uk.
If you want more information
Web page on Sponsorship:
https://coda.org/outreach/connecting-members/sponsorship/
https://coda.org/outreach/supporting-members/working-the-twelve-steps/step-study-group/
Read Chapter 5 in the CoDA Blue Book.
Sponsorship Brochure:
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Sponsorship%20Brochure.pdf
Resources for Sponsors:
http://outreach.coda.org/index.cfm/connecting-members/sponsorship/resources-for-sponsors/
Working the Steps in a Group v4
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Working%20the%20Steps%20in%20a%20Group%20v4.pdf
Safeguarding Policy
http://coda-uk.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
Safeguarding:
https://codauk.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
Sponsored by – World CoDA Outreach Committee
Saturday, February 11, 2023: 4pm-7:30pm (GMT)
The workshop is sponsored by the World CoDA Outreach Committee and will provide information and encouragement for sponsors and sponsees.
Step Twelve
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Current CoDA sponsors and sponsees will share their experience, strength and hope regarding sponsorship.
Open share will allow participants to share their experience, strength, and hope and ask questions about sponsorship.
If you would like to be a sponsor, or are looking for a sponsor, this workshop with the World CoDA fellowship will be useful.
Registration will occur through Eventbrite. Donations welcomed.
https://coda.org/event/sponsorship-workshop/
Registration required – via Eventbrite
Email myphilacoda@comcast.net if you have queries
Time: 10:00-15:00
With fellowship from 15:00-16:00
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups. This meeting will be the AGM, which we haven’t held for a couple of years, and all members are invited to join us to hear and discuss annual reports from all areas of service work, and to join in fellowship afterwards.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and hear how service in CoDA UK happens. NSC Committee Members and Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed. There will be time for questions about the NSC and any aspect of service and our work in the fellowship time after the main meeting ends at 3pm. You can read more about service on the NSC here.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.
Please note, the minute taker will record any votes and actions, which we will review at the end of the meeting. Any references to individuals are on a first name basis only. If you do not wish to be mentioned by name in the minutes, please make this clear to the minute taker.
There is no requirement to attend the whole meeting – feel free to drop in at any time during the day. We ask that you put your name and home group (if you have one) in the chat, and please mention if you’re a GSR so we can keep track of the voting entity for any items which require a vote.
AGM Reports – for meeting
Important point – please read through the attached reports before attending the meeting. We have a lot of business to attend to and there may not be time to go through every report in detail during the meeting, so it’s important that members have some understanding of what’s being discussed in advance – especially those who can vote (NSC committee members, GSRs and anyone voted by their group to be acting GSR for the day).
Reports for 2023 – AGM
Agenda for 2023 – AGM (pdf)
Notes from Nov 2022 – meeting
Please join the zoom call just before 10am or drop in any time
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
Everyone is welcome to join, so please do share this communication at your groups.
If you have any further questions please feel free to contact us at communications@codauk.org.
We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 4th February.
| Agenda Item | Start Time | End Time |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. Appointment of a spiritual timekeeper. (20 mins) |
10.00 | 10.20 |
| 2. Introductions and Feelings check in (15 mins) Individual only, i.e. not service, subcommittee or group reports – if any groups wish to raise questions, please do so in AOB, item 9. Establish voting entity |
10.20 | 10.35 |
| 3. November NSC Minutes (5 mins) Minutes attached. Are there any questions arising? Any updates? |
10.35 | 10.40 |
| 4. Subcommittee & service areas Reports, updates and any plans for year ahead (including any budget requirements) from members in service 30 second timed shares following verbal summary of reports |
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| 4a. Sponsorship Committee (15 mins) Report attached at page 1 ACTION from last NSC: The Sponsorship Committee will consider: – guidance for sponsees on where they can look for support. – concern about sponsors being able to sponsor from Step 5 but may not have enough recovery. and come back with any future proposals. These actions will be picked up by the new sponsorship committee. |
10.40 | 10.55 |
| 4b. Member Networks/CoDA Outreach groups (15 mins) No report as no-one in service at the NSC |
10.55 | 11.10 |
| 4c. Literature (5 mins) No report as no-one in service at the NSC |
11.10 | 11.15 |
| 4d. PLI (15 mins) Decision to be taken on renewals in 2023 and beyond. ACTION from last NSC: Questions raised for Rochelle to look into and this item will be brought back to NSC if required. |
11.15 | 11.30 |
| 4e. Website & Meetings; 4f Comms (15 mins) Report attached page 2-3 |
11.30 | 11.45 |
| 15-minute break (may be moved if earlier timings change) | 11.45 | 12.00 |
| 4g. Public Information (15 mins) Report and proposals attached page 4-5 Proposal 1: Introduce formal support/budget, so that the PI Committee can send Conference-endorsed book samples to institutions expressing interest in starting CoDA meetings in facilities. Decisions on finances will be taken during the Treasury report section |
12.00 | 12.15 |
| 4h. CoDA Teen (5 mins) no report as no-one in service at the NSC |
12.15 | 12.20 |
| 4i. North Region (15 mins) report attached at page 6 |
12.20 | 12.35 |
| 4j. London South East Region (5 mins) report attached at page 6 |
12.35 | 12.40 |
| 5. CoDA Service Conference information attached at page 7 – What is CSC and why do NSC send Delegates? (5 mins) – Need to vote for 2 CSC Delegates and an alternate to be our Voting Entity (VE) for 2023 (10 mins) – Report from last year’s CSC |
12.40 | 12.55 |
| 6. CoDA UK Treasury Report (45 mins) report attached pages 8-10 ACTIONS from last NSC: |
12.55 | 1.40 |
| 15-minute break (may be moved if earlier timings change) | 1.40 | 1.55 |
| 7. Service positions vacant (25 mins) Discussion if needed; votes Key positions vacant: – Literature Secretary – Meetings List Coordinator – Sponsorship Rep & Committee Members – Vice Chair – CSC Delegates – General NSC Members, including email responders, internal comms people, website coordinators (including volunteers to develop the service pages), public information team and more. All available positions, including shared ones: https://codauk.org/nsc-service-positions/ |
1.55 | 2.20 |
| 8. Agenda items 30 second timed shares No additional agenda items have been received for this meeting |
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| 9. Any Other Business (20 mins) If no time to cover all items of AOB, please submit to next NSC meeting in May |
2.20 | 2.40 |
| 10. Agree actions onscreen so minutes can be circulated straight away (10 mins) | 2.40 | 2.50 |
| 11. Confirm date of next meeting (5 mins) Sunday 7th May, 1-5pm (or Saturday 6th May (Coronation Day) or Saturday 13th May) |
2.50 | 2.55 |
| 12. Close – (5 mins) Promises and long form Serenity Prayer |
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| All are welcome to stay on the call for fellowship and questions about NSC service. We can set up breakout rooms if members would like to chat in smaller groups about different aspects of service. | 3.00 | 4.00 |
Previous meeting minutes are published here.
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/PI/Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chair can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 Motion carried
Working the Steps in CoDA: exploring different sponsorship approaches.
CoDA UK Sponsorship Committee will host a Zoom Sponsorship workshop
Sunday 22nd January 2023, 4-6pm UK time (8-10am Pacific time) (doors open half an hour before)
- Are you looking for a sponsor?
- Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
- Are you looking for new sponsees?
This workshop will have shares on being a sponsor, sponsee and co-sponsoring. It is an introduction to the various ways of sponsorship, not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part. Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery. We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a home group and joining WhatsApp groups (see below).
This event will be limited to the first 100 people who log-in. No registration is needed.
These workshops have not to date exceeded the maximum number of participants, so you should be able to join easily. The link below will be valid on the day.
The meeting will open at 3.30 for a 4.00 start.
- 4.00 – Start all the readings
- 4:15 – Shares on being a sponsor/co-sponsor (2 shares), Shares on being a sponsee (2 shares)
- 4:55 – 5.05 – 10 minute comfort break.
- 5.05 – Sharing time
- 5.55 – Close of workshop
- 6.00 – Open for discussion, outreach offers, requests & questions till 6.30
To make the most of this interactive workshop we suggest that you join using a laptop, desktop or tablet device with your video on so we can all see each other, see the readings and have access to the chat box.
Please remember you can save the materials in the chat box by clicking on the three dots to the right at the bottom of chat. Choose “save chat”. Text document saved in your documents folder. Separate folder called Zoom.
NB: WE ARE SEEKING FELLOWS TO SHARE AS BELOW
- 4.15pm Chair on Being a sponsor (10 minutes)
- 4.25pm Chair on Being a sponsor (10 minutes)
- 4.35pm Chair on Being a sponsee (10 minutes)
- 4.45pm Chair on Being a co-sponsor (10 minutes)
If you’re willing to do a Chair, please email sponsorship@codauk.org by Jan 7th.
Dates for 2023
- Saturday 15th April 2023 4-6pm
- Sunday 16th July 2023 4-6pm
- Saturday 14th October 2023 4-6pm
Topic: Quarterly Sponsorship Workshop
Time: Sunday Jan 22, 2023 16:00 LondonMeeting ID: 873 1053 7470
Passcode: TraditionsIf you are dialling in on a phone, please use Passcode: 4065603071
Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kes4NVI4qX
P.S. We encourage you to read the “Sponsorship: What’s in it for me” booklet before attending which you can purchase from codaliterature.co.uk.
If you want more information
This is the script for the workshop:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/108T5UZzJFnH1eG-fzwjbq194Ec3j3iGR/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=114565587872001819077&rtpof=true&sd=true
Web page on Sponsorship:
https://coda.org/outreach/connecting-members/sponsorship/
https://coda.org/outreach/supporting-members/working-the-twelve-steps/step-study-group/
Read Chapter 5 in the Coda Blue Book.
Sponsorship Brochure:
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Sponsorship%20Brochure.pdf
Resources for Sponsors:
http://outreach.coda.org/index.cfm/connecting-members/sponsorship/resources-for-sponsors/
Working the Steps in a Group v4
http://coda.org/default/assets/File/Literature/Working%20the%20Steps%20in%20a%20Group%20v4.pdf
Safeguarding Policy
http://coda-uk.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
Safeguarding:
https://codauk.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Fellowship-meeting-Safeguarding-Policy-Aug-2019.docx
Saturday 14th January, 1.30-3.30pm
– open to all CoDA members
– run by the London & South East Region
Will include:
- Share on being a GSR
- Forum time where members can share group questions and issues, and experience, strength and hope about matters affecting CoDA meetings
- And a workshop session on Service Concept 1, based on The Twelve Concepts – Alive And Strong
Please note, due to lack of service the LSER does not currently function as a committee, but plans to run these workshops every three months.
Zoom Meeting ID: 870 1827 1005
Passcode: 493850Doors open 1.15pm
Full Agenda – PDF
The Twelve Service Concepts – Alive Strong (coda.org)
Friday 13th to Sunday 15th January
The CoDA Noddfa retreat committee are happy to invite you to attend the CoDA Mixed Retreat this January in person at the wonderful location of Noddfa, Penmaenmawr in North Wales. The Retreat runs from Friday 13th January to Sunday 15th January.
TO RESERVE A PLACE
Please first reserve a place with the committee, providing your email address and/or mobile number to CoDANoddfaRetreat@outlook.com or 07853865040It is important that we be able to contact you to confirm your place and attendance on the retreat and to confirm numbers for our hosts.
We then ask they you contact NODDFA directly to pay a non-refundable deposit of £20 (or pay the full balance) as a commitment to attendance.)
Updates added to website – 27th October – from Noddfa Retreat Committee.
Location:
NODDFA, Conwy Old Road, Penmaenmawr, North Wales LL34 6YF
Please contact Noddfa directly to pay the fee of £160 for accommodation and food for your stay, this is paid directly to NODDFA by cheque or BACS.
Additionally, there is a £10 Registration Fee to be paid on arrival which goes to CoDA.
Please provide them with your phone number and if possible an
email address to contact you for information relating to the retreat and your booking and cancellations.
There will be an initial cut off for reserving places on the 10th December.
Please not that you may also arrange separately with NODDFA if you wish to stay on the nights before or after the retreat.
Retreat timings
Registration is from 4pm on 13th January (Dinner 6.30pm) and the retreat ends Sunday 15th January at 3pm.
- This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA
- Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale.
- The retreat will adhere to the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Codependents Anonymous.
- No outside speakers are involved.
There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.
Readings at meetings throughout the weekend will be taken from the following literature:
- The CoDA big book
- The codependents anonymous workbook
- In this moment daily meditation book
- …along with reading selections from CoDA approved literature.
CoDA literature will be available to purchase during the retreat.
Bring along a teddy, picture of yourself as a child and anything that may help reach and comfort your child within.
The Retreat will take place at Noddfa spirituality centre. Noddfa is home to a small, extremely kind and friendly spiritual group of religious Sisters and is a venue used by 12 Step and numerous other groups throughout the year. It is a lovely old house with views of the sea and the hills. The grounds are full of trees, colourful shrubs and flowers. There is also a walled vegetable garden, a labyrinth and many other hidden treasures.
NODDFA is a Welsh word meaning ‘haven’ or ‘refuge’. A place of peace and welcome, a place where you can regain energy. This is the venue we have again chosen for our Retreat and we hope it will be a time for you to relax and recharge while taking time to be self-aware.
During your stay it is not compulsory to attend all the meetings if you do not wish to.
The beach is a 10 minute walk downhill, and obviously it takes longer coming back. The mountains are also accessible and the grounds around Noddfa are vast. Most of the bedrooms are for single occupancy and each floor has ample washing facilities and plenty of tea-making areas.
Please bring a towel and a hot water bottle for extra comfort. The rooms (and attendance) will be allocated on a first come first serve basis.
It is assumed that the retreat will be able to accommodate around 36 attendees as with previous years.
Any further CoDA queries for the retreat
Please contact the retreat committee by phone / Whatsapp on 07853865040 or by email CoDANofddfaRetreat@outlook.com
The food at Noddfa is wholesome and plentiful (and their soda bread is delicious!). If you need a special diet i.e. vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free etc. please inform Noddfa when you are booking directly with them.
NODDFA details are as follows:
Phone number: 01492 623473
Email: noddfapen@aol.com
Website: https://www.noddfa.org.uk
We are looking forward to an exciting and uplifting Retreat and to
welcome new and previous participants.
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CoDA Welcome
We welcome you to Co-Dependents Anonymous, a program of recovery from codependence, where each of us may share our experience, strength, and hope in our efforts to find freedom where there has been bondage and peace where there has been turmoil in our relationships with others and ourselves.
Most of us have been searching for ways to overcome the dilemmas of the conflicts in our relationships and our childhoods. Many of us were raised in families where addictions existed – some of us were not. In either case, we have found in each of our lives that codependence is a most deeply rooted compulsive behavior and that it is born out of our sometimes moderately, sometimes extremely dysfunctional families and other systems. We have each experienced in our own ways the painful trauma of the emptiness of our childhood and relationships throughout our lives.
We attempted to use others – our mates, friends, and even our children, as our sole source of identity, value and well being, and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses from our childhoods. Our histories may include other powerful addictions which at times we have used to cope with our codependence.
We have all learned to survive life, but in CoDA we are learning to live life. Through applying the Twelve Steps and principles found in CoDA to our daily life and relationships both present and past – we can experience a new freedom from our self defeating lifestyles. It is an individual growth process. Each of us is growing at our own pace and will continue to do so as we remain open to God’s will for us on a daily basis. Our sharing is our way of identification and helps us to free the emotional bonds of our past and the compulsive control of our present.
No matter how traumatic your past or despairing your present may seem, there is hope for a new day in the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous. No longer do you need to rely on others as a power greater than yourself. May you instead find here a new strength within to be that which God intended – Precious and Free.
The Welcome may not be reprinted or republished without the express written consent of Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. This document may be reprinted from the website http://www.coda.org (CoDA)
for use by members of the CoDA Fellowship.
Copyright © 2018 Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. and its licensors -All Rights Reserved.
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Sharing
Covers:
Feedback | Crosstalk | Suggestions / Support | General Recommendations
Bearing in mind the spiritual aspect of our admission in the First Step of our powerlessness over others, the CoDA Fellowship Service Manual (FSM) offers guidelines for personal, written, and electronic communications for individual members and groups, including those engaging in outreach and fellowship service work.
Guidelines for sharing – Approved 2010
The following statement is to be read before the meeting opens for general sharing
When many of us were growing up no-one listened to us. We were told our feelings were wrong or that they did not matter. We were often interrupted and criticised.
As adults we are used to taking care of other people and not taking responsibility for our own lives.
So in our meetings we speak about our own experiences and feelings. We listen without comment to what others say because it is true for them. In this way we work towards taking responsibility for our own lives, rather than giving advice to others.
It is important for our recovery to know that we can share without fear of interruption, contradiction or criticism.
- We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited – this is ‘feedback‘.
- We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion – this is called ‘crosstalk‘. When sharing, we use ‘I’ statements and avoid using the word ‘you’, ‘we’, ‘one’ or addressing someone by ‘name’. Crosstalk can include: physical contact or touch, passing tissues, excessive laughter, verbal sounds and noises.
Crosstalk and feedback are strongly discouraged in CoDA, since as codependents we are working to break away from dependency on what others think, feel or advise.
Crosstalk infringes on boundaries, and many people find crosstalk or feedback unsafe. When we ask for no crosstalk, we have set a boundary in order to create a safe environment. No crosstalk nurtures recovery rather than codependency. It reminds us to focus on our own recovery rather than be distracted with helping or controlling others.
If a previous member’s share echoes within you and inspires you to speak, we suggest you stick to the ‘general topics’ you identify with, only. If you would like to speak to someone about something they have shared, please do so after the meeting, asking their consent first.
The secretary may read these guidelines again to remind members of this CoDA principle. Please do not be upset or embarrassed if this happens – it is only to maintain the safety of the room, to help us identify codependent behaviour and further our recoveries and awareness of this principle.
If you think these guidelines have been violated or are not being observed, please ask the secretary to read them again at the end of that particular share.
To be read during meeting, AFTER a specific share
If FEEDBACK occurs…
We would like to gently remind the group that all feedback, including positive comment, is discouraged, since as codependents we are working to establish our own realities and opinions free from the judgement, advice and opinions of other people, even those we love and respect. This is not a criticism but only a reminder and a useful tool to preserve the safety of the room and further our recovery from codependency.
If CROSSTALK occurs…
We would like to gently remind the group that crosstalk or mentioning people by name is discouraged in CoDA, as we all have a right to share without fear of being misinterpreted or having our boundaries violated.
‘YOU’/’WE’/’ONE’ statements…
We would like to gently remind the group that we are encouraged to further our personal recovery from codependency by refraining from using the word ‘you’, ‘we’ or ‘one’ in our sharing and instead, keep the focus on our own recovery by using ‘I’ statements. Changing the language we use in meetings and working to keep the focus on ourselves is a valuable tool in recognising and nurturing our own reality and identity.
Suggestions to follow should certain events occur
All meeting secretaries need to be aware of possible procedures they may need to action should the following ensue. Some or all suggestions could either be included in the preamble or be available for reference as a separate document.
Event: If someone insists on attending a meeting from which they have been excluded
e.g. a man at a women’s meeting
It is suggested that Tradition Four should be reiterated. Each group is supported in its right to be autonomous. If ineligible persons insist on attending, an immediate group conscience may be called to agree on possible actions e.g. including the person in the meeting, opening the membership to all people in the future, asking that person to leave, adjourning or relocating the meeting on that day or calling on an outside agency (police or venue manager) for support as required.
Event: If a member behaves aggressively or abusively during the meeting
It is suggested that this particular member should be advised that they may be asked to leave by immediate group conscience which may be called by any member. This supports tradition one where our common welfare comes first. Some venues may have policies on tolerating abusive/aggressive behaviour and these policies could be read out if necessary. They should be printed out and located somewhere accessible to the secretary (e.g. in the folder).
Event: If a member shares in a way which another member finds offensive
It is important to consider Tradition One: Our common welfare should come first, personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity. Members should take their own inventory and balance the possible harm to them in continuing to listen to the speaker or possible harm to the speaker by interrupting his/her share. Any member may call an immediate group conscience. In a group conscience, principles are placed before personalities, issues are discussed and any actions agreed and acted upon. Alternatively, members may choose to leave the meeting on the day temporarily or permanently. Similarly, members may ask the secretary to re-read the guidelines at the end of that person’s share, rather than interrupting.
Event: If a member finds it hard to access suitable meetings or share and behave appropriately at meetings
It is suggested that the member should be informed that all members have access to online meetings (website addresses), CoDA literature, and arrangement of sponsoring relationships when attending meetings is difficult or inadvisable.
General Recommendations for meeting secretaries
It is proposed that all meetings should review their guidelines to sharing to ensure that they have the following incorporated:
- A description of cross talk and feedback and WHY they are discouraged.
- Using ‘I’ statements, avoid using the word ‘you’ or addressing someone by name.
- If a member wants to talk about what someone has said, he/she should approach the person after the meeting asking their consent/agreement first.
- Members have the procedure to ask the secretary to re-read the guidelines again if they feel that the guidelines have not been observed, but only after a person has shared.
- A statement about how the group will deal with seriously offensive shares, secretary to re-read the guidelines at the end of that person’s share, rather than interrupting.
See also
Healthy Meetings – handbook
For Safety’s Sake – guidelines
Communication & Recovery
CoDA.org – Online communications guidelines
Updates made – November 2022 – by NSC & Sponsorship committees – indicated with asterix
Background
The Disclosure and Barring Service and Scottish Government have confirmed that fellowship members do not require DBS or Disclosure Scotland check for 12th Stepping or Sponsorship, as they are members of self-regulating groups. As individuals, however, fellowship members should be aware of their duty of care to others and hence follow the law and best practice on safeguarding, when acting in the fellowship’s name.
This guidance has been updated following recent high-profile cases in the wider charity sector which have prompted the need to review and further strengthen safeguarding standards within the Fellowship.
The basic principle
Everyone should recognise that all individuals, regardless of age, disability, gender, racial heritage, religious belief, sexual orientation and identity, have a right to equal protection from all types of harm and abuse.
Who the guidance protects?
This Guidance applies to the safeguarding of all fellowship members or those who fellowship members encounter when acting in the fellowship’s name, including those under the age of 18 (minor) or any vulnerable adults who may be members of the fellowship.
Disseminating best practice
It is suggested that a copy of a version of this Guidance should be available at each meeting and copies can be obtained on request for every new (and existing) fellowship member. Also reference to the existence of a safeguarding policy could be mentioned in the script?
It is vital that all Group Secretaries understand and learn about safeguarding and protection issues within the context of the fellowship in order to ensure a safe environment for members and those who members encounter when acting in the fellowship’s name.
New members
Meetings with new members to the fellowship:
- should be conducted by two existing members and, whenever possible, by a man and a woman
- should be held in a public place and the date, time and place of any meeting should be reported in advance to the Group Secretary
Sponsors
- It is suggested that a Sponsor who has completed step 5 and is attending meetings regularly has regard for this guidance and their duty of care towards other fellowship members.
- Sponsors do not ever give advice on medication in any circumstances, even if they are trained professionals. The only person who can give advice on medication is the sponsee’s own medical professional.*
- Sponsors only use CoDA Approved Literature in sponsoring.*
Fellowship members are not legally required to obtain a DBS Certificate in order to act as a Sponsor.
However, Sponsors are encouraged to consider their legal and moral responsibility to themselves, prospective sponsees, and the fellowship when considering whether accepting a particular sponsee is in the best interest of those involved.
Reporting safeguarding concerns
If any fellowship member believes they are being abused or knows/suspects that another fellowship member is being abused/abusing someone else, they should consider taking the following action(s), as appropriate:
Preserve any evidence
Report all concerns to the:
Group Secretary and/or any Group member;
Local Authority Adult Social Care team (about a vulnerable adult); and/or
Local Authority Children’s Services team (about a minor)
In an emergency, if there is immediate risk of abuse call 999.
If there is any doubt about whether a situation amounts to abuse, members of the group should ask the advice of their Local Authority Safeguarding Lead.
Categories
Sharing
Bearing in mind the spiritual aspect of our admission in the First Step of our powerlessness over others, the CoDA Fellowship Service Manual (FSM) offers guidelines for personal, written, and electronic communications for individual members and groups, including those engaging in outreach and fellowship service work.
Guidelines for sharing – Approved 2010
The following statement is to be read before the meeting opens for general sharing
When many of us were growing up no-one listened to us. We were told our feelings were wrong or that they did not matter. We were often interrupted and criticised.
As adults we are used to taking care of other people and not taking responsibility for our own lives.
So in our meetings we speak about our own experiences and feelings. We listen without comment to what others say because it is true for them. In this way we work towards taking responsibility for our own lives, rather than giving advice to others.
It is important for our recovery to know that we can share without fear of interruption, contradiction or criticism.
- We do not judge, offer advice or comment on what other people say in meetings, even if the comment is positive or solicited – this is ‘feedback‘.
- We do not interrupt one another or engage in discussion – this is called ‘crosstalk‘. When sharing, we use ‘I’ statements and avoid using the word ‘you’, ‘we’, ‘one’ or addressing someone by ‘name’. Crosstalk can include: physical contact or touch, passing tissues, excessive laughter, verbal sounds and noises.
Crosstalk and feedback are strongly discouraged in CoDA, since as codependents we are working to break away from dependency on what others think, feel or advise.
Crosstalk infringes on boundaries, and many people find crosstalk or feedback unsafe. When we ask for no crosstalk, we have set a boundary in order to create a safe environment. No crosstalk nurtures recovery rather than codependency. It reminds us to focus on our own recovery rather than be distracted with helping or controlling others.
If a previous member’s share echoes within you and inspires you to speak, we suggest you stick to the ‘general topics’ you identify with, only. If you would like to speak to someone about something they have shared, please do so after the meeting, asking their consent first.
The secretary may read these guidelines again to remind members of this CoDA principle. Please do not be upset or embarrassed if this happens – it is only to maintain the safety of the room, to help us identify codependent behaviour and to further our recoveries and awareness of this principle.
If you think these guidelines have been violated or are not being observed, please ask the secretary to read them again at the end of that particular share.
To be read during meeting, AFTER a specific share, by the secretary
If FEEDBACK occurs…
We would like to gently remind the group that all feedback, including positive comment, is discouraged, since as codependents we are working to establish our own realities and opinions free from the judgement, advice and opinions of other people, even those we love and respect. This is not a criticism but only a reminder and a useful tool to preserve the safety of the room and further our recovery from codependency.
If CROSSTALK occurs…
We would like to gently remind the group that crosstalk or mentioning people by name is discouraged in CoDA, as we all have a right to share without fear of being misinterpreted or having our boundaries violated.
‘YOU’/’WE’/’ONE’ STATEMENTS…
We would like to gently remind the group that we are encouraged to further our personal recovery from codependency by refraining from using the word ‘you’, ‘we’ or ‘one’ in our sharing and instead, keep the focus on our own recovery by using ‘I’ statements. Changing the language we use in meetings and working to keep the focus on ourselves is a valuable tool in recognising and nurturing our own reality and identity.
See also
CoDA UK – Sharing Guidelines
Healthy Meetings – handbook
For Safety Sake – guidelines
Communication & Recovery
CoDA.org – Online communications guidelines
The CoDA UK North and Regions intergroup committee invites you to attend the upcoming interim business meeting on the 19th November 2022 10:30 – 12:30 on Zoom.
Zoom details for each meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/85208910153?pwd=NjZSd1VnMGVBcWVNTGJoaG1xc1JoUT09Meeting ID: 852 0891 0153
Passcode: 176130For any further information northregion@codauk.org
During the meeting on 22nd October we appointed many new service roles, including:
- Chair: Philip F.
- Co-Chair: Mari H.
- Secretary: Serina K.
- Treasurer: Tina G.
- Literature: Jane B. & Ciara W.
- Technology and Comms: Pete H.
- Workshops & Retreats: Gillian A., Pete H. & Noddfa Retreat Committee
It was also decided that any meetings outside of the current UK LSER (London and South East Region) are welcome to join this intergroup.
All are welcome to join us, GSRs and members alike, to discuss retreats, events, services for members, and representing the voice of CoDA UK members at the CoDA service conference.
This meeting will be in part to help set the agenda for the regular January 2023 intergroup business meeting and moving to running the business meeting in the morning with a workshop in the afternoon reading CoDA literature.
We hope you can join us and together we can provide ever greater service to CoDA members.
Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business. NSC Committee Members and Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.
Please note, the minute taker will record any votes and actions, which we will review at the end of the meeting. Any references to individuals are on a first name basis only. If you do not wish to be mentioned by name in the minutes, please make this clear to the minute taker.
Please join the zoom call just before 1pm
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
Everyone is welcome to join, so please do share this communication at your groups.
If you have any further questions please feel free to contact us at communications@codauk.org.
We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 5th November.
| Agenda Item | Start Time | End Time |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. Appointment of a spiritual timekeeper. (20 mins) |
1.00 | 1.20 |
| 2. Introductions and Feelings check in (individual only, i.e. not service, subcommittee or group reports) (15 mins) If any groups wish to bring reports or questions, please raise them at item 10. AOB is at item 11. |
1.20 | 1.35 |
| 3. Request for a member to take minutes Establish voting entity (5 mins) |
1.35 | 1.40 |
| 4. Matters arising from August NSC minutes Minutes attached. Are there any questions arising? Any updates? Draft Mission statement of NSC – vote required for this to be uploaded to the website – please read supporting document attached: NSC Members Guidelines 2022 draft (updated following last NSC – amendments are in red) (15 mins) |
1.40 | 1.55 |
| 5. Treasury report (30 mins) Report and addendum Questions for Treasurer from last NSC: i). What is the NSC’s prudent reserve and when did CoDA UK NSC last make a 7th tradition donation? ii). How does 2022 compare to 2018 donations? iii). Is there any information on the possible outstanding debt to CoDA Literature? Carried forward from last NSC – Charitable status – update |
1.55 | 2.25 |
| 6. Reports and updates from members in service preferably circulate in advance, or brief verbal bullet points only and any questions arising from these (5 mins each) |
||
| 6a. Sponsorship Committee – Report attached Results of group conscience regarding safeguarding issue discussed at last NSC – and proposal that these statements be added to the CoDA Safeguarding Policy Document (votes required): 1. Sponsors do not ever give advice on medication in any circumstances, even if they are trained professionals. The only person who can give advice on medication is the sponsee’s own medical professional. 2. That only CoDA Approved Literature be used in sponsoring. (15 minutes) |
2.25 | 2.40 |
| 6b. Member Networks/CoDA Outreach Groups – no report this meeting | ||
| 6c. Literature – no report this meeting | ||
| 6d. PLI – Report attached i). Update on insurance policy ii). Does the previous proposal (cover all UK meetings) still need discussing at a future NSC? |
2.40 | 2.50 |
| 6e. Website & meetings list– no report this meeting | ||
| 6f. Comms – no report this meeting | ||
| 6g. Public Information – no report this meeting | ||
| 6h. CoDA Teen – no report this meeting | ||
| 6i. North Region – report attached | ||
| 6j. London & South East Region – report attached | ||
| 10-minute break (may be moved if earlier timings change) | 2.50 | 3.00 |
| 7. CoDA Service Conference update (20 mins) Written report to follow |
3.00 | 3.20 |
| 8. Service positions vacant (10 mins) Discussion if needed; votes Key positions vacant: – Secretary – Literature Secretary – Public Liability Insurance All available service positions, including shared ones: https://codauk.org/nsc-service-positions/ |
3.20 | 3.30 |
| 9. Agenda items , carried forward from last NSC or newly submitted 30 second timed shares |
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| 9a. Proposal from LSER on 7th Tradition Funds See also written report from LSER. Vote required. 1. Request that the NSC takes over the LSER bank account again and holds the remaining £3000 as a reserve for such time as the LSER resumes as a committee. (15 minutes) |
3.30 | 3.45 |
| 9b. Proposal from Treasurer on Paypal Request attached. 1. For the NSC to have a Paypal account into which groups may pay their donations, and out of which a Zoom account can be serviced by direct debit. – To connect the Paypal account to the bank account – To name the Paypal account: NSC Treasurer CoDA UK. Not to add a DONATE button on the webpage, so as not to invite rogue / member / non-group donations 2. Write a guide “How To Set up an Anonymous PayPal Account”, which could be published onto the website, or not, if groups want guidance. |
3.45 | 4.00 |
| 9c. NSC meetings in 2023 And whether to hold an AGM (15 minutes) |
4.00 | 4.15 |
| 10. Any Other Business (30 minutes) | 4.15 | 4.45 |
| 11. Agree actions on screen so minutes can be circulated straight away. (10 minutes) | 4.45 | 4.55 |
| 12. Date of next meeting – n/a, to be decided at 9c | 4.20 | 4.35 |
| 13. Close. Promises and long form Serenity Prayer (5 minutes) |
4.55 | 5.00 |
Previous meeting minutes are published here.
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/PI/Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chair can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 Motion carried
Friday 4 November to Sunday 6 November 2022
Registration from 4pm on Friday (dinner 6.30pm) and ends at 3pm on Sunday
The Codependents Anonymous Approved Women’s Retreat will adhere to the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Codependents Anonymous, adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous. Codependents Anonymous is a spiritual programme. 12 Step Meetings will be held throughout the weekend and CODA approved literature will also be available.
NODDFA is home to a small spiritual group of friendly religious Sisters and is a venue used by 12 Steps and other groups throughout the year. It is a lovely old house and has views of the sea and hills.
There will be a choice of meetings to attend or you are free to explore the grounds, walk to the beach (10 minutes away), or do whatever you need for your own health and recovery. There will also be a social gathering on the Saturday evening, which is an opportunity to have some fun. Please share your talents with us, but be mindful of Tradition 6 i.e.; no outside enterprises. All activities are optional.
Most of the bedrooms are for single occupancy and each floor has ample washing facilities and plenty of tea-making areas. Please bring what you need with you for your own comfort, be it a hot water bottle, your own towel or a special herbal tea. The food at NODDFA is wholesome and plentiful. Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner will be provided.
Please inform NODDFA when you book if you need a special diet i.e. vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free etc, and this will be catered for. The rooms will be allocated on a first come first served basis, so inform NODDFA when you book of any special room requests. Unfortunately, there is no camping at this venue.
The cost is £150 for accommodation and food to be paid directly to NODDFA by bank transfer or cheque, plus £10 cash registration fee to be paid on arrival (total cost £160).
To book a place
Speak with either Sister Patrice or Sister Mary-Jo
Phone number: 01492 623473
Email: noddfapen@aol.com
Nodffa website: https://www.noddfa.org.ukTo book and pay for your place directly with NODDFA. Mention the November 2022 Coda Women’s Retreat and please make sure you provide any special food, room or other requirements you have.
Travel: for travel details please see the Noddfa website
NODDFA contacts: Sister Patrice, Sister Marj-Jo
Payment:
- £150 should be by cheque made out to NODDFA with the Coda Women’s Retreat named on the back
- Bank transfer to NODDFA SPIRITUALITY CENTER , NatWest Bank Account Number 04537696, Sort Code: 522149.
- Once you’ve booked with NODDFA, email jabrookfield@gmail.com including your contact details to let us know.
- To ensure financial manageability the final cut-off for booking and full £150 payment received by NODDFA is Friday 7 October 2022.
- Refunds are at the discretion of the venue.
Location:
NODDFA, Conwy Old Road, Penmaenmawr, North Wales LL34 6YF
General Enquiries:
For general Coda queries about the Retreat:
- Phone Sarah on 07906439898 (evenings)
- Or e-mail jabrookfield@gmail.com
Date: Saturday 22nd October 2022
Time: 1.45pm for 2pm until 4.30pm (with short break)
Zoom details for each meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/85208910153?pwd=NjZSd1VnMGVBcWVNTGJoaG1xc1JoUT09Meeting ID: 852 0891 0153
Passcode: 176130We welcome all CoDA Members and newcomers in our region – from Birmingham & Midlands, right up to and including North West England, North East England, all of Scotland, North and South Wales and Northern Ireland.
Contact for any further information northregion@codauk.org or gilliancoda@gmail.com or 07792 236888
We will use the first 30-40 minutes to bring reports from our own meetings, putting forward any questions, problems or suggestions we might have regarding CoDA meetings etc.
CoDA Literature Workshop
There will then be a CoDA Literature Workshop where we read and share on fellowship literature.
We are hoping to plan further workshops for our region to aid and strengthen our CoDA recovery, and a two day workshop on the 12-Piece Relationship Toolkit and or the Blue Book has been suggested. We need your input to arrange this, so please join us.
We are hoping members might like to come forward as representatives of:
- their home group,
- General Service Representatives (GSRs),
- ordinary CoDA members as well as newcomers who might think about enhancing their CoDA Recovery by dipping their toes into enjoying CoDA fellowship and service.
No one is ‘in charge’ – we are all trusted servants willing to give what we have been freely given: recovery from codependency.
Please join with us – we need your support to continue carrying the message of CoDA recovery, experience, strength and hope to the still-suffering codependent. All are welcome.
We look forward to welcoming you on Saturday 22nd October 2022 – ‘doors’ open from 1.45pm, workshop starts 2pm until 4.30pm.
Quarterly Intergroup North & Region Meeting & Literature Workshop
Zoom details for each meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/85208910153?pwd=NjZSd1VnMGVBcWVNTGJoaG1xc1JoUT09Meeting ID: 852 0891 0153
Passcode: 176130We welcome all CoDA Members and newcomers in our region – from Birmingham & Midlands, right up to and including North West England, North East England, all of Scotland, North and South Wales and Northern Ireland.
Contact for any further information northregion@codauk.org or gilliancoda@gmail.com or 07792 236888
Hosted by CoDA Arizona Group
Members of CoDA Arizona share and welcome in CoDA’s 36th birthday in Phoenix, Arizona where it all began in 1986 – see you there!
Starts: 7pm (UK time) – for online members
Register for the event – via eventbriteIf you have any questions email eventschairaz@gmail.com
Saturday 22nd October 2022
| Registration (face to face) | 5PM | |
| Magic by Robbie (face to face) | 5:30PM | |
| Lunch & Overview of CoDA Arizona (face to face) |
7PM | |
| “How to have healthy and intimate relationships that last a lifetime” Scott & Judy J |
8:10PM | |
| BREAK | 10:10PM | |
| Kan and Mary (founders of CoDA) | 10.30PM | |
| Birthday Cake | 12.20AM (midnight) | |
| Cleanup | 1AM |
$55 in person (North Scottsdale United Methodist Church, Arizona)
$15 virtual – via Zoom
Please contact Nixie at codaarizona@gmail.com if you are in need of financial assistance.
Theme ‘Healthy & Loving Relationships’
10.30am to 6.30pm UK time (GMT)
Join zoom meeting: https://us04web.zoom.us/j/3100599324
ID: 310 059 9324
Password: 917411No pre-registration necessary. Capacity 100. Doors open 10.15am.
The schedule for the day is as follows:
10.30am to 12.00: Mtg 1 – Learning to Love the Self
12.00 to 1.00pm: lunch break
1.00 to 2.30pm: Mtg 2 – Building Healthy and Loving Relationships ( 2 Speakers )
2.30 to 3.00pm: break
3.00 to 4.30pm: Mtg 3 – Spirituality
4.30 to 5.00pm: break
We remain online during all the breaks; please feel free to stay and chat.
5.00 to 6.15pm: Open get-together for people to share or perform songs, poems, jokes, talents, magic tricks etc.….this will be an opportunity to have fun and share in a different way, or to just be there and enjoy the fellowship.
6.15 to 6.30pm – Closing.
This convention complies with CoDA UK approval guidelines: CoDA Traditions are observed and only CoDA approved literature is read or available for sale.
Friday 7th to Sunday 9th October
The CoDA Noddfa retreat committee are happy to invite you to attend the CoDA Mixed Retreat this October in person at the wonderful location of Noddfa, Penmaenmawr in North Wales. The Retreat runs from Friday 7th October to Sunday 9th October.
TO RESERVE A PLACE
Please book directly with NODDFA
Phone number: 01492 623473
Email: noddfapen@aol.com
Website: https://www.noddfa.org.ukNODDFA contacts: Sister Patrice, Sister Marj-Jo
Location:
NODDFA, Conwy Old Road, Penmaenmawr, North Wales LL34 6YF
Please contact Noddfa directly to pay the fee of £150 for accommodation and food for your stay, this is paid directly to NODDFA by cheque or BACS.
Additionally, there is a £10 Registration Fee to be paid on arrival which goes to CoDA.
Please provide them with your phone number and if possible an
email address to contact you for information relating to the retreat and your booking and cancellations.
Enquiries by phone:
Please speak with either Sister Patrice or Sister Mary-Jo to book and pay for your place at Noddfa mentioning the October 2022 Coda Mixed Retreat.
There are limited places as this is a very popular event, so it is suggested you book as soon as possible. Please also notify the retreat committee of
your booking and your email address at petehcoda@outlook.com
Registration is Friday 7th October from 4pm (Dinner 6.30pm) and the retreat ends Sunday 9th October at 3pm.
- This is a Codependents Anonymous UK Approved Mixed Retreat. CoDA
- Traditions are observed, and only CoDA approved literature is available for sale.
- The retreat will adhere to the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Codependents Anonymous.
- No outside speakers are involved.
There will be a social gathering on the Saturday evening – please share your talents with us! (though do be mindful of Tradition 6, i.e. no outside enterprises). All activities are optional.
Readings at meetings throughout the weekend will be taken from the following literature:
- The CoDA big book
- The codependents anonymous workbook
- In this moment daily meditation book
- …along with reading selections from CoDA approved literature.
CoDA literature will be available to purchase during the retreat.
Bring along a teddy, picture of yourself as a child and anything that may help reach and comfort your child within.
The Retreat will take place at Noddfa. Noddfa is home to a small, extremely kind and friendly spiritual group of religious Sisters and is a venue used by 12 Step and numerous other groups throughout the year. It is a lovely old house with views of the sea and the hills. The grounds are full of trees, colourful shrubs and flowers. There is also a walled vegetable garden, a labyrinth and many other hidden treasures.
NODDFA is a Welsh word meaning ‘haven’ or ‘refuge’. A place of peace and welcome, a place where you can regain energy. This is the venue we have again chosen for our Retreat and we hope it will be a time for you to relax and recharge while taking time to be self-aware.
During your stay it is not compulsory to attend all the meetings if you do not wish to.
The beach is a 10 minute walk downhill, and obviously it takes longer coming back. The mountains are also accessible and the grounds around Noddfa are vast. Most of the bedrooms are for single occupancy and each floor has ample washing facilities and plenty of tea-making areas.
Please bring a towel and a hot water bottle for extra comfort. The rooms (and attendance) will be allocated on a first come first serve basis.
It is assumed that the retreat will be able to accommodate around 36 attendees as with previous years.
NODDFA details are as follows:
Phone number: 01492 623473
Email: noddfapen@aol.com
Website: https://www.noddfa.org.ukAny further CODA queries for the retreat please contact Pete by phone/WhatsApp on 07853865040 or by email petehcoda@outlook.com
The food at Noddfa is wholesome and plentiful (and their soda bread is delicious!). If you need a special diet i.e. vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free etc. please inform Noddfa when you are booking directly with them. We are looking forward to an exciting and uplifting Retreat and to
welcome new and previous participants.
1:30 – 3:30pm
All CoDA members are invited and welcome to attend.
Meeting ID: 847 6983 5473
Passcode: 446008
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Meetings are every 3 months and are principally a forum for Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to discuss CoDA business, share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and discuss putting on events and other community building activities.
Due to low attendance from GSRs and members, and a shortage of people willing to take over as committee members, the next meeting will be discussing the winding down of the committee and a possible move to quarterly service workshops and GSR Forum. Please come along to share experience, strength and hope.
For more information see London South East Region page
Working the steps in CoDA;
Exploring different sponsorship approaches
Saturday 8th October 2022, 4pm – 6.30pm (UK time) (12pm – Noon – EST)
(doors open 3.30; there will be a 15 minute comfort break)
- Are you looking for a sponsor?
- Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
- Are you looking for new sponsees?
Come along to listen and share experience, strength and hope about being a sponsee, a sponsor or a co-sponsor.
This workshop is an introduction to the various ways of sponsorship, and not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part. Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery. We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a home group and joining WhatsApp groups (see below).
No registration is required to attend this event. Zoom limit of 100 people
Format: A CoDA meeting with a 15 minute break. Only CoDA speakers. Only CoDA approved literature.
No entrance fee. 7th Tradition donated to your home group.
Joining Details:
CoDA UK NSC is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting
Subject: CoDA Quarterly sponsorship workshop
Are you willing to do service to support the workshop?
Opportunities for Service before the workshop and on the day include:
- Being Chair Finder
- Being a co-host for the next workshop
- Reading the Script
- Spiritual Timekeeper
- Greeter
- Newcomers rep
- Treasurer
- Being on the Quarterly Sponsorship Workshop Committee
The quarterly sponsorship workshop committee plans and facilitates these workshops through a group conscience process – we meet monthly on the 4th Saturday of the month from 5.00-6.00pm – everyone is welcome to attend.
Next meetings are: details available from sponsorship team
If you would like to volunteer for service, please email sponsorship@codauk.org
Following workshop date: Saturday 15th January 4.00pm-6.30pm
We have a script for the workshop (working document), if that helps: all are welcome to read and comment:
Categories
6th Aug 2022 – NSC meeting
Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. NSC Committee Members and Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.
Please note, the minute taker will record any votes and actions, which we will review at the end of the meeting. Any references to individuals are on a first name basis only. If you do not wish to be mentioned by name in th minutes, please make this clear to the minute taker.
Please join the zoom call just before 1pm
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
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Everyone is welcome to join, so please do share this communication at your groups.
If you have any further questions please feel free to contact us at communications@codauk.org.
We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 6th August.
| Agenda Item | Start Time | End Time |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. Appointment of a spiritual timekeeper. (20 mins) |
1.00 | 1.20 |
| 2. Introductions and Feelings check. (individual only, i.e. not service, subcommittee or group reports) (20 mins) If any groups wish to bring reports or questions, please raise them at item 10. AOB is at item 11. |
1.20 | 1.35 |
| 3. Request for a member to take minutes. Establish voting entity (5 mins) |
1.35 | 1.40 |
| 4. Matters arising from May minutes Are there any questions arising? Any updates? (10 mins) |
1.40 | 1.55 |
| 5. Treasury report (to follow) (30 mins) Report and addendum attached Questions for Treasurer from last NSC: Carried forward from last NSC – Charitable status – update |
1.55 | 2.25 |
| 6. Reports and updates from members in service (only when agreed in advance – significant matters, discussion needed, etc) 30 second timed shares following verbal reports | 2.10 | |
| 6a. Sponsorship Committee – Report attached
Results of group conscience regarding safeguarding issue discussed at last NSC – and proposal that these statemetns be added to the CoDA Safeguarding Policy Document (vote required): |
2.15 | |
| 6b. Member Networks/CoDA Outreach Groups – no report this meeting | 2.20 | |
| 6c. Literature – no report this meeting | ||
| 6d. PLI – Report to be attached Update on insurance policy Does the previous proposal (cover all UK meetings) still need discussing at a future NSC? |
2.40 | 2.50 |
| 6e. Website & meetings list – no report this meeting | ||
| 6f. Comms – no report this meeting | ||
| 6g. Public Information – no report this meeting | ||
| 6h. CoDA Teen – no report this meeting | ||
| 6i. North Region – report attached | ||
| 6j. London & South East Region – report attached | ||
| 7. CoDA Service Conference update (5 mins) | 2.50 | 2.55 |
| 10-MINUTE BREAK (may be moved if earlier timings change) | 2.55 | 3.05 |
| 8. Service positions vacant (20 mins) Discussion if needed; votes Key positions vacant: – Secretary – Literature Secretary – Public Liability Insurance All available service positions, including shared ones: https://codauk.org/nsc-service-positions/ |
3.05 | 3.25 |
| 9. Pre-submitted agenda items (55 mins) 10 minute each or more at Chair’s discretion; 30 second timed shares |
3.25 | |
| 9a. Draft Mission statement of NSC (10 minutes) Please read supporting document: NSC Members Guidelines 2022 draft for updating – for discussion. |
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| 9b. CoDA UK charity registration (10 minutes) “Where we’re up to” statement (as noted in May minutes) & discussion |
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| 9c. Agenda request, proposal: Support groups to 3 months or 13 weeks, by way of a donation, not a loan. Announce in all WhatsApp groups and to GSRs by email that 3 months/13 weeks of rent for Face to Face meetings is to be made available. | ||
| 9d. Agenda request, proposal: The PLI to cover all groups or else no groups. The NSC does not enter into a legal contract between itself and the group whose payment doesn’t result in being added by the underwriters, therefore why is the NSC not providing cover across the board, whether payment is forthcoming or not? | ||
| 9e. Agenda request: Safeguarding issue & emergency group conscience of Sponsorship Committee (please read supporting document) – vote required on sending out email and possibly temporary service role. | 4.20 | |
| 10. Groups/GSRs/Members (25 minutes) – Group reports & questions – Possible topic to discuss – lack of service in many groups |
4.20 | 4.35 |
| 11. Any Other Business (15 minutes) | 4.35 | 4.50 |
| 12. Agree actions onscreen so minutes can be circulated straight away (5 mins) | 4.50 | 4.55 |
| 13. Agree date of next meeting – 5th November? (2 minutes) |
4.55 | 4.57 |
| 9. Close – Promises and long form Serenity Prayer (5 minutes) |
4.57 | 5.00 |
Previous meeting minutes are published here.
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/PI/Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chair can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 Motion carried
Shared with thanks to Codependence Matters Committee
Founders of the CoDA Programme, Ken and Mary introduce session on inner child and self parenting .
Two hour session of experience, strength and hope, with exercises prepared by the founders and team.
Copy of exercises and audio will be added after the event.
Saturday, 30th July 2022, 7pm (GMT)
Join Zoom meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87616355527 (NEW LINK)Meeting ID : 87616355527
Password: 861572For further info email codaunitycommittee@gmail.com
Recordings
Codependence Matters – recordings
CoDA Founder shares – 2007 >
Date: Saturday 30th July 2022
Time: 1.45pm for 2pm until 4.30pm (with short break)
We welcome all CoDA Members and newcomers in our region – from Birmingham & Midlands, right up to and including North West England, North East England, all of Scotland, North and South Wales and Northern Ireland.
We will use the first 30-40 minutes to bring reports from our own meetings, putting forward any questions, problems or suggestions we might have regarding CoDA meetings etc. There will then be a CoDA Literature Workshop where we read and share on fellowship literature.
We are hoping to plan further workshops for our region to aid and strengthen our CoDA recovery, and a two day workshop on the 12-Piece Relationship Toolkit and or the Blue Book has been suggested. We need your input to arrange this, so please join us.
We are hoping members might like to come forward as representatives of their home group, General Service Representatives (GSRs), ordinary CoDA members as well as newcomers who might think about enhancing their CoDA Recovery by dipping their toes into enjoying CoDA fellowship and service. No one is ‘in charge’ – we are all trusted servants willing to give what we have been freely given: recovery from codependency.
Please join with us – we need your support to continue carrying the message of CoDA recovery, experience, strength and hope to the still-suffering codependent. All are welcome.
Again, we look forward to welcoming you on Saturday 30th July 2022 – ‘doors’ open from 1.45pm, workshop starts 2pm until 4.30pm.
Date: Saturday 30th July, 2022
Time: 1.45pm for 2pm until 4.30/5pm
(with short break)
Meeting on Zoom
Zoom ID: 852 0891 0153
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Contact for any further information northregion@codauk.org or gilliancoda@gmail.com or 07792 236888
What is LSER and what does it do?
The London & South East Region (LSER) is an area-wide group formed to enable connection between the CoDA groups in our area. Meetings are principally a forum for Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to discuss CoDA business, share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and discuss putting on events and other community building activities.
Currently CoDA is struggling nationwide to fill service positions and the LSER may not be able to continue if no-one comes forward to do service.
This will be the main topic for discussion at the meeting.
Positions vacant from July are: Chair, Comms Secretary, Minutes Secretary, Regional Rep. All service positions can be shared between members, and anyone coming forward to do service will be supported by the outgoing members.
Please announce and post the zoom joining link in your groups. All CoDA members are welcome to attend the meeting.
NEXT MEETING : July 9th 2022 – 1:30 – 5pm
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New Updates on the website
Help wanted to assist with developing our meetings offering on the website
We’re looking for fellows to assist with developing the ‘How to Start a Meeting’ and ‘No Meeting in Your Area?’ sections of the website. You may have good editing or writing skills, or more technical skills, but an enthusiasm for carrying the message is all that’s required. We’re also looking for someone with WordPress skills who can help to develop a technical aspect of the meetings list.
As part of this development work, we’re collecting sample meeting scripts to share as part of a meeting start up pack. There are lots of different meeting formats in the UK fellowship, both online and in person, and we invite groups to send in your scripts for sharing as part of this process.
Please email them to meetings@codauk.org where a fellow is waiting to anonymise them and turn them into downloadable templates on the new meetings page.
A fellow in the north region is hoping to organise some activities for members to get together and share fellowship during June, July and August.
Please contact njbcuriosity@gmail.com if you would like to be involved.
Event poster
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7th May 2022 – NSC meeting
Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00
In recent years, the National Service Committee (NSC) of CoDA UK has flourished, with members filling most of the available service positions. However, due to personal circumstances, several committee members have recently had to step down from their roles, and this means there are a number of vacant positions, which could have an impact on the work of the NSC.
Available roles are now all listed on the website here: https://codauk.org/open-service-positions/ and you can see the full list of committee roles here: https://codauk.org/nsc-service-positions/.
To take account of all these changes and ensure the health of the NSC, it has been agreed by members that we will hold an open Group Inventory to look at the NSC and its work at our next scheduled meeting on 7th May. Everyone in the fellowship is welcome to attend.
The format for this session is included in the attached agenda and the meeting will be chaired by Andy from the London and South East Region.
Please join the zoom call just before 1pm
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
Everyone is welcome to join, so please do share this communication at your groups.
If you have any further questions please feel free to contact me at communications@codauk.org.
We look forward to seeing you on Saturday 7th May.
| Agenda Item | Start Time | End Time |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. Appointment of a spiritual timekeeper. 20 mins | 1 PM | 1:20 PM |
| 2. Introductions and Feelings check. 20 mins |
1:20 PM | 1:40 PM |
| 3. Request for a member to take minutes and voting entity established and appointment of a spiritual timekeeper 10 mins |
1:40 PM | 1:50 PM |
| 4. Discussion of mission statement for NSC. Consider the purpose of the NSC as an entity of CoDA UK. 60 mins |
1:50 PM | 2:50 PM |
| 10 minute break | 2:50 PM |
3:00 PM |
| 5. Inventory of NSC service work in progress and forward look at work planned but not yet started/ put on hold . What subcommittees/activities are currently active/healthy with members in service? What work is essential for the UK fellowship to continue? What can stay on hold until members come forward to serve? 60 mins |
3:00 PM | 4:00 PM |
| 6. Service positions available – Nominations, discussions and votes. 20 mins
All available positions: https://codauk.org/nsc-service-positions/ |
4 PM | 4:20 PM |
| 7. Consider any legal requirements of the NSC if it’s to gain charity status. Agree next steps for the NSC based on the outcome of items 4,5 & 6 30 mins | 4:20 PM | 4:50 PM |
| 8. Agree actions onscreen so minutes can be circulated straight away 5 mins | 4:50 PM | 4:55 PM |
| 9. Close – Promises and long form Serenity Prayer 5 mins |
4:55 PM | 5 PM |
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/ votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/ PI/ Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 – motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chairman can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 – motion carried
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CoDA Inc – YouTube channel (2020 >)
CoDA Inc – official You Tube Channel of Codependents Anonymous.
What is Codependence?
Somewhere along this road we learn about codependence. We hear it from a friend or a therapist. We see it mentioned in the news. Many of us wonder if codependence describes who we are. Codependence is a disease that deteriorates the souls. It affects our personal lives; our families, children, friends, and relatives; our businesses and careers; our health; and our spiritual growth. It is debilitating and, if left untreated, causes us to become more destructive to ourselves and others. Many of us come to a point when we must look beyond ourselves for help. When we attend our first meeting of Codependents Anonymous, many of us find a source for help. Each of us arrives here from different directions. Some of us are urged by family members or friends. Some of us come to CoDA when our physicians, psychiatrists, or therapists see the need.
25th June 5pm – UK (BST) – 26th June 5pm – UK (BST)
(25th June Noon (EST) – 26th June Noon EST)
Be a part of this major 24 Hour World CoDA Event
Topics include:
“Higher Power, Literature, The Most Important Relationship”
“Sponsorship”
“’I’ Statements, For Safety’s Sake”
“Step Eleven and Mindfulness”
Note: session ties below are EDT
UK (British Summer Time) – 5 hours ahead
12PM session (EDT) = 5pm UK Time (BST)
Register for the event:
https://www.eventbrite.de/e/298206131567If you have any questions, please contact:
Sara J: sarajcoda@gmail.com
Denire: Denire.coda@gmail.com
LeSha C: Lcharnetsky@gmail.com
Mahima C: mahima.coda.outreach@gmail.com
Melanie G: Melanieagreenmhm@gmail.com
We are still looking for presenters, leaders, and Zoom hosts. If interested, please contact:
Katja F: Katja.Fleck@outlook.com
Working the steps in CoDA;
exploring different Sponsorship approaches
Saturday 23rd April, 1.00 – 3.30 London (UK time) (8am EST)
(doors open 12.30, there will be a 15 minute comfort break)
CoDA UK NSC is inviting you is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting
Topic: CoDA Quarterly sponsorship workshop
Meeting ID: 351 424 5975
Passcode: traditionsCoda UK NSC – Sponsorship Committee
Are you looking for a sponsor?
Are you wondering if you’re ready to be a sponsor?
Are you looking for new sponsees?
Come along to listen and share experience, strength and hope about being a sponsee, a sponsor or being a co-sponsor.
This workshop is an introduction to the various ways of sponsorship, and not necessarily the place where you will find a sponsor. People will share how they found a sponsor. You have to do your part. Finding a sponsor is an active process within Recovery. We have to investigate our own route to acquiring a sponsor through attending weekly meetings, doing service in a home group and joining WhatsApp groups (see below).
No Registration required to attend this event. Zoom limit of 100 people
Next date: these workshops will run quarterly and future dates will be shared.
Format: A CoDA meeting with a 15 minute break.
Only CoDA speakers. Only CoDA approved literature.
No entrance fee. 7th Tradition donated to National Committee.
Opportunities for Service on the day:
- Giving 10 minute chair about being a Sponsor, Sponsee, Co-Sponsor
- Being Chair Finder
- Reading Script
- Booking person to contact venue and secure place
- Spiritual Timekeeper
- Greeter
- Newcomers rep
If you would like to do service, please email sponsorship@codauk.org
You can email sponsorship@codauk.org and request a printed, pdf or .doc version, and be put on the mailing list of future workshops.
We have a script for the workshop, if that helps: all are welcome to read and comment:
CoDA Org Sponsorship Resources
- CoDA – Sponsorship
- CoDA – Sponsorship – leaflet
- CoDA – Support for Sponsors
- CoDA – Working the Steps in a Group
- CoDA – Paid literature
- CoDA – Free materials
An account of Step Group – Coda World
Safeguarding Policy
Safeguarding
Coda Fellowship Forum Audio Recording
CoDA – Fellowship Forum – Audio recordings
CoDA Endorsed Literature
CoDA – blue book: < US – CoRE > < UK / EU > <eBook sample >
CoDA – green book: < US – CoRE > < UK / EU >
What is LSER and what does it do?
The London & South East Region (LSER) is an area-wide group formed to enable connection between the CoDA groups in our area. Meetings are principally a forum for Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and members to come together in CoDA spiritual principles of service and unity to discuss CoDA business, share what is working in their meetings, raise issues, and discuss putting on events and other community building activities.
We have a GSRs forum at every meeting where GSRs can connect with other groups in sharing experience about issues affecting their groups.
At present we have a Chair, Treasurer, Communications Secretary and Regional Representative, and we hope to attract members into service to be able to carry out other activities, such as visiting speakers, workshops, or conventions.
Please consider becoming part of Region, either as an officer or GSR for your local meeting. Please see the following link for more information on Regions/Intergroups: https://coda.org/outreach/connecting-members/voting-entity-intergroup-support/
We meet online every 3 months on the 2nd Saturday in Jan, Apr, July and Oct between 1.30 and 5pm. All CoDA members are welcome to attend.
If you are interested in attending please send an email to Annie (comms sec) at coda.uk.se.region@gmail.com or see the posts on the CoDA UK Noticeboard WhatsApp group or on the events page on the website.
What are the advantages of connecting meetings to form an Intergroup?
Responses from members (sharing experience, strength and hope):
- Having a voice
- Being the voice from your group and to your group (if you are a Group Service Representative)
- Connecting with other members
- Sharing different ideas and support for putting on events including retreats, conventions or workshops.
- Practicing recovery skills, using the traditions and carrying the message (Tradition Twelve)
- Working as a group (you don’t have to do it all yourself)!
NEXT MEETING : April 9th – 1:30 – 5pm
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CoDA Connections – New submissions
Call For New Submissions!
Have Weekly Readings and Meeting in Print been helpful or thought-provoking for you?
Consider submitting your story and sharing your insight with other CoDA members!
How has CoDA changed your life? Sharing your experience, strength and hope may help thousands of codependents still suffering. Everybody in CoDA has a recovery story to tell.
Please email: connections@coda.org
Some Possible Topics: (Could include, but not limited to!)
- Sharing Strength and Hope
How CoDA and the 12 Steps have made a positive impact
- Lessons Learned
Lessons learned while you’ve been working the CoDA program
- Working the 12 Steps
Your experience working one or more of the 12 Steps
- Affirmations
Original affirmations you may have come up with
- Recovery – Tips and Techniques
Helpful Tips and techniques, which are in line with our traditions and documents.
- Words of Wisdom
What are some of your favorite sayings? How about submitting your own?
- Other Thoughts
Observations, perspectives, etc
(We ask that no submissions or articles violate the letter or spirit of the 12 Steps or 12 Traditions. We also request that authors refrain from using second party “You” statements, and stick to first person “I” statements.)
We look forward to hearing from you.
In Service,
The CoDA Co-NNections Committee (Weekly Readings and Meeting in Print)
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12th March 2022 – NSC Meeting
Time: 13:00 for 13.30-17:00
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.
Please note there are several service positions currently available. please attend if you are interested in offering service.
Available service positions
Available service positions details are posted here.
Current positions include:
- Meeting list coordinator
- Web Service
- Communications Service
- Public Liability Insurance
- Bank Signatory
Submit Agenda Items (for future events)
Please submit any agenda items to secretary@codauk.org using the following template.
Previous meeting minutes are published here.
How to join the meeting:
The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
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CoDA Meeting In Print (2016 >)
A quarterly CoDA recovery and support publication.
Recovery is for everyone, and we hope you enjoy reading these shares.
Meeting in Print contains CoDA-approved literature, including shares, uplifting quotes and artistic material from CoDA members. We hope you find this issue both enjoyable and insightful.
Please feel free to contact us with comments and suggestions – and, as always, your contributions!
Warmly,
Your Meeting in Print Subcommittee
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CoDA North Texas
Hopeful messages of recovery – the struggles, the victories, and how to continue in this recovery journey. May you find inspiration and hope as you hear from people who have been where you have been. You’re worth it!
CoDA North Texas
CoDA Texas Resources
Saturday 4th December 2021
(2pm – 4pm)
An opportunity to discover the work and service that regions can provide to groups and members, and the value of connection and unity between groups in service and recovery.
During the workshop there will be several speaker shares on topics covering the nature of the current structure and methods for working service in a region. How the ‘homegroup for homegroups’ can work. Sharing experience of growing fellowship through regions. Drawing on the shared experience, strength, and hope within a region, and more. How regions help individual members voices to be heard and represented within CoDA. There will also be opportunity for members to share.
We are especially enthusiastic for members from groups that are not currently served by a region to attend.
Our initial workshop will be held online on Saturday 4th December 2021 from 2pm to 4pm. Following the close of the workshop members are invited to remain and share fellowship and ideas about moving forward together.
We hope to see you at the workshop.
Join us
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If you have any questions – email : hannahinrecovery@gmail.com , shellac777@yahoo.com , or petehcoda@outlook.com
Saturday 30th October 2021
1.45pm for 2pm until 5pm on Zoom
CoDA UK’s North Region Intergroup is trying something new for our next quarterly meeting.
A CoDA member said that a healthy regional group is a “Home Group for Home Groups“.
We would like to explore this concept together in Fellowship.
The meeting is open to all members, including Group Service Representatives (GSRs) and newcomers alike. We are inviting CoDA members from Scotland, Wales, Northern Ireland, Ireland and the North of England and Midlands to join us for an afternoon of fellowship and sharing online on Zoom.
We can raise any concerns, problems or questions from our Home Group, or individually, to share with each other about our experiences of attending a CoDA meeting, Step Groups, Sponsoring/looking for a Sponsor and especially sharing our experiences during the disruptions of the past many months at these most difficult of times.
In this Workshop we can find new opportunities to broaden our Recovery in the Fellowship of CoDA. We can bring news and views from our local meetings that are important to us, where we will be heard in an atmosphere of love, friendship and fellowship and where it will be a safe space to hear or share our Experience, Strength and Hope of CoDA Recovery.
We will be using breakout rooms during the workshop so we can meet and chat with members from other meetings in smaller groups, and then all come back together as a whole group in order to share all the issues and ideas presented: a melting pot of ideas and initiatives to strengthen our CoDA Fellowship and support each other with our own experience, strength and hope carrying us through to our happy road to recovery from codependency and to encourage inclusivity.
The workshop will be held in a relaxed and informal way, following the CoDA Preamble, Welcome, Steps & Traditions, and other CoDA meeting literature.
Some literature it might be useful for groups and members to read together with their Home groups and have in mind when you attend the workshop are:
Building CoDA Community: Healthy Meetings Matter
https://www.codaliterature.co.uk/building-coda-community-healthy-meetings-matter-booklet-23-p.asp
Carrying the Message: Living the Twelfth Step
https://www.codaliterature.co.uk/new-carrying-the-message-living-the-twelfth-step-56-p.asp
Common Threads of Codependency
https://www.codaliterature.co.uk/common-threads-of-codependency-booklet-20-p.asp
Codependency & Recovery – The Differences
Codependency & Recovery – The Differences
Join us on Zoom: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82116364363?pwd=aEk2QkhlMGdsOWNRVUFKbnp3SkNXQT09
ID: 821 1636 4363
Password: 732740
Come and join us in what promises to be an exciting and helpful experience in CoDA Recovery.
All members – newcomers, seasoned CoDA members, GSRs etc – are welcome.
We look forward to seeing you on 30th October!
In gratitude, love, fellowship and service
CoDA North Region Intergroup
Arizona CoDA Events is proud to present our 35th Anniversary Convention. Join us for 3 days of inspiring speakers and amazing workshops!
About this event
We will start the festivities on Friday Night!
Saturday Morning we have a treat for you! All the way from Italy a beautiful CoDA Morning Meditation, followed by speakers and workshops. There will be a fellowship in the evening for all on to connect and share in the beauty of the day.
Saturday will be filled with more inspiring speakers and workshops.
Save the Date and make plans to be there if not for the entire weekend at least for some of it. More details will be coming your way. Please stay tuned in.
Suggested Donation to support our convention is $25.
To join the events remotely via Zoom – click here
Find out more via coda.org
Saturday 9th October 2021
(12 noon – 6pm)
We are looking for CoDA members interested in leading a workshop or being a speaker. Workshops typically are 1 hour to 1½ hours and Speakers 45 min to 1 hour depending on the number of applicants. The theme of the convention is “Celebrating CoDA Community.”
The number of workshops and speakers will be decided once all the applications are received. We have the ability to provide virtual rooms so there can be multiple workshops or speakers going on at the same time.
We also have the ability to use the interpretation feature via Zoom in one of the virtual rooms. If your group would like to offer interpretation of English workshops to your native language, please contact Events with names and emails of Trusted Servants who would like to provide this service work.
If you are interested in hosting a workshop, being a speaker, or assisting in interpretation during the event, email iccworkshops@coda.org
Deadline to return workshop / speaker application and interpretation information is 10th September 2021
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7th August 2021 – NSC meeting
Time: 12:50 for 13.00-17:00
CoDA UK is holding its next business meeting which is open to members from all the national meetings and representatives of regional groups.
Join us online/by phone to discuss national CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed.
The meeting will follow the successful recent format of 10 minutes per agenda item, with 30 second shares from each member before a vote is taken, if one is required. Please note that there may not be enough time in the meeting to go through any written reports in detail so we ask all members to come prepared, having read the reports and agenda items in advance, so that we have time for questions, and sharing and reflection during each agenda item.
If your group or region has an item of business you would like to bring to this meeting, you would like to nominate yourself for a service role, or you’re a member in service who is providing a report to the meeting, please download and complete this form, and email it to secretary@codauk.org by Friday 23rd July, to enable the Chair and Temporary Proposal Secretary to put together the agenda and circulate it in advance of the meeting. Details of the confirmed agenda and papers will appear below on or around 31st July 2021.
How to join the meeting:
The meeting is open to all members, not just GSRs, using the Zoom details below.
Meeting ID: 857 1637 8916
Password: 874688Or dial on one of the numbers below
+44 330 088 5830, +44 131 460 1196 , +44 20 3481 5237,
+44 20 3481 5240, +44 20 8080 6591, +44 20 8080 6592
| Agenda Item | Start Time | End Time |
|---|---|---|
| 1 Welcome, moment’s silence, Preamble, 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, 12 Service Concepts and sharing guidelines. Reminder of 30 second time out with serenity prayer if anyone requests. 20 mins | 1 PM | 1:20 PM |
| 2. Request for a member to take minutes and agreement on how this will be done (see agreed proposals below) 10 mins | 1:20 PM | 1:30 PM |
| 3. Introductions and Feelings check with meetings info from General Service Representatives (GSRs) and AOB requests from any attendee who wishes to have an issue discussed that isn’t on the agenda. 20 mins | 1:30 PM | 1:50 PM |
| 4. Voting entity established and appointment of a spiritual timekeeper 5 mins | 1:50 PM | 1:55 PM |
| 5. Matters arising from 19th June minutes – are there any questions arising from these? 10 mins
2-year service period for service roles 10 mins |
1:55 PM | 2:15 PM |
| 6. Reports and updates from members in service circulated in advance – are there any questions arising from these? 10 mins
a. Sponsorship report |
2:15 PM | 2:25 PM |
| 7. Items raised by the Treasurer
a. Zoom Pro subscription and payment 10 mins |
2:25 PM | 2:45 PM |
| 15-minute break | 2:45 PM | 3 PM |
| 8. Service positions available – discussion and votes
a. Secretary – role description and nomination attached 10 mins b. Literature Secretary – role description and nomination attached 10 mins c. Treasurer – role description attached; nominations required 10 mins d. Signatories on CoDA bank account – discussion required 10 mins e. NSC Sponsorship Rep 10 mins |
3 PM | 3:50 PM |
| 9. To register CoDA UK NSC with HMRC as a small, unregistered charity 10 mins | 3:50 PM | 4 PM |
| 10. Discussion of roles and relationships between the NSC and the LSER/Regions 10 mins | 4 PM | 4:10 PM |
| 11. AOB 35 mins | 4:10 PM | 4:45 PM |
| 12. All to agree actions onscreen so minutes can be circulated straight away 10 mins | 4:45 PM | 4:55 PM |
| 13. Close – Promises and long form Serenity Prayer 5 mins | 4:55 PM | 5 PM |
The following agreed proposals from recent NSC meetings may guide us in our service:
20th March 2021 NSC meeting
Agenda item 1 – That the minutes to NSC meetings be limited to the proposals/ votes only and relevant committee member’s reports detailing business information e.g. Treasurer’s Report/ PI/ Hospitals and Institutions.
The minutes will include ‘dissenting voices’ which will be specifically relayed to the secretary after the vote; the comments will be attributed to the member who made them.
Abstain – 0
Against – 0
In favour – 15 – motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting
Agenda item 15 – For this and the next NSC meeting we go with a majority vote i.e. the total of the in-favour votes is greater than the sum of the against and abstentions. The total of the votes is based on how many people are in the meeting and eligible to vote. Abstentions are made as members don’t have the confidence to make a yes or no decision
so need to be accounted for.
Abstain – 1
Against – 0
In favour – 9 Motion carried
5th December 2020 NSC meeting – Agenda item 7
Propose that when discussions diverge away from the agenda item, the Chairman can clarify with the sharer the new discussion point and raise it as an independent AOB item added to the end of the meeting or a sub-
committee to discuss the item and report back to the NSC.
Abstain – 2
Against – 0
In favour – 8 – motion carried
The North region includes north Wales, northern England, Scotland and Northern Ireland. There are quarterly regional meetings, usually held in Manchester but being held online for the foreseeable future. The meeting normally takes the format of a service meeting in the morning, and an open CoDA meeting in the afternoon.
The next CoDA North Region meeting will be held on:
Saturday 24th July 2021
Times: 10.15 for 10.30am-13.00pm and 2.00pm-3.30pm
Morning 10.30-13.00:
CoDA North is holding our quarterly business meeting which is open to members from all the North region meetings (which include Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland).
Join us online/by phone to discuss our region’s CoDA business and share news from your groups. Group Service Representatives (GSRs) are able to vote on any motions proposed but all members are welcome to attend.
If you have any business your group would like to be discussed at the morning meeting, please mention it when you email for the password so that we can put it on the agenda. If possible, the agenda will be circulated in advance to all those registered.
Afternoon Morning 2.00-3.30:
Join us for an open CoDA sharing meeting with fellows from around the North region. This will be run along the lines of a normal CoDA meeting.
NOTE: Meeting Password:
For the safety of the group, you will need a password to join this meeting. Please email northregion@codauk.org to obtain the password any time before the meeting and state which group you attend most regularly. We will monitor the email inbox regularly and respond with the password before 10am on the day of the meeting.
We may not be able to check this account once the morning meeting has begun, so please register your intent to attend the afternoon meeting before 10am.
Join Zoom Meeting online: https://zoom.us/j/93283885330?pwd=ZG9RZTA4KzRIejZwTVdMaDdwbHBodz09
Meeting ID: 932 8388 5330
Or dial in on one of the numbers below using the above meeting ID and the password:
- +44 330 088 5830
- +44 131 460 1196
- +44 20 3481 5237
- +44 20 3481 5240
- +44 20 8080 6591
- +44 20 8080 6592
All CoDA members are welcome.
Not able to attend?
Please email northregion@codauk.org with any business or reports from meetings in the North which are not going to be represented in person on the day.
CoDA North Intergroup Contributions
If your group would to like to send a 7th Tradition intergroup contribution to the regional group, please email northregion@codauk.org to request the bank details.
NOTE: This email address is not monitored daily so please be patient to receive a response.
Keep in touch…
If you or your group would like to be kept in touch about the quarterly intergroup meetings, please email northregion@codauk.org with your name, which meeting you represent, and whether you are the Group Service Rep (GSR) or just a member.
In the email please state that you opt in for CoDA North Intergroup to hold your details (name, email address and service position if applicable) in a list for the purpose of sending out dates, agenda and minutes of CoDA North Intergroup meetings, and other announcements. You can unsubscribe at any time by sending an email with ‘REMOVE’ in the subject line.